You will not lose God's love. We are sinful beings, and His grace is sufficient. Urges continue for us, regardless of what we struggle with. The question is what do we do when we do have these urges to act upon them? Do you have any kind of plan for distraction such as prayer, moving away from the room you are currently in or going outside into a public setting? Do you find you are able to redirect your thoughts, or do you focus on them to continue the urges? Just asking, as these are some of the questions I've struggled with when trying to change my urges.
Praise the Lord everyone! Well this has been my first week. I'm so pleased to report that God is teaching me to walk in freedom in a way very different than before.
Kristen.Newcreation, what I've learned and applied so far is this: 1) there is great power in public confession and accountability ladies. Don't let fear hold you back from receiving the gifts and strength that God delivers to you when you shed light on the things that are dark in your life.
2) My hardest challenge is bed time. Often I don't have the luxury of leaving the room or doing another activity as I may only have a few precious hours before I have to deal with the coming day. Hence why its been easy in the past for me to justify masturbating. That said, God has made very clear to me that my sleep time and the sleep chamber that He in his goodness has provided, is a special place and time for uninhibited communication and interaction with Him. He showed me that I've been desecrating this place with my sin, cutting off contact and help from Him, and allowing myself to be used to empower demonic power and oppression over me in my life; which inturn has blocked my breakthrough. Once I understood that this act of momentary pleasure was a trick to use me to keep myself in bondage ... it's been a different game!
Now when I enter my bedroom, I recognize it as a place to meet God. I pray over it, submit the room, the bed and myself to God as this is a place to meet Him. Now, I look so forward to going to bed ... in expectation of getting to spend uninterrupted time with God. It's become and is becoming a sacred place in my mind and heart.
Had a strong attack last night ... but because of this new nunderstanding and increased spiritual strength gained as I've been focused on God and not myself in bed, I found that for the first time although my body wanted the usual order, my mind and heart empowered by the Holy Spirit was able to recognize what was going on, allowing me to cry out to God KNOWING that if I continued to do so God would remove the attack .... and He did Saints!!! I've never experienced such strength and faith under an attack before ... now that I know that's possible I can't wait for the next battle to see what God does.
2) Other than the above, I abstain from watching, listening or reading anything involving romantic or sexual content, ecspecially close to bed time.
3) As I'm seeing someone I abstain from too much interaction with him outside of the times we arrange to meet. I also am not physical with him ... aside from hugging or nudging or being in close proximity with him. It helps us both maintain a healthy level of intimacy so we can really get to know each other as friends and not jump the gun into the physical which would trigger me. It also helps us both honor our committmets of celibacy until marriage to God. Additionally, it helps to keep my mind on things other than 'relationship', which also helps to discourage obsession and tendencies to fantasize.
Q: What recommendations do you guys have when a relationship is getting serious that have been helpful to you?
Be blessed, encouraged and don't give up!!