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Hi,
I have just joined this forum, and I am very glad to be here.
I am very troubled at this point and I am eager to see what other people with more experience and knowledge think. Be not afraid, I will not take any reply as "formal" spiritual advice, but I will consider any opinion.
Briefly, I was born Orthodox, but I left the church and faith for about 7 years. I declared to myself and to the world that atheism set me free of a regressive, limiting, antiquated belief system. I believe, and it is OK if you don't believe me, that through mysterious work, over the past year, the Holy Spirit truly removed me from my sin of pride and denial of God, and brought me, almost dragged me, back to the church.
No, nothing bad happened to me. Quite the contrary. And the dismay is real - I feel like I've been keeping our Lord in a small, damp, dark cell in the deepest cellar of my heart for 7 years, and He chose to dwell there, alone and unspoken to and yet He shows me more love and light than even before I did that to Him...
I have given this a lot of thought and a lot of prayer, and I still am unsure what I should "expect" or even whish in relation to my reborn "church life".
While I feel, thank God, that I am on a good path to repenting from most of the more egregious sins of thought and word and working hard on other sins in my life, one remains technically in "full effect" - while away from the church I got married civilly. I and my wife have a wonderful, loving family life, but we are not married in the eyes of the church as it were, and therefore in the eyes of God.
Since returning to the church, I haven't taken Holy Communion, I haven't even considered it, but I also am not sure what the path towards that is. Even after we do get married in the church, what should I whish and/or expect in this respect? I yearn for Communion, I really do, but I am afraid not to make a huge mistake in having it unprepared. In our tradition, many priests are very frightening about this issue. However, the priest here says with confession and repentance he will gladly offer it to me. I am unsure what I must think. Can I / should I refuse and thus sinfully rebel against my spiritual father? If my heart and my intentions are as clean as they can be, and the priest offers me this dispensation, is there still a danger in taking it? Am I overthinking this?
I have just joined this forum, and I am very glad to be here.
I am very troubled at this point and I am eager to see what other people with more experience and knowledge think. Be not afraid, I will not take any reply as "formal" spiritual advice, but I will consider any opinion.
Briefly, I was born Orthodox, but I left the church and faith for about 7 years. I declared to myself and to the world that atheism set me free of a regressive, limiting, antiquated belief system. I believe, and it is OK if you don't believe me, that through mysterious work, over the past year, the Holy Spirit truly removed me from my sin of pride and denial of God, and brought me, almost dragged me, back to the church.
No, nothing bad happened to me. Quite the contrary. And the dismay is real - I feel like I've been keeping our Lord in a small, damp, dark cell in the deepest cellar of my heart for 7 years, and He chose to dwell there, alone and unspoken to and yet He shows me more love and light than even before I did that to Him...
I have given this a lot of thought and a lot of prayer, and I still am unsure what I should "expect" or even whish in relation to my reborn "church life".
While I feel, thank God, that I am on a good path to repenting from most of the more egregious sins of thought and word and working hard on other sins in my life, one remains technically in "full effect" - while away from the church I got married civilly. I and my wife have a wonderful, loving family life, but we are not married in the eyes of the church as it were, and therefore in the eyes of God.
Since returning to the church, I haven't taken Holy Communion, I haven't even considered it, but I also am not sure what the path towards that is. Even after we do get married in the church, what should I whish and/or expect in this respect? I yearn for Communion, I really do, but I am afraid not to make a huge mistake in having it unprepared. In our tradition, many priests are very frightening about this issue. However, the priest here says with confession and repentance he will gladly offer it to me. I am unsure what I must think. Can I / should I refuse and thus sinfully rebel against my spiritual father? If my heart and my intentions are as clean as they can be, and the priest offers me this dispensation, is there still a danger in taking it? Am I overthinking this?