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I'd like to start a discussion on how we make decisions. Some people decide based on facts alone. Others decide based on how they feel. Still others decide by weighing the feelings of others higher than their own. I'm sure there are other ways that people decide on something, and for most of us it's probably a mixture of methods.
What is puzzling to me lately is the fact that there are folks who maintain that the way *they* decide is the only "right" way. Is there one right way to decide something? If so, who/what determines what this way is? Or is there one right way per individual?
Lots of questions, but I don't have answers. Any takers?
I don't think people who self-assert their moral views as the only correct one would say that they decide the right and wrong so much as *know* the right one. Big difference, and what this psychologically comes down to is a person has reached the limitation of his knowledge and reasoning for any situation and implicitly says, "well, can't go no further, so where I finish is the best there is," and generalizes this to all other people. It's really egocentric, yeah.
To me decision making isn't so much about facts, reasons, and feelings, but the knowledge of what's right (based on reasoning and knowledge/facts) in conflict with how we feel. We decide in proportion to how much we're able to transcend our immediate desires. I know studying is a good thing, but my feelings are such that I *want* to watch Breaking Bad. My decision is all about pushing through my immediate inclinations (what the New Testament refers to nicely as "the flesh") in doing the right thing. This is the only reasonable explanation of free will or decision-making I know.
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