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Am i the only one miserable every single day?

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Don't worry, I realized that god must have a sense of humor since we need to laugh to get through the worse of times. even in Corinthians or Ephesians it mentions how they were joyful in their time of persecution. Do you really think they were their being dogmatic.
simply finding amusement in their situation, probably to keep them sane. and hopeful.
How can one go through their worse times without being of joy. and yes the world will hate you. but you know what. The funny thing, the world hates no matter what you do.
If your sad. they hate you for it. if your happy they hate you for it. If your Christian they hate you for it. if your something else they will still hate you for it.
But mainly for being Christian because it flares peoples arrogance to have someone be dare I say, I will. BETTER THAN THEM.

that flares most peoples sense of arrogance.

Surpassing someone like its forbidden to be better. oh dear no. what is this world coming to when you can't make the attempt and improve yourself because others ego's. But still and important to know that a sad face makes the heart glad.

Jesus's yoke is the essential process of life being transcended into what was once held to us as water and pure. Through our difficulties which we were not innocent, other wise we would still find the beauty easily crying out where we had done no wrong. But sure we would feel satisfied with our sadness if we did.
We get mixed up with others transgressions and turn away from our chance to have the easy path what now seems like a simple slap on the wrist and we endure and suffer more just to enter into life. But it is still there. To think it is possible to be thankful for all the suffering one has gone through at the end of their life. That is grace.

Gee, I'm confused.
What do you mean "better than them"?
 
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People start rivalries with people everywhere apparently.

One of the main complaints of a workplace is having someone who targets you to be competitive cuz your character kinda cramps their style and finess so in order to compliment them. They make you someone to compete with or hate you? uh yea I don't think I need to go into the etiquette of a work place but most people when they're the competitive type, don't like you being someone who they see as better than them. do not represent their character. Your not like them. But your character is something of inconvenience. they don't like that they have to be in denial of something like. "He/She's better than me"

Competitve people with ego's do exist right?
Being Christian I see that many Christians consider it something secular.

Its pathetic considering Islamic people and Jews and other religions appear to take it more seriously, maybe its because their traditions have a more extroverted appearance than wearing a cross necklace or WWJD wristband.

I sometimes feel like I can't read a Bible in public.
 
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I do pray and I do read my Bible but I'm still miserable. Personally I think this life is terrible and Ive noticed everyday I get on my phone and look up articles about how much I hate my job or my life. Literally everyday.

Is this normal? I mean I know life is tough and other people don't like life's responsibilities either for the most part but Im outright near tears everyday I wake up from start to finish with good reasons why.

I don't like working a 9-5 with absolutely no pay off because bills and taxes take all the money. What's worse is everyday is on repeat and I can't end myself because it leads to hell so I'm suppose to go on a corporate slave until retirement.

I don't like that other people are always doing things to inconvenience me. For example some person almost hit me today cause they jumped out Infront of me in their car. Now one of my apartment neighbors burnt their food and I can't breathe in my apartment. I open the windows but can't even get fresh air because my other neighbors smoke cigarettes to pollute the earth. Other people make my life miserable.

I dont like that many times I can't hear myself think because other people are talking or laughing outrageously loud when I'm in public. I go outside at lunch to get away from my co-workers just to think and i cant because they follow me. I'm not mad at them, I just don't like always dealing with people like co-workers. I feel like socializing wastes my time sometimes.

If anyone has seen the movie the accountant.... My mom says that's like me. The guy doesn't like too much conversation, is a minimalist, doesn't like noise that messes up his sensory control. I'm a more mild version of that.

I don't like that 99% of everything in America is a scam. Astronomical fees for everything that leave us in wage slavery until death.

But in general all of this makes my life seem like a never ending misery fest. I'm trapped in a world I hate and can't even do what I want because God says I'll burn.

I despise I only have a few years on this planet and am so hung up on just trying to survive corporate America I can hardly appreciate God cause all I can do is think of how I don't want to be homeless.

What we sow we shall harvest the Scripture tells us. Sowing the 'seeds' of world's misery into your heart is reaping you a lot of misery and dissatisfaction bringing even more bad life in return for eating that and so you are court in a catch 22. I know very well how that goes - been there and done that heaps as well with the same results you are having.

