Couple questions for the guys...

[Inkachu]

You speak for women now? lol

Ladies, what do you all think?






I love ya DB, don't get mad at me.

 

[ido]

I definitely think that men caring for/playing with babies or kids (their own or otherwise) is very attractive. I want to know a man is going to be a good father - and what better way than to see him in action? There is a reason that men say that babies and puppies are some of the best props for picking up women.

 

[Inkachu]

That's exactly what I said - good fathering skills make a lady think "He'd be a good father", not "Wow, he's hot, I want his body".

Does a pregnant woman or a woman pushing a stroller make you think "She looks like a good mother, I'd like a woman like that for my family"?

I guess I'm trying to get a definition of the type of "attractive" we're talking about here. There's "that person would make a great husband/wife mother/father" or "that person is all kinds of sexual yumminess".

 

[ido]

Well, it can make me think they're hot, too - if my engine is revving.

 

[Wren]

I don't find guys with kids attractive, any more than any other guy. I might admire their fathering skills, or think the whole 'family' scene is sweet, endearing, nice, etc. I might think "Wow, he looks like a good father, I hope I can marry someone like that", but I don't think "Wow, he's hot, I want me some of that".

I think it's nice when a man finds a pregnant woman to be beautiful, in the sense that she's carrying a new life and exuding a 'motherly' glow, but beyond that, I think it borders on inappropriate.

That's JMHO.

Not surprisingly, I agree with Inka on this one. Except that I don't think it's inappropriate to find pregnant women "sexually yummy", I just don't understand it. Seeing a guy who seems good with kids, makes me think "oh, he seems like a good daddy", which is the same thing I think of my brother. I don't think "oh, he seems like a good father, that's so hot!".

 

[deepgreen11]

I love the way people look when they are interacting with others in general, not just with kids or puppies. Now, the kids with guy thing is cool, I like to see how guys interact with kids, because it gives me cues on a few things, like patience level with kids and even their sense of adventure, and a sense of adventure or spontaneity i find very very ATTRACTIVE. Another thing: If a dude is actually engaged in play with kids or babies or puppies, isn't he usually smiling? YES. And the reason why smiles are shaped like chili peppers is because they make us melt!!
I even find women more beautiful when they are pregnant because they often do glow, and that glow is wonderful. We as people are naturally drawn to things that look happy and healthy. I find nothing actually inappropriate about finding pregnant women and kid-watching men attractive. I think it's cool. I think, actually, if women would stop freaking out about their pregnant bodies and get the adequate rest and stress reduction they need, those times they ARE out they will likely be looking and feeling pretty good, regardless of trimester. But, of course, I don't know this firsthand, it just seems logical to me by observation.

 

[ido]

I think, actually, if women would stop freaking out about their pregnant bodies and get the adequate rest and stress reduction they need, those times they ARE out they will likely be looking and feeling pretty good, regardless of trimester. But, of course, I don't know this firsthand, it just seems logical to me by observation.

Sorry, this is too cute not to respond. I loved being pregnant, but - even for the "cute" pregnant ladies - the third trimester is brutal for a reason. Your body is preparing to give birth, so the more miserable you feel, the more ready you are for delivery. Our bodies distort themselves drastically - internally and externally - and this often makes sleep very difficult in the end of the pregnancy, so it's actually pretty normal to be tired/run down. As for stress, I wasn't necessarily stressed out during either pregnancies - by the pregnancies themselves. But, stress is a natural factor and I think most women handle it the same pregnant as they do not pregnant...except that the increased hormones can make your reactions seem exaggerated. At least that was my experience.

I think the biggest factor in how a pregnant woman looks is whether or not she thinks pregnancy is an excuse to just gain however much weight she wants and to not care for herself b/c she is using her pregnancy as an excuse.

JMHO and personal experience.

 

[deliciousBass]

That's exactly what I said - good fathering skills make a lady think "He'd be a good father", not "Wow, he's hot, I want his body".

Does a pregnant woman or a woman pushing a stroller make you think "She looks like a good mother, I'd like a woman like that for my family"?

I guess I'm trying to get a definition of the type of "attractive" we're talking about here. There's "that person would make a great husband/wife mother/father" or "that person is all kinds of sexual yumminess".

I think what you are failing to understand is that what motivates us all is very different. For some people, men and women, yes, the "he'd/she'd be a good father/mother, or IS a good father/mother" makes them sexually attractive. And that's fine. We're not all YOU, Inkabink, and keep the two separate.

Just because we're different, doesn't mean that we're wrong.

 

[Inkachu]

I was puking constantly all through my pregnancy; I couldn't get my shoes on at all in the last few months due to swelling; I was sleep deprived and exhausted. I was not the picture of "glowing motherly beauty", so obviously I wasn't worthy of being oogled by men.

Oy veh.





FNG - does the fact that he's fathered kids with someone else (that he could very well still be married/involved with) affect the attraction factor? I certainly wouldn't want to be oogling someone's husband/fiance/boyfriend. Would you instantly stop revving your engines (sorry that made me LOL) if you saw a wedding ring?

Maybe that's one reason I try to avoid oogling altogether, lol. You never know the person's personal story just by looking at them.

 

[deliciousBass]

I think the biggest factor in how a pregnant woman looks is whether or not she thinks pregnancy is an excuse to just gain however much weight she wants and to not care for herself b/c she is using her pregnancy as an excuse.

JMHO and personal experience.

I think that is a big factor, indeed.

