eatenbylocusts said:
There are modest bikinis.
I didn't say there weren't. In fact, that was the opinion I was trying to put across - you can wear a bikini without it being 2 triangles with string. I actually seem to remember posting exactly that.
The clothing that we as Christian women choose should not be those that can reasonably be expected to cause a stumbling block for men/boys.
I realise this. I don't go around wearing micro-mini skirts as I know what kind of reaction they get - I'm not saying I'm model material, but I don't like the way that most guys react when they see a girls legs. I don't like getting wolf-whistled at when I'm walking down the street, and it has actually affected how I dress. I hardly ever wear skirts because of the reaction they provoke and I can't be doing with the hassle of being embarrassed.
Yes, boys. Do you want to be the image that a boy takes home in his mind to use when he's masturbating?
What if he was thinking about me, having just seen me in jeans and a t-shirt? I can't help that anymore than I can stop him masturbating, no matter what I wear. If he's going to do it, he's going to do it - that's his conviction to have with God, not mine. Do I want him to touch and think of me? No. But can I stop him doing that act? Of course not. A girl could provoke masturbation in a guy wearing a pair of sweats just as easily as she could wearing a modest bikini and, in fact, a one-piece bathing suit.
we shouldn't be purposefully making it more difficult.
I don't wear a bikini on the beach to make anyone's life more difficult, how rude! I wear it because I choose to wear it FOR ME. If someone's going to find another person attractive, they're going to regardless of what they're wearing. I realise that this may be more likely in a bikini, but again, the issue of lust is theirs, not mine to deal with.
For example, if my BF had a problem, although I'd help him as much as I could, I can't actually solve that problem for him. It's down to him to have some one-on-one time with God and sort it out between the two of them. Yes, I'd support him, but I can't help the problems that he might have.
If it became a real problem for me to wear a bikini, for example, I probably wouldn't continue to wear one around him, but that's only if I know about it, how can I stop doing something that I don't know for definite has an adverse reaction on *some* guys, *some* of the time????
The fact that non-Christian women are wearing the Doritos on the beach does not absolve a Christian woman of her responsibility.
When did I say it did????
People, we live in a corrupt world. I can't help how some people think. I know Christians, in this case, Christian women, have to take responsibility for how they dress - like one person said, "Big surprise, men gawk at girls in bikini's".
Some people, in my opinion can take it to the extreme. If you don't think God wants you wearing a bikini, don't wear one - that's YOUR conviction. Don't judge someone if they don't have the same conviction. We are called to love one another, warts and all, even if others may be "misguided" - but their "misguidance" is only according to YOUR conviction, it might not be misguidance to them.
Not everyone respects women/people the way they should, I realise this, believe me. But, we have a God that can change that. Why aren't we praying for the people of the world instead of arguing about some girl wearing a bikini???
Have you only just realised that not everyone is as good as they should be? I can't believe that would be true. If you don't like seeing a girl wearing a bikini, don't go to the beach. If you do go, and see a girl wearing a bikini that you find hard to deal with, LOOK AWAY!!!! How hard is it, really????
I don't know, I'm not trying to change what you think, that would be impossible. Take it or leave it, that's my opinion. Doesn't bother me if you don't agree.
LOL, I agree there... most of them are also old too. BUT, still it's icky.