The trick is to keep your eyes on Jesus and not on this world, your own fleshly misery, or satan lying his head off to you about everything sowing his desolation into you. See when we look at Jesus then we see and experience everything different for Jesus puts everything upside down to how this world would have it. Which in effect will mean that those negative forces so powerful and rich in your reality now will be utterly destroyed and God's promises will come down from heaven to enlighten your heart and mind with His good life right within you.

It is about leaving your bad life not about feeding it daily and letting it run out of control within you. That is why I advise you to give all your bad life to Jesus - time and again - until you are emptied out of that and Christ can rebuild you with His good life instead.

Fighting our own desolation is very difficult for we have deny ourselves the right to keep being negative and repent of being like that. Such is hard when bad life has our good life captive and it seems that by doing away with our bad life we loose all our good life in the process, however it really is about emptying ourselves out of bad life before Christ can rebuild us in His good life. So it is a bit of a river of blood going through such a process.

Praying you learn to keep your eyes on Jesus and not on this world, yourself, or satan laying through his teeth all the time.

Peace.


The Truth Of The Lie Ruling.
Who knows the truth of the lie ruling?
Who knows the deceiver deceived?
Who knows that unfaithful betrayer?
Who killed The Truth right within you?

Was it not lies spooking around from the dark?
Was it not bad life creeping up from behind?
Was your hair standing up straight meeting evil?
Was there a chill when you perished there all alone?

Isn't the truth of the lie hiding behind true you hurting?
Isn't the deceiver dwelling in your palaces as well?
Isn't his deceptive voice a ruler over your life at times?
Isn't your troubled mind the place the liar has his throne?

Check out the Big I ruling your gone astray life in you!
Check out the Big I always taking first place above you!
Check out the Big I thinking better of itself than you!
Check out The Big I 't heart of The Lie himself you!

True self sadly dies at the murderous hand of the lie!
True misery wells from the Abyss that is untrue self
Untrue lies hurts true self with an untimely death
True life is persecuted right within us by darkness.

Untrue you needs to be exposed by God's Word
Untrue you needs to be escaped in Holy Spirit
Untrue you can not remain forever in you!
Untrue you needs to make place for true you again!

You need to see Jesus on the clouds of Heaven,
You need to be shaped anew by His loving truth.
You need a new heart and a new (S)spirit
You need to be in the first resurrection to live.

Let the lie die and kneel before The Truth
Let lies hold drop into that bottomless pit
Let the misery all go down that drain for good.
Let you be a child of The Truth down here.
 
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I felt somewhat like that last year, constantly down, depressed, life wasn't going how I thought it should go. I feel better than i did last year but that's due to a change of habits and setting some goals before myself. My question is what do you want to do? Sounds like you hate your office job, sitting around for 8 hours also seems like torture to me. Do you exercise? What do with the free time you have at your disposal?

I work in my freetime at escaping my 9-5. It's the only thing I think about. I work on business, hobbies, side gigs anything I think I I can do to make money, I also spend a lot of time doing self help I stuff because Im always sick and depressed feeling. I also listen to asmr and positive affirmations sometimes to calm down my anxiety. Im 90% sure i have a genetic mental illness. I mean I'm shocked I turned out this normal, getting through college with a 3.0 in biochemistry and holding down a job and paying bills. Definitely God. My moms schizophrenic and manic depressive bipolar and her mom also had mental problems and my mom raised me. So its like constant dealing with people at this 9-5 and all while I'm miserable is draining. I get so fed up coworkers always following me and i cant escape them! They are nice but won't leave me alone. I almost miss when people don't like me so they don't constantly follow me and drain my energy with non stop socializing. Anyway i constantly brainstorm ways to get out of 9-5. I can't enjoy anything until I'm free it's like an obsession and constant fear hanging over my head. I don't sleep well at night knowing someone else has that kinda power over my life.
 
