Here's the thing. We are poor, we live in a third world country. I used to have a good career going but I messed it up -- and it's nearly impossible to recover from that mistake. I still have a job but it's not as lucrative as before and opportunities are now bleak. Bottomline, we are poor. Parents have no pension, no medical insurance. Any major medical problem and that's it.
However, there is a little bit of hope for us in getting out of poverty. We have relatives in a 1st world country I won't mention. They found a woman for me who might be interested. She saw my picture and is now quite interested.
If I would pursue a relationship and eventually marry this woman, I would most definitely immigrate to her country of citizenship. There, I'd be earning a lot more and have a lot more opportunities for work (I did some research). I'd definitely get myself out of poverty and eventually, I'd be able to help my parents in everything they might need in the future, especially financial and medical assistance. In addition, I could also help my niece since my sister is also struggling to pay her school fees. The woman also had well-to-do, middle class parents and had a middle class career herself.
So if I pursue a relationship with this woman, everyone would be benefitted by it and would be happy especially since it could get us out of poverty and get my parents financial and medical support in their old age.....
....Well, except me. I already talked to her and sadly I didn't find her interesting enough. Although she is a Christian, our interests weren't common enough and some rather large differences in theological beliefs in Christianity.
In short, I don't think I'll be happy with her either as a GF or wife. I wanted to call it off (just friendship for now) but my parents are very strongly pressuring me to have a relationship with her.
What do I do??? I don't like the woman but if I end up marrying her, it would be a huge help to my parents, sister, and niece!
And should I disobey my parents in these matters?? After all they are Christians too. Thanks for any advice.
However, there is a little bit of hope for us in getting out of poverty. We have relatives in a 1st world country I won't mention. They found a woman for me who might be interested. She saw my picture and is now quite interested.
If I would pursue a relationship and eventually marry this woman, I would most definitely immigrate to her country of citizenship. There, I'd be earning a lot more and have a lot more opportunities for work (I did some research). I'd definitely get myself out of poverty and eventually, I'd be able to help my parents in everything they might need in the future, especially financial and medical assistance. In addition, I could also help my niece since my sister is also struggling to pay her school fees. The woman also had well-to-do, middle class parents and had a middle class career herself.
So if I pursue a relationship with this woman, everyone would be benefitted by it and would be happy especially since it could get us out of poverty and get my parents financial and medical support in their old age.....
....Well, except me. I already talked to her and sadly I didn't find her interesting enough. Although she is a Christian, our interests weren't common enough and some rather large differences in theological beliefs in Christianity.
In short, I don't think I'll be happy with her either as a GF or wife. I wanted to call it off (just friendship for now) but my parents are very strongly pressuring me to have a relationship with her.
What do I do??? I don't like the woman but if I end up marrying her, it would be a huge help to my parents, sister, and niece!
And should I disobey my parents in these matters?? After all they are Christians too. Thanks for any advice.