Female Accountability Thread

[Lily76_]

i have no longer have sexual feeling for my husband or anyone else and i dont know why that is
there are times where we will try but i feel no attraction to anyone or anything i hate myself because i love my husband very much ...i just see him as my best friend and everyone else is my friend am very child like sometimes and i want my friends be with me all the time and get hugs just dont think i can have sex yet i want to dress as a man and be married to more people

 

[Soccerbeth]

I have been doing really well lately. I was making some good strides in therapy and have had some really good weeks lately. I had some really triggering events happen last night. This morning I woke up and I just couldn't get out of bed. It took almost two hours for me to muster up the strength to get out of bed. This afternoon, I found myself looking at inappropriate contentography for a long time. And now I'm hating myself for it all.

 

[straightcurvylines]

I made a new dedication of my body and sexuality to God. My past has been so damaging to my soul that I feel as if God has given up on me. I don't want to feel this emptiness any longer. God and my future spouse deserve my purity, and I will do my best to address this issue in my heart.

 

[Brightmoon]

I made a new dedication of my body and sexuality to God. My past has been so damaging to my soul that I feel as if God has given up on me. I don't want to feel this emptiness any longer. God and my future spouse deserve my purity, and I will do my best to address this issue in my heart.

purity means that you think that you’re dirty. You either made unwise choices in the past or had others unwise decisions foisted upon you! you’re not dirty . I object to that kind of thinking because it’s it’s insulting and usually misogynistic to boot . You changed so that you now make better decisions about relationships or you got away from an abuser. Either way , you’re not dirty so you don’t need to be pure (whatever that means)

 

[littleangelone]

I just recently stopped masterbateing but the problem is I want to start again so I pray hard that God will take away those sexual urges, I need accountability, also is it wrong to fantasize about your future Christian husband like wanting to be close to his muscular chest & broad shoulders??? and kissing him because I grab my pillow & cuddle with it every night thinking it's my future Christian husband

 

[Brightmoon]

Feeling those urges is normal . I’m sorry it upsets you.

 

[straightcurvylines]

purity means that you think that you’re dirty. You either made unwise choices in the past or had others unwise decisions foisted upon you! you’re not dirty . I object to that kind of thinking because it’s it’s insulting and usually misogynistic to boot . You changed so that you now make better decisions about relationships or you got away from an abuser. Either way , you’re not dirty so you don’t need to be pure (whatever that means)

inappropriate touch outside of marriage is a sin, and it takes away parts of my soul that can never be restored. I think it's humbling to take responsibility for those things which make me less than whole. God knows my heart, and it comes from a place of conviction not condemnation.

 

[littleangelone]

Brightmoon it sort of upsets me but not much that's why I pray

 

[Brightmoon]

Taking responsibility for your sexuality means that you stop dumping on yourself for past poor decisions too . That isn’t helpful behavior and could cause you to start doing the toxic stuff again out of misplaced guilt or shame

 

[littleangelone]

Taking responsibility for your sexuality means that you stop dumping on yourself for past poor decisions too . That isn’t helpful behavior and could cause you to start doing the toxic stuff again out of misplaced guilt or shame

brightmoon what you said is sooo true I have been had a lot of guilt about it, that's why I need a lot of prayer & accountbility

 

[straightcurvylines]

Taking responsibility for your sexuality means that you stop dumping on yourself for past poor decisions too . That isn’t helpful behavior and could cause you to start doing the toxic stuff again out of misplaced guilt or shame

What do you mean by misplaced guilt or shame?

 

[Brightmoon]

Worrying about if God still loves you to the point that you become self hating . Feeling so guilty or ashamed about what you did that you sabotage your health or your safety to relieve the feelings. Oh stay away from people who try to make you feel like that too. Some people are very manipulative and this includes some religious leaders or other authority figures

 

[littleangelone]

good point brightmoon, some religious leaders can make you feel gulity

 

[Soccerbeth]

So it's been over a week now since I have compulsively masturbated. This may not sound like much, but it has been years for me since I could say this. Even still, this is a huge temptation for me today. I'm really trying to keep momentum with this victory, but I'm being visually triggered today in a lot of ways. Anyway, just posting here in the hopes that the accountability might help.

 

[Daniela77]

Hello everybody, I'm new to this forum and I just found this accountability thread. I'm in my 40s and I've been struggling with masturbation for a long time, and more recently also with inappropriate content. Just this morning, I gave in to the temptation again to touch to soft inappropriate content. I feel so ashamed and defiled, and I would really like to stop this vice, but I don't know how. The fact that I'm still single at this age is really hard for me, as I'm longing so much for sexual fulfillment. Anybody here can relate?

 

[salt-n-light]

Hello everybody, I'm new to this forum and I just found this accountability thread. I'm in my 40s and I've been struggling with masturbation for a long time, and more recently also with inappropriate content. Just this morning, I gave in to the temptation again to touch to soft inappropriate content. I feel so ashamed and defiled, and I would really like to stop this vice, but I don't know how. The fact that I'm still single at this age is really hard for me, as I'm longing so much for sexual fulfillment. Anybody here can relate?

I can relate! You have to break patterns by replacing it with a new one. And ask God for the strength and guidance to get there. That's how ive overcome.

1.Be honest of where you're at with the inappropriate content. Is it an addiction at this point?
2. Put a structured game plan in place on how to replace it (etc. I will not use the laptop at night, blockers in place, refrain from certain activities or people, etc),and ask God for wisdom. Identify your triggers. Is it the fact that you're single? Why inappropriate content and not other things that give a positive stimuli, like food, or music. Do you actually need sex, or is it marriage and partnership you seek? If you're seeking to have sex without the committed why is that? Things to ask questions to yourself about.
3. Be consistent in the plan. Put scriptures in place to remind you of God's promises, and remind yourself why you are ridding yourself of masturbating. It have to be a strong enough why, and sadly from some not even the threat of potentially damning their souls are strong enough for people to stop what they are doing. If you truly want to better your relationship with God, if you want to honor the temple that God gave you, let that be your driving force. Honor Him in all that you do.

 

[bèlla]

So it's been over a week now since I have compulsively masturbated. This may not sound like much, but it has been years for me since I could say this. Even still, this is a huge temptation for me today. I'm really trying to keep momentum with this victory, but I'm being visually triggered today in a lot of ways. Anyway, just posting here in the hopes that the accountability might help.

Well done! Every gain helps. How are you holding up?

 

[Soccerbeth]

Well done! Every gain helps. How are you holding up?

Thank you. Unfortunately, I have stumbled several times over the past month. Visual triggers are very difficult for me to overcome. And with summer here, there are a lot of triggers. I'm really struggling, even writing this today in this coffee shop.

 

[bèlla]

Thank you. Unfortunately, I have stumbled several times over the past month. Visual triggers are very difficult for me to overcome. And with summer here, there are a lot of triggers. I'm really struggling, even writing this today in this coffee shop.

No one walks without a tumble or ten. Place your attention on the ground you’ve. You’ll have more in time.

I will give your visual triggers some thought and see if the Lord gives me anything on your behalf. If He does I’ll post it.

 

[Soccerbeth]

No one walks without a tumble or ten. Place your attention on the ground you’ve. You’ll have more in time.

I will give your visual triggers some thought and see if the Lord gives me anything on your behalf. If He does I’ll post it.

You're right. Every victory matters, and I know I will have more. I did well this week, not so well this afternoon and this evening. I'd love for this forum to be better for accountability and interaction, but it seems like people post very infrequently. I thought about posting here earlier, but figured nobody would see it and pray for me or hold me accountable until it was too late.