"Checking up" on your Sig Other...

[DatingSmarts]

My view is that someone who checks up on me is probably a control freak. I say this because I don't do anything to deserve that kind of behavior. So if it happens, I see it as a sign the person is messed up in the head.

The people who do these kinds of things are showing signs of being a stalker.

What really gets me is that the people who pull this kind of nonsense are not even showing a commitment to the relationship to begin with. They think its okay for them to date around while I stay at home not having any fun. They work it so that they can have all the fun and i get to stay home and be miserable.

People who do this checking up nonsense are selfish jealous people who believe no one should have any fun or a social life except them.

 

[brettnolan]

Fine job of generalization.

Good to know that someone knows everything about all "those people."

 

[SirKenin]

I'm not asking for spilled stories of how you checked up on your SO, or how they checked up on you, but I was curious for how many have dealt with this. How you would respond if you found out your SO was checking your e-mail or things of that nature. And also would you go so far as to do it? Do you believe it's totally not right or grey or just fine?

Just curious.

If you have to check up on them, you don't trust them. Simple as that, I think.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Well, In a dating relationship, each person deserves their own privacy. There needs to be trust there. She should trust you and you should trust her....provided there is no reason for suspicion. If there is no reason to not trust one another and one of you is in the other's business without cause, I see that as a problem that needs to be straightened out else it will continue to drive a wedge between the two of you.

As far as marriage, I am not my own anymore. I gave up that right. So I let Holly see what I'm doing on here. I try to tell her what's going on with the people I talk to and I try to involve her with the people I am in contact with.
In a marriage, this policy prevents stupidity from occurring.

 

[katelyn]

Well, In a dating relationship, each person deserves their own privacy. There needs to be trust there. She should trust you and you should trust her....provided there is no reason for suspicion. If there is no reason to not trust one another and one of you is in the other's business without cause, I see that as a problem that needs to be straightened out else it will continue to drive a wedge between the two of you.

As far as marriage, I am not my own anymore. I gave up that right. So I let Holly see what I'm doing on here. I try to tell her what's going on with the people I talk to and I try to involve her with the people I am in contact with.
In a marriage, this policy prevents stupidity from occurring.

Good points, Mr. Cheese!