If you just put up with abuse, you’re not honoring your parent. Instead, it could be that you are being an enabler.
If your mother told you to jump off of the roof, you wouldn’t think you had to do that in order to honor her. So why do you have to put up with other abusive things? There is a way to disengage gracefully.
You might want to check out some videos on narcissism, if you have them done so already. See the ones on Gray rock. Videos by Dr. Les Carter and Dr. Ramani have been very helpful to many. The comments may also give some real support and understanding.
I pray you’ll be led to freedom from abuse.
I will add one other thing that is my special concern about narcissistic people. I have heard one person diagnosed with narcissism personality disorder saying that in secret he would torment animals.
I have also seen posts under videos about narcissism - which also runs in my family - where people have talked about instances where they knew narcissists were abusing pets.
And since they wear a mask, they may actually present themselves as being great animal lovers. So, I’m just saying, Maybe be aware of that issue too.