Dating A Divorced Man???

[Reborn Again]

Reborn....

Mine wanted me to be the housewife and raise the kids....because you are young he is going to take advantage of that and change your thinking.

Mine did all those things.

Trust me...even I could get into modeling BUT I refuse too, because it's not my thing. You're a beautiful woman...but God has something more beautiful for you....a bright future that is waiting for you to discover when you're ready to let this man go.

I'm trying to help/save your from heartbreak BUT we all have free will. Continue going down this path and you'll suffer more than you are now.

well that is why I am so stuck. His kids are grown and he wants to start another family in the future. I am young, but so ambitious, and modeling, health and beauty really bring me to life. I can be that model that is christian and not like every other model out there. I just want o be 22 right now. I want to have love, attention and affection, but hardly get that now because we are apart. I just want God's help. At first he helped me so mch and still does, but this fork in the road has got me bent

 

[Reborn Again]

Just to clarify further,

Those people who believe and do the following are those who are accepted into Heaven and are therefore saved from Hell:

a) Believe Jesus is the son of God and believe he died for our sins
b) Repent for the sins they have committed and change their ways
c) Pray and ask God to send the Holy Spirit to come and live in them that they may come into the full knowledge of the truth

People who refuse to believe that Jesus is the son of God and do not believe he died for their sins will end up in Hell.

I have many relatives who do not believe in what Jesus has done, they will end up in Hell for rejecting him.

I have to go to bed now it's really late.

Good night. thanks for helping out so much

 

[+RubiesFire+]

Then be the spoon and dig yourself out now! And don't be the fork! Run as fast as you can!

All these things that this man has told you...mine said the same! And I was stupid to believe him, I had no one to help me out BUT God warning me to stay away!

You're 22...you got many, many years ahead of you! IF his touch is not here now...it will not be in the future.

This is how God works...is by showing you!

Mine was never there for me, and I barely saw him! And in the end I got hurt.

In five years...you'll regret ever getting involved because with age comes wisdom we learn from! And not this man's wisdom he is trying to teach you.

 

[Reborn Again]

Well, if he was still lost , that would explain it. Sometimes God uses things like that to bless us. like turning out mistakes in to blessings. he has done it for me tons.

 

[+RubiesFire+]

You can be this man's friend but not his girlfriend....even God can use you as that.

 

[Reborn Again]

That makes since. He puts his work first and it is hard to deal with at times, but I do worry at times that we will not be together. I try and have faith and know that the impossible is possible with God, but I just want to be patient and have been very understanding and caring

 

[Reborn Again]

It is hard to be in a relationship with some one and then just go to friends

I am young,...i don't know right now. I feel like if I get past it we could be okay in the future.

 

[Reborn Again]

I know things could be bad, but they can also be good. being optimistic is a positive way to look at things. I just do not want to give up on some one. I have been in ad realtionships in the past. I dated some one in the music business and that is enough said, they broke me and played me and I didn't date for ever.

 

[+RubiesFire+]

When I was your age...I was attracted to different men. When I got older...my taste in men has changed.

It will happen to you! The older we get...our taste does change. This is why I am trying to help you....you are going down my old path that has nothing but empty promises, tears, anger, pain....

Mine put his work first....well, we got far didn't we?

Nope. I am alone and I am VERY happy! I kept putting my Faith in God...and he kept telling me no, I forced my own "Yes" on my life.

I played with the fire and I got burned....be careful, your routing my old path!

 

[miss-a]

Hi,

I didn't have time to read all the responses you got, so if I'm repeating what's already been said, please forgive me. But in your original post I hear multiple times that you don't have peace about this relationship. You should be able to ask questions, as many as you want. If you're walking on eggshells, that's not from God. So whatever you do, do it slowly. Take your time and make sure you are hearing from God. The fruit of the Spirit is "love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, faithfulness and self- control." Your post did not represent the relationship with these characteristics, so I'm concerned for you. For those of us with marriage in our futures, God has something great and life-giving. We don't have to settle for less than God's best. So I think the question you, and I and all us singles, need to ask ourselves is, "Do I believe this is God's best for me." And we need to ask God the same question. "Father, is this what You want for me?"

I'll be praying for you. Blessings, A

 

[Reborn Again]

Hi,

I didn't have time to read all the responses you got, so if I'm repeating what's already been said, please forgive me. But in your original post I hear multiple times that you don't have peace about this relationship. You should be able to ask questions, as many as you want. If you're walking on eggshells, that's not from God. So whatever you do, do it slowly. Take your time and make sure you are hearing from God. The fruit of the Spirit is "love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, faithfulness and self- control." Your post did not represent the relationship with these characteristics, so I'm concerned for you. For those of us with marriage in our futures, God has something great and life-giving. We don't have to settle for less than God's best. So I think the question you, and I and all us singles, need to ask ourselves is, "Do I believe this is God's best for me." And we need to ask God the same question. "Father, is this what You want for me?"

I'll be praying for you. Blessings, A

Thank you for that reply....I am et to consider all he has done, like give me plenty of chances to correct myself...who would want to be reminded of what they are trying to move on from and leave behind? I just require a lot of attention and I feel after reading and praying that I need to live for God and not myself and not be so selfish, after all he does reassure me he is working for the both of us, we have only been serious for a few months, but seeing each other for a year, so I need patience, I think that is what God is saying. I am jumping ahead and going to lose what I have if I let the devil get the best of me....he does tell me to get church friends and helps me love the Lord, but I pray and seek God's will, p.s I do have a really bad anxiety disorder and I have no been on my meds, so I think that was a problem as well. all your help has helped me to help myself, after taking both directions in to consideration, I think God has told me what to do, but I feel like we we're meant to be andin a way the only the Lord could control

 

[JCFantasy23]

Sometimes God puts people in our lives for a specific reason. I've had relationships where at the time they were great and I thought they would last, but later it ended up being a bad idea. Either our feelings changed for each other, circumstances did, etc., but from each relationship I grew and learned something. I think sometimes God put people in my life temporarily to show me something, and also people in my life for me to help them when they need it also. This could be the case here since you say he helped you a lot, but now the relationship seems less worthwhile?

 

[Reborn Again]

It was me, I take anxiety meds, and have not been taking them like i am suppose to so I was digging up dirt so to speak, once I let it go, and stopped focusing on his past, everything seems so blissful and loving. He is trying to not talk about it because it was years ago, and it's over and he has moved on and wants the dead to stay dead so to speak. I have been praying and I feel this man is the man for me. I am young and have been thru alot, so I need to remember the road gets bumpy, but I am still driving the car. He is the opposite of the ones that have hurt me. He pays for dinner not ,me. He wants me to go back to school and be happy, not just make sure he is happy. He want to create a family in the future and all the things I want seem to match. I think God gave me him because he knows I am strong enough to overcome his prior relationships. like you said, they were there at the time but not the ones he was meant to keep, God placed him in my life so sweetly and calm, I know he is my man, I just need to give him trust and respect. I thank every body for helping me though. it made me see how much he really means to me. we I thought about breaking it off and telling him, this feeling over took me and I suddenly forgot about everything and could not hep but to love him, and want to make him smile. I could not help but to desire his presences, and fill his heart with love. I believe God is doing a good thing and used this forum to teach me a few things, and help build my spirit and give his some space. while he is working, I can be working on me, like he wants. He wants me to be happy and I want to be happy, what better way then to turn to seeking God? I love my life.