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Thanks

I was listening to people who said I couldn't.
God wills that all be saved, so you can be saved. You are not wasting your time. People who say you can't be saved are full of it.

You may have a tendency to same sex attraction. I have all sorts of tendencies and attractions. Some attractions are natural and some are not. My attraction to ice cream is natural but I have to control it. My attraction to women who are not my wife is also somewhat natural but I have to shut that one down. I can't act on most of my attractions without sin. So I struggle, repent, mortify my unruly desires, and align my will to do what is right and avoid even the temptation to do what is wrong. You know that's your job too. It's everyone's job, even if we all have different temptations and attractions

Homosexual acts are immoral and sinful. A mere temptation in that direction is not a sin unless you indulge the temptation and dwell on it. If you have a brief temptation, don't be upset about it but put it aside. For me, I imagine what that person will look like in 100 years. I can pray for their soul, and for mine too, and by that time the urge has passed.

Check out http://www.couragerc.net for some straight teaching on homosexuality. It is Catholic. It is faithfully Catholic. And it will set you at ease about how you can be saved even with such attractions. They even have local chapters where you can get some support.
 
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Hi,

Well, tell me what do you believe about Jesus?

God bless you,
In Christ, ted

I believe that Jesus Christ is Lord. I believe that Jesus Christ is the only way to heaven and is the only way to the Father. I believe Christ came to destroy the works of Satan; and that he was born through the virgin Mary. I believe for the sin of mankind and that on the third he rose from the dead, so that we can have eternal life if we put our trust in him. I believe that every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. I believe that Christ has all authority in heaven and on earth.
 
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I will do that.
 
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I never said I was God! You are not God either. I qualified my post by saying if he believes in Jesus Christ of course he is saved. You only copied one sentence out of context. Very unfair!

Thank you for encouragement. I really appreciate it.
 
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Thank you for sharing the story.
 
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I PERSONALLY believe that you ( general) are born that way. Therefore, while I am not God. I believe you CAN be saved.

I disagree with this. Despite a great deal of effort, there has been no gene identified with homosexuality, and some studies have actually ruled it out, using identical twins.

I do believe that homosexuality is a psychological disorder. I think a great deal of it stems from childhood abuse, which doesn't even necessarily have to be physically-sexual in nature to have a severe impact.

I furthermore think it is important for people to understand this, because it can help to promote compassion from within the Christian community, which aligns with Jesus' teachings (compassion).

People with sexual disorders are well, disordered, and it's usually caused by child abuse, which may have been dissociated from, making it even more confusing for the sufferer.

So when someone is struggling not to sin in this sort of regard, I think it is important to remember that temptation often comes from such emotional/psychological wounds, which Satan attempts to take advantage of through deception, i.e. the cultural pushes for, "You're not really hurting and in need of healing, you were just 'born that way'," and all that this implies.

Which gets taken to the next level when people who are painfully dysphoric about their own bodies are encouraged to embrace delusion and have their body parts chopped off, rather than addressing the elephant the room - they were probably abused, because that's what happens to most sexual abuse survivors, they become dysphoric about their bodies and their gender.

So it's a matter of compassion on two fronts. The first being that their temptations towards these types of sin likely stem from child abuse, and the second being that true compassion is encouraging them and supporting them in their healing - not encouraging them to double-down on their internal pain and confusion in order to use them as political pawns.

Even Jesus Himself addressed this issue, Matthew 18:6, "If anyone causes one of these little ones--those who believe in me--to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea."

In other words, according to Jesus, it would be better if someone were drowned to death, than for them to abuse a child in such a way that would cause the child to grow up with trauma-induced dysfunctions that tempt them towards sins.

Which brings me to the OP: Jesus made it clear that He understands how this works, and what you are going through. Of course He will save you.
 
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You can. Be saved... We are all sinners..so if that pastor of yours can be saved and washed clean and preach...you can be saved too..because he is human like you and me.

I also struggle with lust, I am a 25 year old girl...and it's hard to stay celibate when people are in face ruining around having whole relationships in my face and seem so happy. I feel you...just ask god for strength...and if you mess up..don't torture or demonize your self..just get back up and try again.
 