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I work in my freetime at escaping my 9-5. It's the only thing I think about. I work on business, hobbies, side gigs anything I think I I can do to make money, I also spend a lot of time doing self help I stuff because Im always sick and depressed feeling. I also listen to asmr and positive affirmations sometimes to calm down my anxiety. Im 90% sure i have a genetic mental illness. I mean I'm shocked I turned out this normal, getting through college with a 3.0 in biochemistry and holding down a job and paying bills. Definitely God. My moms schizophrenic and manic depressive bipolar and her mom also had mental problems and my mom raised me. So its like constant dealing with people at this 9-5 and all while I'm miserable is draining. I get so fed up coworkers always following me and i cant escape them! They are nice but won't leave me alone. I almost miss when people don't like me so they don't constantly follow me and drain my energy with non stop socializing. Anyway i constantly brainstorm ways to get out of 9-5. I can't enjoy anything until I'm free it's like an obsession and constant fear hanging over my head. I don't sleep well at night knowing someone else has that kinda power over my life.

I'm not an expert and I don't know if the advice I'm about to give would be useful, but I would say It's helped my life out a lot. Perhaps you could try doing some daily exercise, even if it's only thirty minute jogs around your street. The achievement of doing really intense exercise that leaves you tired afterwards can definitely help in making you less depressed.

Another thing I might suggest, though it seems out of your comfort zone is not avoid your fellow employees. Engage with them, befriend them even. I go through a similar thing with my own work and have only just really begun to connect with my co-workers. I actually enjoy the idea of going to work when I know there's someone I can talk with. I'm saying this as someone with Asperger's and socialising issues as well. I usually dread starting a conversation or doing something different but once begun it can make me a lot happier.

Do you go to church regularly? Consider confiding with someone you trust, preferably someone older as a confessor, someone who has experience. I don't know about your church's tradition but in historical Orthodoxy a confessor is someone whom we entrust our spiritual lives to, we submit ourselves to their rule for their experience and wisdom.

Finally you perhaps need to come to terms with the idea that you aren't in control of your life. A couple of years ago I really wanted to find a girlfriend and possibly get married and only slowly and quite painfully am I becoming open to the idea that I might never marry or find someone. Things I thought about five years ago did not come to exact fruition yet by a strange coincidence things have gotten better. I won't lie and say your depression and anxieties will be easy to get through, they will be hard and at times you might even hate God and the world ( a healthy thing when done shortly and after coming to a realisation that it is unjust ultimately to hate God for giving us a life in the first place), but that's life.

I don't know if this helps, it seems you might do better with psychiatric advice though that might be difficult depending on your financial situation. If you really think you need it you should probably take on that expense. A good man to listen to and watch in that regard is Jordan Peterson. His youtube lectures are available for free and I've found them quite enlightening especially on some of the strategies he suggests when trying to help patients. Perhaps you can apply them to your own life.

I hope this helps. May God guide you through this struggle which we call life.
 
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People start rivalries with people everywhere apparently.

One of the main complaints of a workplace is having someone who targets you to be competitive cuz your character kinda cramps their style and finess so in order to compliment them. They make you someone to compete with or hate you? uh yea I don't think I need to go into the etiquette of a work place but most people when they're the competitive type, don't like you being someone who they see as better than them. do not represent their character. Your not like them. But your character is something of inconvenience. they don't like that they have to be in denial of something like. "He/She's better than me"

Competitve people with ego's do exist right?
Being Christian I see that many Christians consider it something secular.

Its pathetic considering Islamic people and Jews and other religions appear to take it more seriously, maybe its because their traditions have a more extroverted appearance than wearing a cross necklace or WWJD wristband.

I sometimes feel like I can't read a Bible in public.

Nothing wrong as such with being competitive.What does make a difference though,is how you go about your competing with others...There is Ego in everyone,but,not everyone will stick to playing fair nor do they always have a good-attitude.In competition though,the sad thing is, One-upmanship rears its ugly head somewhere,sometime in most people.
 
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I do pray and I do read my Bible but I'm still miserable. Personally I think this life is terrible

I've even thought of being homeless in a van just to have a few moments of freedom
There's a whole segment of the population today
living in tent cities across the untied statess,
and in vans - websites set up showing how many and how they
like not having a lot of the troubles they had before moving into a
van as their "mobile home" - a lot of possiblities there, with hopefully no more danger , and a lot less stress ..... as noted the next few quotes >>>
This is why some people deliberately choose homelessness. Otherwise you feel like you're stuck running on a never-ending treadmill.

