alphacheese
If God brings u to it, He will bring u through it
Yup, I know what you mean. I always remember Song of Solomon 3:5 "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"
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Anyone hate the waiting?
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simpletrust
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I dated a close friend a couple of years ago, was completely in love, and it didn't work out. Last night I cried myself to sleep and wished fervently that I'd never met him. Because in my tired, stressed out state, I could only think of how I've made an enemy out of a friend. Now that it's daytime I have better perspective 
So the purpose of me posting is not to say, don't date in highschool because it leads to pain, but don't date in highschool just because it "may be nice" because you may end up losing a friend, or regret giving your heart away, or both, or something else. Not that I only dated him for the pleasantness, I actually mulled over it for several months beforehand. To me, this proves that even thinking about something for ages doesn't mean that the conclusion you come to is corrct so never get your hopes too high.
So the purpose of me posting is not to say, don't date in highschool because it leads to pain, but don't date in highschool just because it "may be nice" because you may end up losing a friend, or regret giving your heart away, or both, or something else. Not that I only dated him for the pleasantness, I actually mulled over it for several months beforehand. To me, this proves that even thinking about something for ages doesn't mean that the conclusion you come to is corrct so never get your hopes too high.
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alphacheese
If God brings u to it, He will bring u through it
But never lose hope either!
I know what you mean though, I've been there. It really sucks... that's a understatement.
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bithiah2
Jah is my strength and song!
I didn't mean it in a horrible way
But since not having my father around, him not being the father i wish for, I really desire a male influence in my life.. I get some offers, but I just confuse myself in these situations, I wouldnt rule out a relationship at this time...But then I think, whats the point in dating them? Will it be honoring God? Will he be my future husband?
i don't know how old you are, but why not have guy friends, nothing serious, just friends to go out and have fun with? there is nothing wrong in that. it is good to have friends of both sexes, for the right reasons. don't rush yourself into a relationship, just have friends. if you fancy one, that is one thing, but in the meanwhile, enjoy meeting different ones and having fun!
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flightangel777
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my mom was 27 when she met my dad and i think thats a great age to get married think about it you will be ready to me a mom and enjoy life even more sometimes when you get married young you feel like somethings being robbed from you. So later and life is great becuase you don't have the stress and pressure my advice to everyone of you is wait becuase am waiting and i have accepted it personally i don't beileve in dating and i don't think its wise to date someone and them marry them. I actually think thats why alot of people break up anyways this is how i think people should do it and beileve me it toke a long time to figure it out.
1. Be friends with them first always be there friend i know this sounds like wheres this going lol but theres a great reason ok when your there friend you see all sides of them. How they act in front of there friends, faimly etc its very important another thing is you might be waiting for a person who is also pure and that has also be brought up right. So you will find that connection anyways being friends first is really the best thing you can do.
2. once you have become close and you know you both like eachother pray about it together ask God do you want me to date this person ask the look for direction and he will give it to you.
3. You become bf and gf and long as you want take your time if one person is going to college and the other is doing something else let them don't interfer with there plans but be apart of what there doing for the future.
4. When your bf and gf make sure to ask them very important questions like do you want kids,what is your goals in the future spiritually, finachelly etc. is there anything i should know about you that i already don't just little stuff like that.
5. Engagement this is the big one once both people feel like they need to get closer this is it i think a good engagement should only last up to 6months to a year so anyways these are some of the guideness the. Lord has showed me and i like to tell everyone of you i know what your going through right now. I didn't date or go out with anyone in highschool i didn't even go to prom so beileve me i had my shares of hurt one time when i was like 14-15 i liked this christian guy for like 2and a half years and he knew i liked him and went behind my back and started be intersted in this girl. So i would tell everyone also if that person dosen't want to to have a relationship with you and get to know you drop them fast and move on. Don't do what i did and like someone for 2-3 years just move on and don't look for it through dating trust in God to bring you the right person and he will so anyways God Bless hope this helps.
1. Be friends with them first always be there friend i know this sounds like wheres this going lol but theres a great reason ok when your there friend you see all sides of them. How they act in front of there friends, faimly etc its very important another thing is you might be waiting for a person who is also pure and that has also be brought up right. So you will find that connection anyways being friends first is really the best thing you can do.
2. once you have become close and you know you both like eachother pray about it together ask God do you want me to date this person ask the look for direction and he will give it to you.
3. You become bf and gf and long as you want take your time if one person is going to college and the other is doing something else let them don't interfer with there plans but be apart of what there doing for the future.
4. When your bf and gf make sure to ask them very important questions like do you want kids,what is your goals in the future spiritually, finachelly etc. is there anything i should know about you that i already don't just little stuff like that.
5. Engagement this is the big one once both people feel like they need to get closer this is it i think a good engagement should only last up to 6months to a year so anyways these are some of the guideness the. Lord has showed me and i like to tell everyone of you i know what your going through right now. I didn't date or go out with anyone in highschool i didn't even go to prom so beileve me i had my shares of hurt one time when i was like 14-15 i liked this christian guy for like 2and a half years and he knew i liked him and went behind my back and started be intersted in this girl. So i would tell everyone also if that person dosen't want to to have a relationship with you and get to know you drop them fast and move on. Don't do what i did and like someone for 2-3 years just move on and don't look for it through dating trust in God to bring you the right person and he will so anyways God Bless hope this helps.
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flightangel777
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Beautiful worshipper hun you don't need a guy to love you God is your father and he loves you very much and he wants what best for you your his child and you don't need some guy to tell you that the lord wants a relationship with you a deeper one so i would let you know that God is there for you reach out and touch him hes there!
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AlexeiKaramazov
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The waiting is the hardest part. Every day you see one more card.
You take it on faith, you take it to the heart.
The waiting is the hardest part.
You take it on faith, you take it to the heart.
The waiting is the hardest part.
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simpletrust
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But never lose hope either!
I know what you mean though, I've been there. It really sucks... that's a understatement.
Yeah, I'm trying not to lose hope. It's important not to lose hope! How much hope I have generally depends on how much sleep I'm getting
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Thankyou, I really want to have a boyfriend in my teenage years, but I want to be mid twenties when I marry...strange
I'm not so sure, i get turned down a hell of alot!i don't know how old you are, but why not have guy friends, nothing serious, just friends to go out and have fun with? there is nothing wrong in that. it is good to have friends of both sexes, for the right reasons. don't rush yourself into a relationship, just have friends. if you fancy one, that is one thing, but in the meanwhile, enjoy meeting different ones and having fun!
bithiah2
But I suck with guys, its easy on the internet,and I am growing in confidence
but yeah...My best friend isnt a guy!Thanks for all the advice guys
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Strange? Maybe, but I was the same way. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with social dating when you're that age. I went out with a few girls and it was just for fun. No plans to get married, nothing too heavy emotionally, nothing beyond kissing. If either of us wanted to get married soon, things might have been different, but we just enjoyed each others company in the meantime. Good memories. Though it was sad when we had to move on (college etc.) I have no regrets. As long as you're careful about who you date, and you respect each others boundaries, it's certainly possible.Thankyou, I really want to have a boyfriend in my teenage years, but I want to be mid twenties when I marry...strange
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I agree, good advice ListeningEars.
BeautifulWorshiper, enjoy your younger years (but of coarse guard your heart, physical boundaries, etc. as suggested). bithiah2 had some good suggestions also about just having friends. Having dates in groups can make things more enjoyable. Your friends will be able to give you some outside perspective and accountablility (esp. if their Christian). Are there any Godly women that can act as a mentor in your church? they also will have good insight and maybe help to encourage you in your walk. Have you read Boundaries in Dating?
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