Does CAsh Matter?

[Keri]

Riches don't matter in my opinion. I could care less what's in his bank account. What matters is what's in his heart.

And living "confortable" varies from person to person. One person could be comfortable in an apartment and another could be comfortable in house. I really think it's an individual choice. For me, I'm going to school to be a Psych Tech and I graduate in 2 weeks and then the pay gets bumped up to $3500/month without overtimes. The thing is, I'm not doing it for the money. I want to go back to school but having this job is a great thing to have just in case I stay single for a while.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

He doesn't need to make as much as me hourly, but between the two of us we need to be able to live in a safe area and not be living paycheck to paycheck. We need to be able to put some away in savings. I'm going to be part-time for probably at least 3 years, more if I have more kids.

Most important for me is that he has a good work ethic, tithes and is responsible with what he has.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I wish I would've read this thread before I got my gold teeth and those spinnin rims.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I wish I would've read this thread before I got my gold teeth and those spinnin rims.

man you crack me up!



Do guys not find it a bonus when a women has a decent job and is responsible with her money? I mean some peopel ( my friends) have never had a job and have had everything given to them.. no worries about money..

For the record I do go to school for the money I will make/do make to ensure I/ and my children have a comfortable future.

Money does matter plain and simple.Not in that every girl is looking for a surgar Daddy.

 

[Keri]

You're a dork Ian.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Do guys not find it a bonus when a women has a decent job and is responsible with her money?

It's a big plus for me.

If a girl I meet has any real knowledge of the stock market I'm in love.

 

[indra_fanatic]

I'd be lying if I said "oh it doesn't matter because love is all we need..."

Is that placing all of your trust in God first and foremost?

BTW, I hate that kind of mentality becasue let be realistic is love gonna pay the mortgage, food, clothes, and other expenses...I think it's key

So you are placing material needs over all other things? What would happen if your powerful exec dude is the victim of a crippling workplace injury and must subsist on disability payments for the rest of his life? Would you leave him?

if you look at stats you see finances as the 2nd highest reason for a divorce

Surely you are not justifying divorce...

money totally matters but also the ability to manage it does...

With all due respect, this attitude is kind of unscriptural. Does the man belong to Christ? Is he capable of taking care of himself? Is he not engaging in reckless or inappropriate spending?

If the above are all true, everything else is up to God. You may never get that Cadillac, three-story house, Olympic-sized pool, etc., but then again I don't see a reason why any of us should want those things to begin with.

 

[indra_fanatic]

Riches don't matter in my opinion. I could care less what's in his bank account. What matters is what's in his heart.

And living "confortable" varies from person to person. One person could be comfortable in an apartment and another could be comfortable in house. I really think it's an individual choice. For me, I'm going to school to be a Psych Tech and I graduate in 2 weeks and then the pay gets bumped up to $3500/month without overtimes. The thing is, I'm not doing it for the money. I want to go back to school but having this job is a great thing to have just in case I stay single for a while.

Great attitude IMHO, but let me be that annoying devil's advocate and ask what your position on dating a man in severe debt (let's say over 20k) would be...

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Is that placing all of your trust in God first and foremost?


So you are placing material needs over all other things? What would happen if your powerful exec dude is the victim of a crippling workplace injury and must subsist on disability payments for the rest of his life? Would you leave him?


Surely you are not justifying divorce...


With all due respect, this attitude is kind of unscriptural. Does the man belong to Christ? Is he capable of taking care of himself? Is he engaging in reckless or inappropriate spending?

If the above are all true, everything else is up to God. You may never get that Cadillac, three-story house, Olympic-sized pool, etc., but then again I don't see a reason why any of us should want those things to begin with.

twist of the year*!!!

(*including last year)

 

[knownbeforetime]

I don't money matters but masses amount of debt might be a problem...

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Is that placing all of your trust in God first and foremost?


So you are placing material needs over all other things? What would happen if your powerful exec dude is the victim of a crippling workplace injury and must subsist on disability payments for the rest of his life? Would you leave him?


Surely you are not justifying divorce...


With all due respect, this attitude is kind of unscriptural. Does the man belong to Christ? Is he capable of taking care of himself? Is he not engaging in reckless or inappropriate spending?

If the above are all true, everything else is up to God. You may never get that Cadillac, three-story house, Olympic-sized pool, etc., but then again I don't see a reason why any of us should want those things to begin with.

Wow-- I thought she was being pretty honest and true--

My question is why chew on her and not the rest of us who said exact same thing..

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

My question is why chew on her and not the rest of us who said exact same thing..

same reason boys push girls down on the playground?

 

[~HopeFloats~]

same reason boys push girls down on the playground?

I am totally hijacking this but....

Why do boys do that anyhow?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I am totally hijacking this but....

Why do boys do that anyhow?

don't know dude.

[pushes BlessedJourney down]

 

[JPPT1974]

Debt is the problem
I know from first-hand experience
Due to credit cards!

 

[~HopeFloats~]

don't know dude.

[pushes BlessedJourney down]

Didn't anyone ever tell ya one day the girl will knock ya back down when you least expect it?

 

[Niels]

All I ask is that we have a similar outlook. Some people want to live simply, while others prefer to live a life of excess. When the two opposites marry, trouble ensues. I believe that is the source of the financial problems that disrupt marriages.


Which reminds me of the song "O Happy We" in Leonard Bernstein's Candide, an operetta based on Voltaire's work of the same name.

.... this is just a sample ....

CUNEGONDE:
We'll round the world enjoying high life;
All will be pink champagne and gold.

CANDIDE:
We'll lead a rustic and a shy life,
Feeding the pigs and sweetly growing old.

CUNEGONDE:
Breast of peacock.

CANDIDE:
Apple pie.

CUNEGONDE:
I love marriage.

CANDIDE:
So do I.

 

[Keri]

Great attitude IMHO, but let me be that annoying devil's advocate and ask what your position on dating a man in severe debt (let's say over 20k) would be...

First I'm clueless to what IMHO means. Second, like I said, it's not about money. The question would be is he doing anything to further a career to get himself out of debt?

I'm in a little debt myself, but I used the credit card because I knew that I was going to have a good job and be able to pay it off in the near future.

 

[knownbeforetime]

All I ask is that we have a similar outlook. Some people want to live simply, while others prefer to live a life of excess. When the two opposites marry, trouble ensues. I believe that is the source of the financial problems that disrupt marriages.


Which reminds me of the song "O Happy We" in Leonard Bernstein's Candide, an operetta based on Voltaire's work of the same name.

.... this is just a sample ....

CUNEGONDE:
We'll round the world enjoying high life;
All will be pink champagne and gold.

CANDIDE:
We'll lead a rustic and a shy life,
Feeding the pigs and sweetly growing old.

CUNEGONDE:
Breast of peacock.

CANDIDE:
Apple pie.

CUNEGONDE:
I love marriage.

CANDIDE:
So do I.

Why did Green Acres just pop into my mind?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

First I'm clueless to what IMHO means.

IMHO = In My Humble Opinion