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What about other sins? Is lying a disorder?( white lies, big lies) what about stealing, fornicating, eating shellfish, coveting, anger, ? These may seem small but in the eyes of god all sins are a disorder to him.
 
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Hi again IAAN, one of the keys to controlling your "thought-life" (rather than letting it continue to control/plague you) is to empty your mind of the garbage that's in there now by filling it with the word of God instead. So "treasure" His word in your heart and mind and dwell on it throughout the day (Psalm 119:9-11; Romans 12:2; Philippians 4:6-8), always keeping it in the forefront of your mind in every moment and in every decision that you make.

Here are some practical ways to do that:

1) Read the Bible (or listen to it on CD if you prefer) at least once every day, and pray and thank God in response as you go along
2) Begin to memorize some Bible verses (this was the most important thing I ever did to finally gain control over my horrible thought-life)
3) Always be in church each Sunday (and in a Bible Study too if your church offers them)
4) Ask others for prayer support
5) Listen to some good teaching throughout the week on the radio/internet. Here are a few of the pastors/theologians that I regularly listen to who have helped me considerably (Dr. Swindoll was the one who promised me that if I memorized God's word it would eventually push all the garbage out of my mind, and I can happily report that it worked far beyond anything I could have imagined or hoped for):

Renewing Your Mind - Dr. R. C. Sproul
Grace to You - Dr. John MacArthur
Insight for Living - Dr. Chuck Swindoll
Yours in Christ,
David
p.s. - if you'd like to begin memorizing some Scripture verses, PM me if you'd like to and I'll tell you how to get started.

2 Timothy 3
16 All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;
17 that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.
 
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Pastor Steven Anderson does not believe gays can be saved.

Goodness, what on earth would provoke him to believe such a heinous lie?? Sinners are the ones that need to be saved and the very ones whom Jesus died for. I'm antisocial and much rather prefer to be by myself than fellowship with other believers. Can I be saved? That's sinful too.

We have many, many countless sinful inclinations. Christ has covered those sins for us. All our sins, past present and future has been paid for by his sacrifice on the cross. The difference between an unbeliever and a believer is, that the non-believer would look at that as a license to sin. He thinks, "Now that is great--I can do whatever I want now!" While the believer who actually has encountered Jesus Christ in the spirit abhors his sins and wants to change because he loves God and his law. He however is trapped in this prison of flesh which obeys another law and this struggle continues until we meet with our God in heaven.

Please don't listen to false preachers who say things that contradict God's word. Jesus proclaimed he has come to save the lost, not the righteous. He is your Saviour and my Saviour because we were lost sinners once, who now love the Lord Jesus and long to be free from the sin that still dwells in us.
 
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EXACTLY !!!! Thank Goodness someone said it... Pastors ...some of them aren't right themselves.
 
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You are not God, do not give someone false assurance that they are saved. You do not know who the elect are.

Please, don't be upset with her. She is only trying to help. I really appreciate everything you said and everything she said.

I really don't believe she was trying to see herself as God. I think what she meant that if I put my faith in Jesus Christ, I am be saved.
 
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Thank you

The list you provided was helpful.
 
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This is not the place to debate this or any other issue.
 
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If you are attracted to men, but you do not act on it, then I do not believe you are what the bible calls an abomination. In other words, yes, I believe you can be saved if you are not already in fact.

We, as humans, have a gambit of sins that our ohysical body's desire. Theft, sexual imortality, pride, drunkeness, these are things our physical bodies desire, and they always will. It is what Paul talks about when he talks about denying the flesh, which is what we are required to do as Christians.

It sounds like you are doing the right thing by denying the flesh and not acting on it, but also in hating it. If we were condemned every time a sinful act entered our minds no one would ever be saved, it is a part of being human. We just can't give into those desires or dwell on those thoughts.
 
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No you are not wasting time seeking God and He knows your struggle and loves you for not acting on it. Lust you are always going to have. We are human. Stay strong friend. There is a place for Homosexual Christians who believe Jesus is the Son of God and seek Him. I dont care what anyone says.
 
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Yes, you can be saved. I used to be addicted to porn for many years. God eventually took the desire for it away and I stopped. If God can do that for me, he can do that for you too. It may take many years of prayer though.
 
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