Gave up!
Trinity I beg your forgiveness, I had forgotten that you were the one who had undergone that horrid ordeal with your wife, I had in fact forgotten about that incident and thought you were just someone whining because things didn't go his way....
please forgive me sir, had I recalled everything, I would never have been so cold as to post the sarcasm....
In your shoes, I would fight for the removal from office of this guy, and it may be a good thing you don't get the office of Associate Pastor yet.... until this fight is over, then if he is gone, you can seek it,
But, if he stays, then I wouldn't force my wife to keep being in his presence as I'm sure she'll be living with the pain of that encounter for a time to come yet.... and it may be God's way of keeping the two of you from greater pains right now....
just trust our Sovereign God that He knows best, for He is Omniscient after all...
That's fine. No hard feelings! This has been the toughest 2-3 weeks ever in my life and I probably did sound whingey!
Just please pray that this guy is removed from his position- or better still be praying that he stands down on his own accord, that would at least show some remorse and a repentant heart for what happened.
The pastor and the other elders are meeting tonight to discuss the matter. I do still have a bad feeling that he will not lose his position. If he does not I cannot and will not stay at this church as it will cause my wife even more pain to see him still and especially in a leadership position.
I pray God will, in His sovereign power cause the right outcome.
I have also come to the conclusion in prayer and seeking God's direction not to apply for the associate pastor vacancy at our church. I am ok with that decision considering all that has happened.
The elder's meeting did not take place last week but will be this Wed night. Apparently the 'evil elder' will be addressing the other elders. I am praying this will be where he stands down and does not try to justify what he did. The 'evil elder' did not talk to me on Sunday morning or even at my youngest girl's baptism at the beach. He has not even gone near my wife at all - that is a great thing. This is hard because he,his wife and us were close friends but now things have changed that. If he is not standing down or is not told to at this meeting I will be airing my feelings to the pastor and he will then see a different side to meek and mild me.
PLEASE be praying for the outcome of this meeting on Wed. night. We need all the prayer support possible. To make sure that this never happens again!! Thanks
Thank you for this update. I am continuing to pray for you and your wife, and for the situation to be quickly and completely resolved in such a manner that God will be glorified and that this manifestation of evil in your church will be brought to naught.AN UPDATE..........The pastor came and saw my wife and I yesterday morning to talk about the upcoming elder's meeting last night. He said that the elder involved would 'fess up' at the meeting and more than likely stand down on his own accord. This made me a little more optimistic as I had been a little anxious as to what might occur. The pastor proposed 3 possible outcomes (they all had the elder standing down - it should happen by the sounds of that!) and asked us separately what we wanted to see happen to the elder - not promising that what we wanted would happen but so we could have a say or a voice in the situation. My wife said he should not be able to preach or worship lead anymore and hands and lips off of all women and girls!!! I said no eldership, no ministry at all as what happened was a breach of ethics in a ministry situation. He has a history of no self-control where women are concerned!
From what the pastor tells me today is that he has given the other elders a few days to process the details and he is awaiting their thoughts on this (as to how far the discipline will go and what ministries will be stripped from the guy). He did not tell me if the 'evil elder' stood down or not! I guess we will find out soon enough.
Please continue your prayers on this issue as it is not over yet. I appreciate greatly your prayers and thank those of you who are bringing this before God. Bless you!