I dated a girl who had gained over 40 lbs from her pregnancy (before that she was a hottie) and she's only been able to lose 20 lbs of it and feels like crap because she used it as an excuse to stuff her face.

Ughhh.. she had such nasty stretch marks on her stomach too. Flippin' gross. Looked like a bear swiped it's paws at her stomach repeatedly.

 

[Inkachu]

We're not all YOU, Inkabink, and keep the two separate.

Just because we're different, doesn't mean that we're wrong.

Gosh, I didn't know that, thanks for enlightening me!

I said I was trying to understand. If you feel a need to attack rather than explain things, just don't respond, k? Thanks.

 

[Inkachu]

Ughhh.. she had such nasty stretch marks on her stomach too. Flippin' gross. Looked like a bear swiped it's paws at her stomach repeatedly.

That's a horrible thing to say. As if she could help the stretch marks. Skinny pregnant chicks get them too.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

I think that is a big factor, indeed.

I dated a girl who had gained over 40 lbs from her pregnancy (before that she was a hottie) and she's only been able to lose 20 lbs of it and feels like crap because she used it as an excuse to stuff her face.

Ughhh.. she had such nasty stretch marks on her stomach too. Flippin' gross. Looked like a bear swiped it's paws at her stomach repeatedly.

Pregnancy causes stretch marks and I am sure that you know that. Most women get them and I think they need a break from people saying eww stretch marks are gross.

This post makes you sound immature imo.

Sorry, I wasn't going to post but...

edit: not knocking you for your earlier post, you are entitled to your views but this one was just mean.

 

[deliciousBass]

Gosh, I didn't know that, thanks for enlightening me!

I said I was trying to understand. If you feel a need to attack rather than explain things, just don't respond, k? Thanks.

You don't think that's an explanation? Saying that everyone is different? You and Beautyfrompain and Historia are all on the same boat. Because you don't connect sexual attractiveness with motherhood/fatherhood. And that's fine. But don't knock the people that do, just because you feel differently.

That's a horrible thing to say. As if she could help the stretch marks. Skinny pregnant chicks get them too.

Gosh, I didn't know that, thanks for enlightening me!

My ex-wife had bad stretch marks too, and she was/is very thin. But what I think helped her out is that she didn't stuff her face like the ex-gf did.

 

[deliciousBass]

Pregnancy causes stretch marks and I am sure that you know that. Most women get them and I think that they could do with people stopping with saying that they are gross.

This post makes you sound immature imo.

Sorry, I wasn't going to post but...

I'm not going to sugarcoat what she did... she admits it herself and regrets it so whatever. And yes, her stomach does look horrible. It is a direct consequence of her actions. Not going to sugarcoat that either. If I sound immature, so be it, wouldn't be the first, and sure as heck isn't going to be the last.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

I'm not going to sugarcoat what she did... she admits it herself and regrets it so whatever. And yes, her stomach does look horrible. It is a direct consequence of her actions. Not going to sugarcoat that either. If I sound immature, so be it, wouldn't be the first, and sure as heck isn't going to be the last.

Okay.

But it was her pregnancy that caused them, wasn't it? If so then its not her fault and its impossible to get rid of stretch marks.

 

[deliciousBass]

Okay.

But it was her pregnancy that caused them, wasn't it? If so then its not her fault and its impossible to get rid of stretch marks.

Do you believe that if a woman get's pregnant, and then proceeds to gain 80 lbs because she sits on her couch and eats twinkies all day, it's her pregnancy that causes the stretchmarks?

 

[Inkachu]

How do you know her overeating caused the stretch marks and not the pregnancy??? A weight gain of 40 lbs during pregnancy is completely normal! What if that was your wife?? Would you sit around saying nasty things about her?

First you said 40 lbs, now it's 80 lbs.

I dunno DB, you seem like you're on a mean streak today. I'll say a prayer for ya, but I'm off this thread.

 

[deliciousBass]

How do you know her overeating caused the stretch marks and not the pregnancy??? A weight gain of 40 lbs during pregnancy is completely normal! What if that was your wife?? Would you sit around saying nasty things about her?

First you said 40 lbs, now it's 80 lbs.

I dunno DB, you seem like you're on a mean streak today. I'll say a prayer for ya, but I'm off this thread.

1. 40 lbs is on the high side, and over the recommended amount, I'm pretty sure about that. You are also failing to note that she admitted to me herself that she overate during her pregnancy.

2. 40 lbs for my ex-gf. I said 80 lbs as an extreme example (not of my ex-gf) to show that a pregnancy doesn't have to be the sole contributing factor to stretch marks. You get stretch marks from weight gain too.

3. Please don't pray for me.

 

[ido]

I know thin women who didn't gain much at all who get stretch marks. Our bodies are designed to stretch to accomodate a baby, but our skin isn't necessarily. Stretch marks are actually more directly related to the elasticity of our skin. Some women get them worse than others. *shrugs* BTW - I gained 46 and 50 lbs, respectively, with my pregnancies and lost the weight from both of them. My extra weight right now actually came from in between pregnancies. But, I take responsibility for it and am working to lose it - and don't blame anyone that would choose not to be attracted to me because of it.

Ink - to answer your question about the wedding band...yes, a wedding band automatically shuts off the physical attraction to a guy. Which is what makes married men that don't wear a wedding band so frustrating to me! I hate checking out some guy, then seeing his wife and kids walk up. Wedding bands turn on the off-limits neon light way faster for me. lol