Our family is frantically packing for Thanksgiving travel to my in-laws. Last-minute, as always. I'm trying to coordinate outfits for the family photo and, lo and behold, DD15 has paired a crochet skirt with a crop top. The skirt does not reach the sweater and leaves a couple inches of her tummy exposed.
We allowed DD to get her belly button pierced back in April as a reward for her induction into the National Honor Society. Her school has a uniform policy so DH and I have been rather lenient about letting her "show off" the belly ring on her own time.
Family gatherings, I'm not so sure about. Relatives have made known to me their opinions regarding our girls' belly piercings. DD18 has already agreed to remove her nose hoop and conceal her tattoos until she goes back to school next week.
DH and I are socially progressive within our family and community which has rubbed off on our kids. And I am all about picking my battles as a parent.
When I talked to DD15 about her visible belly ring, she rolled her eyes with a coy grin and said with snark, "That's the style, Mom!" She is a fantastic kid; straight-A student, involved with a bunch of extracurriculars, volunteers, and is the sweetest, most loving and considerate daughter I ever could ask for from God. She never gives us an ounce of any real trouble.
Is this issue worth putting my foot down? Belly rings have become a standard form of self-expression for teenage girls. DD knows better than to wear one of her gaudy, obnoxiously long, dangly rings like she does to the beach. She's currently wearing the same simple, jeweled barbell as when she goes to the mall with her friends.
Is that tasteful enough to be memorialized forever in our family photo albums?
Thanks for your perspectives!