I think the argument here is that, theoretically, I could say, "Hey, I don't believe in gay marriage, but I also recognize this is a democracy and my Orthodox religion isn't the state church and my moral compass isn't the be-all, so I have to step outside of myself and for the good of the democratic order I'll let these folks live steeped in sin to be fair and objective about freedom and democratic principles. I'm a libertarian."
I could say that, but it'd be nonsense. Has Orthodoxy ever really functioned that way in history? Has an Orthodox society lived two lives---one of a sinful devil's advocate in the public eye, and the other a holy man on Sunday? Is that the model for us to live by?
So I could be Orthodox in 1940 in Germany and support Hitler going around chanting "go, Goebbels! You rock!" and being ok with ethnically cleansing Jews and throwing them into pits stacked nice and high, as long as I don't personally help out and slit any throats and pray Vespers and Divine Liturgy? I'm ok with propaganda, swastikas, salutes, book burnings, racism, hatred, war, and fascism because that's just our society here in Germany, and yet I can keep private views of Orthodoxy and I'm good?
I'm with you, Rus. This is just weirdsville. It's what's wrong with Orthodoxy. The cowardice of our society that refuses to label evil as EVIL and to call a spade a spade has entered into our own church even, I'm afraid. The "tolerance" campaign is permeating everything, and there really just is a moral tofu going on. Just wibble and wobble and taste like whatever you get blended into. Tofu morality.
Tom Hanks will be held accountable for his actions if his portrayal in that film inspired "gay" men to persist in the lifestyle, and if any of his donations, speeches, and public words have guided and shaped, molded, and incited the LGBT hordes to be emboldened and inspired. If his actions added to the social ills, I don't care how many icons he kisses or Vespers he prays or if he hangs out at Mt. Athos, he will be held accountable.
As a teacher, I know that my words inspire and mold kids. I have to be EXCEPTIONALLY careful with my moral teachings and my exemplars. What more if you're a celebrity wearing a T-bar cross...
The distinction that I don't see being made is that between unwittingly holding un-Orthodox ideas, and actually putting oneself out of communion with the Church.
It is definitely un-Orthodox to support the legality of any actual immorality. Note that divorce itself is not immoral; it is a result of immorality, and can only be justified to protect an innocent party. But a person can hold ideas (like supporting the legality of immorality) and not be putting oneself out of communion; we all, no doubt, have kooky ideas on some point. I think God has mercy on our ignorance. But when we are brought to face Orthodox truth and continue to deny it in favor of what we personally think best, I think we do risk crossing that line at some point, of committing the ancestral sin of choosing what the self-prefers over what God wants us to become.
Where you go wrong is in trying to defend the support of the legalization of homosexual relations. You say that such support "implies neither"; this is manifestly false; the legalization of an activity certainly and absolutely implies its social acceptability. There can be no refuting of this, only unsupported denials. The upshot is that what you support politically winds up biting us all in the butt, an unwitting advancement of the modern evil and hastening of the day of our persecution.