But I think sometimes when we hit rock bottom and make desperate choices like homelessness, we increase our chances of a positive change. There is more room for grace. God's help.
We need to get fresh eyes anyway. To get away from the rat race and have a fresh perspective.

Sorry for all these posts angel, but if I can just add. My greatest fear is knocking on a sibling's door and saying "hey can I stay with you for a while? I need a roof over my head." Pride makes me stubborn. I'd rather stay outside in the cold and rain, than do that.

That's how I am too actually.
 
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I do pray and I do read my Bible but I'm still miserable. Personally I think this life is terrible and Ive noticed everyday I get on my phone and look up articles about how much I hate my job or my life. Literally everyday.

Is this normal? I mean I know life is tough and other people don't like life's responsibilities either for the most part but Im outright near tears everyday I wake up from start to finish with good reasons why.

I don't like working a 9-5 with absolutely no pay off because bills and taxes take all the money. What's worse is everyday is on repeat and I can't end myself because it leads to hell so I'm suppose to go on a corporate slave until retirement.

I don't like that other people are always doing things to inconvenience me. For example some person almost hit me today cause they jumped out Infront of me in their car. Now one of my apartment neighbors burnt their food and I can't breathe in my apartment. I open the windows but can't even get fresh air because my other neighbors smoke cigarettes to pollute the earth. Other people make my life miserable.

I dont like that many times I can't hear myself think because other people are talking or laughing outrageously loud when I'm in public. I go outside at lunch to get away from my co-workers just to think and i cant because they follow me. I'm not mad at them, I just don't like always dealing with people like co-workers. I feel like socializing wastes my time sometimes.

If anyone has seen the movie the accountant.... My mom says that's like me. The guy doesn't like too much conversation, is a minimalist, doesn't like noise that messes up his sensory control. I'm a more mild version of that.

I don't like that 99% of everything in America is a scam. Astronomical fees for everything that leave us in wage slavery until death.

But in general all of this makes my life seem like a never ending misery fest. I'm trapped in a world I hate and can't even do what I want because God says I'll burn.

I despise I only have a few years on this planet and am so hung up on just trying to survive corporate America I can hardly appreciate God cause all I can do is think of how I don't want to be homeless.

You aren't the only one, unfortunately.
 
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I feel the same as you, I work in corporate America and I am so sick of it. Try to find some kind of balance in your life between your work and your free time. Spend time with friends and family, focus on some hobbies or other interest. You need to give yourself an escape in order to recharge your batteries. When you're not at work try to block it out of your mind. Go for walks in nature or a quiet place where you can be alone that helps me a lot. Sometimes it's hard to pray when you feel really down, so try to just focus on God without actually saying or thinking anything and just feel God's presence. Just know that he is there and understands everything you need and all you are feeling without you saying anything.



You have more control than you realize. Remember you're in charge of your life, you can make a change if you want to. Take a look at this article here to help you get started. I'm working on this too but for me I have a lot of dependents so it might be easier for you to get free.

Meet Mr. Money Mustache

I also recommend this video.

lost me at "diversified portfolio"!
 
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I think this life is terrible
Yes, as written in Scripture it is terrible.
Is this normal?
Yes, for the world as it is, everywhere, this is normal. (as written in Scripture)
I don't like that 99% of everything in America is a scam. Astronomical fees for everything that leave us in wage slavery until death.
Yes, this is good that you don't like things as they are. (things as they are are very evil, wickedness everywhere, greedy everywhere, scams everywhere).


A long time ago, I saw this also. (it is only by grace anyone realizes this).

A long time ago, Jesus lived and died for me and for everyone who calls on Him in truth to live His Life.

A long time ago, YHWH provised peace and joy, in this lifetime, to all who call on Him.

He Keeps His Promise. He always Keeps His Word. It is TRUTH, always.

So with all the opposition of evil and wickednesses in the world,
all the evil lives of family, friends, governments, agencies, churches, etc etc etc,

with all the world / society/ a scam/

He gives us peace and joy that no one can take from us. (not like the worldly churches discuss or teach; they don't know).....

Jesus says "no one who puts their trust in Me will ever be disappointed."

This is TRUTH.
 
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