Hi there ,
I just stumbled accross this site and barely know my way around. But I am desperate for some biblical advice from non-bias brothers and sisters.. So appreciate you reading x I'm sorry if this is a little long..
I am humbly praying for a sister in Christ who has left me feeling completely broken and unconfident about continueing in the Ministry which we both share. I have tried to ignore the feelings of exclusion and very competative remarks that have come from this sister. It has been hurting me so much over the past 18 months that I have sought out-side councelling as I have not wanted to cause any trouble within our church family. But now that we are on the same childrens ministry team it has become a serious issue that I can no longer ignore.
A new pastor has arrived at our church and as his wife is also on the same ministry team. She has unfortuately seen that there are issues between us. As I feel completely intimidated by this person I have felt unable to confront her in person and after months of putting it off I wrote her a letter on Tuesday. A less intense one on Wednesday. Prayed about it on Thursday and then wrote a final one on Friday. I called her and said that i had been struggling and that I had written her a letter and asked if it would be ok to put it in her letter box. I didn't want her to be suprised by it completely coming out of the blue. I left a lot of trivial things out of the letter but let her know that I was feeling really hurt by some pretty nasty things that have gone on - Which all started when I was barely even introduced to her.
She did not say anything to me at church but when I was leaving her young son said something quite odd to me.. So I thought it best to call her later on and offer to get together if she would like to talk. Her husband answered and said she was busy.. So I left a message saying that if she would like to get together I would be free the next few nights.
I feel that I have done everything I can to resolve things. And now need to take a step back.. The pastors wife is aware that I have given a letter and an offer to talk. The Pastors wife and I run the childrens ministry on a Tuesday and this sister runs the Wednesday Group - Some asspects of the ministry though are done as a team (though this person does try to exclude me from alot of the runnings when I am also available and willing to serve).
I am not feeling very confident about serving this week with everything that is going on.. and am considering saying to the PW that I may need to have this week off - Although I have prepared birthday cakes and things for some mums who attend and it wouldn't be so nice to miss out - But perhaps it is the best thing for me to do?? What would you do in this situation? I just dont see how I can work with this person anymore when she has made no attempt to resolve things after I have approached her.. Its not like we share the same ministry day but we are on the same team..
Thank you so much for reading.. I would appreciate any replys.
With love in Christ,
Ames x
I just stumbled accross this site and barely know my way around. But I am desperate for some biblical advice from non-bias brothers and sisters.. So appreciate you reading x I'm sorry if this is a little long..
I am humbly praying for a sister in Christ who has left me feeling completely broken and unconfident about continueing in the Ministry which we both share. I have tried to ignore the feelings of exclusion and very competative remarks that have come from this sister. It has been hurting me so much over the past 18 months that I have sought out-side councelling as I have not wanted to cause any trouble within our church family. But now that we are on the same childrens ministry team it has become a serious issue that I can no longer ignore.
A new pastor has arrived at our church and as his wife is also on the same ministry team. She has unfortuately seen that there are issues between us. As I feel completely intimidated by this person I have felt unable to confront her in person and after months of putting it off I wrote her a letter on Tuesday. A less intense one on Wednesday. Prayed about it on Thursday and then wrote a final one on Friday. I called her and said that i had been struggling and that I had written her a letter and asked if it would be ok to put it in her letter box. I didn't want her to be suprised by it completely coming out of the blue. I left a lot of trivial things out of the letter but let her know that I was feeling really hurt by some pretty nasty things that have gone on - Which all started when I was barely even introduced to her.
She did not say anything to me at church but when I was leaving her young son said something quite odd to me.. So I thought it best to call her later on and offer to get together if she would like to talk. Her husband answered and said she was busy.. So I left a message saying that if she would like to get together I would be free the next few nights.
I feel that I have done everything I can to resolve things. And now need to take a step back.. The pastors wife is aware that I have given a letter and an offer to talk. The Pastors wife and I run the childrens ministry on a Tuesday and this sister runs the Wednesday Group - Some asspects of the ministry though are done as a team (though this person does try to exclude me from alot of the runnings when I am also available and willing to serve).
I am not feeling very confident about serving this week with everything that is going on.. and am considering saying to the PW that I may need to have this week off - Although I have prepared birthday cakes and things for some mums who attend and it wouldn't be so nice to miss out - But perhaps it is the best thing for me to do?? What would you do in this situation? I just dont see how I can work with this person anymore when she has made no attempt to resolve things after I have approached her.. Its not like we share the same ministry day but we are on the same team..
Thank you so much for reading.. I would appreciate any replys.
With love in Christ,
Ames x