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eyesofmystery

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Well, I've had many silly little crushes that didn't last very long. But some of them become more than just little crushes. One of them is the guy I've been pining for. It started off as a little crush simply because he was cute, but as I got to know him, my feelings grew. But he never felt the same way, and when he came to town for Christmas, he rejected me once and for all. Now he's dating my (former) best friend (though it's a long distance relationship. He lives on the other side of the country). I've been heartbroken about it for weeks. Thinking of him and seeing him always made me happy before, but now it makes me want to cry.
 
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eyesofmystery said:
Well, I've had many silly little crushes that didn't last very long. But some of them become more than just little crushes. One of them is the guy I've been pining for. It started off as a little crush simply because he was cute, but as I got to know him, my feelings grew. But he never felt the same way, and when he came to town for Christmas, he rejected me once and for all. Now he's dating my (former) best friend (though it's a long distance relationship. He lives on the other side of the country). I've been heartbroken about it for weeks. Thinking of him and seeing him always made me happy before, but now it makes me want to cry.

I'm so sorry. I hope your heart heals soon.
 
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I had a major crush on Mikhail Baryshnikov (ballet dancer) in high school. I hung out by the stage door one night and got some pictures of him, but no autograph.

When I was 18 I started crushing on a police officer that I met when I was volunteering. I went on a ride along with him and pointed out my house to him. He drove by a few days later and my mom was outside and knew who he was from my description and talked to him. That was the last time he drove by. Years later, after I rededicated myself I witnessed to him when he started joking about drinking. When I looked up because someone was walking by he walked away from me as fast as he could. A few years later one of my friends knew his girlfriend and told him that I had had a major crush on him. The next time I saw him he mentioned talking to my friend. I was married and he knew it. I smiled and said I heard about the conversation and then got away from him. I have been tempted to contact him every once in a while, but I know I shouldn't chance it. The last time I talked to one of the Christians at the station this guy was not a believer and it would be dangerous for me to risk becoming attracted to him again.

I may have a crush on someone here.
 
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Petrarch said:
And I have done that. As you would put it, I was calling out the the notion of online crushes, but I was not condemning those who engage in such behaviour. Like you said, people have their own lives, and have the freedom to live as they choose. To be honest, my initial post was just seeking some sort of clarification. I will be editing it to clarify my opinion.

I don't know. I just think that if you have never had a personal enounter with an invididual, it is not a good idea to have a crush on him or her.

If you have a reciprocal crush it's likely that more and more personal encounters will be sought.

Besides, before online interaction, there was always pen pals, or liking that person in the satellite office, or talking to a friend of a friend on the phone who lived far away, which all operate on similar concepts to online crushes.
 
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Zimfan said:
Zimfan/Moluku crush update: Moluku and I have been getting to know eachother better and think our crush is developing into something more serious. We have a visit planned after school ends this April.

Just in case anyone was curious. :wave:

Enjoy the friendship and How kewl you 2 are meeting..

Take Care:)
 
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Beauty4Ashes

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I've had quite a few crushes on guys, particularily when I was in Highschool and probably the first year or two after I graduated.

To be honest I wish I hadn't had a lot of the crushes I did. I think there are much better things to focus on in life, such as God. Seems like wasted energy to me. I try not to get crushes on people now though I still do but usually on good friends which is better because I know when the crush goes away I will still have my friends.

The only guys I've dated, I ususally had crushes on them prior to dating them but it was usually a while later that we actually dated, like often a year or so later and by then, the crush wasn't really there anymore but the memory of it was and suddenly they were interested in me.

no more crushes for me i hope.........yea right.......I only want to have a crush on my future husband but not the kind of crush that crushes you, the kind that lasts a lifetime and grows stronger every day, and is mutual! :)
 
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BlessedJourney said:
In a way crushes are a healthy thing,think about how the make you feel.

Sure usually crushes are usally based on superficial things but they still make ya smile :D


yes, but they can make you cry too
 
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