Do you have scripture for this please, and how does that work, would you please explain this, thank you.
1 John 4: 8
God is love. As I explain to Muslims with whom I dialogue, it is not that "God loves," but that God IS love. If a person loves, he can choose to stop loving any time he wishes. But the fact that God IS love means that He can do nothing else but love. That is His ontological state, the very thing that He is. He can no more stop loving His Creation than water can stop being wet.
As for the wicked, because their ontological state is one of desiring evil, because they have other things which are more important to them than God, they will find His presence to be tormenting. Have you ever been at a party and been introduced to someone who turns out to not only be a dreadful bore, but will not let you go? Terrible, isn't it? You keep praying for someone to come and rescue you from the presence of this chap whose half-crazed ramblings are driving you nuts. You excuse yourself to "go to the bathroom" and this guy finds you again and keeps going. It is madness and you want to be impolite and bolt for the door.
Now multiply this a million times a trillion times infinity and you get a small sense of it. The sinner wants his sin. The fornicator is looking for lust. The greedy for money. The self-important want glory. What no one wants as a sinner is to give all their very being to God, to give themselves fully to be immersed in Him. The sinner is the center of his little universe, and no one else should take that place. He, in fact, I would surmise, actually wants what the devil wants - to be the King of the Universe, the center of attention, to be honored and worshipped in all things. It is simply contrary to his deepest desires that anyone else but he should be the center of attention. Surely you have seen this in raw form in tiny children who are absolute brats?
There is no Scripture that specifically says this, but God does tell us to use our reason in coming to understand Him and His world as best we can in our limited understanding.
I hope that helps a little. The question for me is this: can the sinner be cured of this in the next life (our sin is a sickness in the East, not a legal question of guilt) or is it permanent? It is not that God ever stops being love, it is whether or not that love can be responded to in the next life by those who have rejected it in this life - which of course gets into all kinds of interesting questions of motive, the condition of one's heart, whether or not one really heard the Gospel or heard some Fundamentalist mashup of it that has nothing to do with the Gospel, and on and on and on......
Ultimately, as I think of it, it has to come down to our own ontology. Is there a point in our ontological being in which we so harden ourselves that no matter how much love we are given by God, it just burns more fiercely and torments us more? That is why sin is a dreadful thing we should run from.