Not exactly. The problem is that we don't like (or agree with) what YOU said.
Not to mention that by your standards of interpreting scripture, Jesus himself wouldn't qualify to be a pastor of his own church, and for that matter, neither would Paul be qualified.
You are too focused on external things when it's all really about Christ and the church.
And don't you think it's even a little bit strange that God's standards as per your interpretation are set up practically identical to pagan Roman law outside of Paul telling the men that they needed to be faithful in their marriages rather than having concubines/young boys and hiring prostitutes? The women didn't need to be told these things because they were already forbidden these sorts of freedoms under Roman law.
Some of the things that Paul instructed particular churches made sense at the time...for example, it was ILLEGAL by Roman law for women to speak in public assembly (Ekklessia), but that's fortunately not the case now in most free areas of the world, so it doesn't make sense to hold 21st century Christians to the standards of an ancient Roman government because we misunderstand why Paul is using some of these examples.
He's trying to explain Christ and the gospel to a Gentile people who had little to no comprehension, so uses common examples such as their familiar social customs and family structures (while trying to remain within the boundaries of Roman law) to give them some sort of picture of who Christ is.
Our social customs and family structures are different than they were in ancient Rome and we have no need (or desire) to attempt to recreate them. We can be Christians without being ancient Roman citizens just like non-Jewish people in ancient Rome could be Christians without becoming Jews and being circumcised.
Too much of Christianity nowadays has become extraordinarily legalistic as shown by these ridiculous "woman" arguments that crop up here all the time, and we're becoming just like the Pharisees in that regard even though Jesus attempted time and time again to instruct them (and us through their example) otherwise.
Being a Christ-follower isn't about all the "can'ts" and who we must exclude, but about being more and more conformed to him in every possible way. We are to encourage and edify one another and when God calls a man or a woman into his service, to help lead his flock, we are not to attempt to obstruct them.
