According to Genesis, the only "ritual" of marriage is a man and a woman leaving their parents and coming together to live together and sex consummates the marriage.
In fact, there is no ritual involved in marriage at the very beginning.
The marriage rituals we later read in the Bible, were purely man-made traditions not necessarily approved by God.
The Israelites kept doing things God doesn't want like having a man for a king, instead of having only God as king. To the Israelites, it wasn't enough because they kept on coveting/envying the customs and traditions of their neighbors who worshipped false gods.
Don't be mistaken that everything you read in the Bible is good to do. Polygamy is obviously not a good thing as an example. You got to go back from the very beginning, from the Book of Genesis to watch things unfold as men and women adopted traditions from unGodly men and women that God didn't like. Because the Bible is also essentially a story book or even 'historical documentation', it needs to write these things too, including things God didn't approved of to tell the whole story. Although the Bible sometimes explicitly mentions what things are good or evil, there are also many occasions it didn't.
No rituals at all. In fact, your first BF or GF may already be your husband/wife in the eyes of God. Be careful eh?
Right on. That is really all that makes a marriage, biblically speaking..at least from what I can tell, one man and one woman in agreement on it and consummation.
Wonder if that lady is married and had a wedding. Nothing wrong with that in and of itself. But many of the practices of modern weddings actually originated in druidic witchcraft, or ancient pagan fertility rites. Such as wedding rings for one example, and in fact, the placement of it is also symbolic, on the ‘ring’ finger..I won’t get into all the details here but it is in relation to divination/astrology, and yes, pagan sungod worship. The wedding bouquet, the garter belt tradition, the flower girl tradition and more originated from ancient pagan rituals. Maybe that is why so many marriages fail? There is nothing ‘Holy’ about these matrimony rites at all.
"Many of today's marriage customs have pagan origins. The shared wedding cake, tossed rice, and flowers are all old bits of fertility magick."
—Edain McCoy, Sabbats: A Witch's Approach to Living the Old Ways, Llewellyn Worldwide, 2002, p. 167, ISBN: 9781567186635
There is plenty more but don’t have time to get into all that. For those who speak always of ‘Christian liberty’ in regards to certain things they totally twist that way out of context. We don’t have liberty to partake in paganism.
“For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.”
—Galatians 5:13
“Thus saith the LORD, Learn not the way of the heathen, and be not dismayed at the signs of heaven; for the heathen are dismayed at them.”
—Jeremiah 10:2
There’s nothing wrong with the wedding get-together itself at all, Jesus Himself went to one in Cana, John Ch. 2..why not just keep it as a get-together of friends and family and food, drink..just a simple celebration..eliminate all the pagan rituals and vanity like ‘rehearsals’. Even the vows exchange tradition is pagan, it originated from the druidic rite of hand fasting. In fact that is how the rockstar Jim Morrison, a very non-Christian man, was wed to one of his ladies, though it was never recognized by the govt, since there was no license. Which ironically, could make his marriage more biblical in that regard than most Christians, since I do not see the government being involved in marriages in the Bible but I am not 100% certain on that I haven’t looked into it much.
Romans ch. 13 does say we are to obey the law of the land (so long as it does not go against our Faith) but hey, ‘separation of church and state’ as the atheists and pagans always love to say in my country, haha.
I don’t believe your first boyfriend or girlfriend qualifies as your spouse though, whether or not there was ‘’relations’. I think this scripture backs that up, since it seems fornication and adultery are distinguished. From what I can tell anyway.
“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”
—1 Corinthians 7:2
So, yeah that lady, if she is married likely did a bunch of witchcraft and pagan fertility rites at her wedding but is complaining about what courting people call each other..take the beam out of your own eye Lady LOL. Funny thing is, I doubt she would be living up to her internet handle ‘Godly womanhood’ if I were to tell her this. She’d likely lash out in anger like many churchfolk do when their beloved traditions are exposed as spiritual wickedness. God is very forgiving of ignorance though. Just found it ironic is all, that lady talking this nonsense of what courting couples call one another, that is a non-issue.