If God has decreed all things that come to pass, it’s easy to understand how we should give thanks in all things.
Even for the rape of a little girl, say, or the murder of an entire family savaged and then burned to death in their own home? For genocide? And adultery? We should give thanks for these things God has decreed to come to pass? Really?
We may not always understand these things, especially the tragic, but we can still be thankful even through tears and mourning. We know that God’s plan will bring Him glory.
Oh? How is God glorified by making Him the Ultimate Source of all the vilest, most horrific evil of humanity?
My question is for those who don’t think that God decrees all that comes to pass. How do you give thanks to God in all things if He’s not in charge of all things?
If we are to give thanks literally for all things, then why does Paul bother in Ephesians 5 to approve some behaviours and forbid others? If a man treats his wife badly, has God not decree that he should? And if God has so decreed his evil conduct, who are we to object to it? If a wife disrespects her husband, it is only ultimately because God has decreed that she should. Why, then, protest her behaviour? It's ultimately God's doing, not hers. If she is to act differently, it must be by God's decree, not by Paul telling her how she ought to behave, right?
Of course, this is very bizarre thinking, to me. I cannot believe that when Paul wrote that we ought to give thanks for all things that he meant
literally for us to give thanks for everything, however evil and destructive or utterly trivial, any more than he meant that we should be giving thanks literally always, twenty-four hours a day, in every single moment, regardless of the fact we might be unconscious, undergoing surgery, or asleep, or so caught in pain, writhing in agony from it, that we cannot hold a coherent thought in our head, or distracted by some dangerous but necessary activity that demands all of our immediate attention, and so on. Whatever Paul meant, it wasn't that we should take his words absolutely literally, as you seem to think we should.
Does the rest of Scripture give me any clue as to how to take Paul's words? Well, I think of King David's prayers in the Psalms in which he complains and despairs of many things. He doesn't give thanks to God for every evil thing he mentions. Does God demand of Job that he give thanks for the destruction of his children and for the pox he suffered? Not that I'm aware of. Does God tell Job that these things were thankworthy in-and-of themselves? No. How about Paul? Does he ever acknowledge that an event in his life was negative in some way without also giving thanks for it? Yes, a number of times.
In light of these things, I give thanks to God as often as I can for all the thankworthy things I can. I don't, however, stretch Paul's words to the point of ridiculousness, as you seem to think I should.