Alcoholics and Addicts Discussion/Support Thread

[New Creation]

Hello MarkChristopher !

God bless you for reaching out. I've been there too friend. Believe me, it gets better when Jesus is there. I'm praying for you and I hope you come back soon.

Father in Heaven,
I thank you for your precious child MarkChristopher and I thank you for giving him the courage to seek out help for his addicition to alcohol. I also thank you Lord for giving him the wisdom to realize that he has a problem.
Father, give him strength to continue this journey of discovery. Give him clarity and a vision of his future without alcohol. I pray Lord that MarkChristopher will reach out to you and ask you to be his guide and his love forevermore. I pray Lord that you give his wife patience and rays of hope for her future with her husband. Keep them safe Lord. Thank you for your Son Jesus, who makes ALL healing possible. In His name I pray, through your gift to us, the Holy Spirit,
Amen.

 

[HawaiianTropicalDude]

don't know if I have a problem,my job is causing me to hang out with them and drink way too much.I certainly don't think I'm an alcoholic but my drinking is causing me to be an idiot.

 

[GabrielW]

don't know if I have a problem,my job is causing me to hang out with them and drink way too much.I certainly don't think I'm an alcoholic but my drinking is causing me to be an idiot.

That's up to you to decide but you can always check out open AA meetings

 

[HawaiianTropicalDude]

no thanks----

 

[Missy55]

Dearest Sisters and Brothers,

There is also a very good Christian recovery program that has spread across the country, called Celebrate Recovery. If you find it difficult to go to AA you may want to try Celebrate...based on the Be Attitudes which is where the 12 Steps originated from.
May our Father surround you with loving brothers and sisters to help lighten your path!!

 

[GabrielW]

Noce I've never heard of that

 

[Harlan Norris]

The desire to quit drinking and drugging is often mitigated by the desire to keep drinking and drugging. My entire adult life was spent as a drug addict and alchoholic. I never really looked at it that way though. In my mind it was just something I did to take the edge off. It did cause me major problems in my work and personal life. My answer to this was they were a bunch of judgemental, ect. Oh I tried to quit. Several times I'd stop for a while then begin again with greater vigor. I finally realised that I'd been blaming everyone but the true culprit. I saw that I basically had a fake personal i.d. that allowed me to do just about whatever I pleased. However all the things that I'd done. They were what I did. The influence of others . That was what they did. My reaction. That was what I did. All my life I'd made excuses and taken the easy way out. It was facing this fact that made it possible for me to come to grips with the true nature of my life. I realised that I didn't have the strength to overcome on my own. I had been seeking God through Bible prophesy. I came to Christ through an internet site I stumbled across. www.purextc.org. Over the following year with Gods help I shed the addictions. God has granted me over two years of freedom, even the desire is gone! I'm a changed man. The key is repentance. If one truley is full of regret, and truly askes for forgiveness, God will grant you your freedom. He granted me mine!

 

[SOTK]

The desire to quit drinking and drugging is often mitigated by the desire to keep drinking and drugging. My entire adult life was spent as a drug addict and alchoholic. I never really looked at it that way though. In my mind it was just something I did to take the edge off. It did cause me major problems in my work and personal life. My answer to this was they were a bunch of judgemental, ect. Oh I tried to quit. Several times I'd stop for a while then begin again with greater vigor. I finally realised that I'd been blaming everyone but the true culprit. I saw that I basically had a fake personal i.d. that allowed me to do just about whatever I pleased. However all the things that I'd done. They were what I did. The influence of others . That was what they did. My reaction. That was what I did. All my life I'd made excuses and taken the easy way out. It was facing this fact that made it possible for me to come to grips with the true nature of my life. I realised that I didn't have the strength to overcome on my own. I had been seeking God through Bible prophesy. I came to Christ through an internet site I stumbled across. www.purextc.org. Over the following year with Gods help I shed the addictions. God has granted me over two years of freedom, even the desire is gone! I'm a changed man. The key is repentance. If one truley is full of regret, and truly askes for forgiveness, God will grant you your freedom. He granted me mine!

Awesome! We indeed have freedom in Christ! When we realize our identity in Christ who crucified our old sin nature on the Cross, we realize we are Children of God and free!

 

[SOTK]

don't know if I have a problem,my job is causing me to hang out with them and drink way too much.I certainly don't think I'm an alcoholic but my drinking is causing me to be an idiot.

Well, don't drink then and don't hang out with those guys.

 

[xianlexavier]

are there any NA groups in kentucky? inhalant abuse i seem to cannot get over. and if not, are there any verses from the bible i can say to myself to stop the voices? they caused me to start inhaling l.t. i hate it with a passion!

any guidance would we greatly appreciated!
Lex

 

[MarkChristopher]

Hello All. I just wanted to let you know that I am still here. I believe that I am doing as well as con be expected. I have good days when I fell really good, yet I also have days where I feel my stress level is at an unbelievable high.

But I will continue on. With God's help and your kind words I know I'll be sucessful.

Thanks again for you support!

God bless you all!

 

[SOTK]

are there any NA groups in kentucky? inhalant abuse i seem to cannot get over. and if not, are there any verses from the bible i can say to myself to stop the voices? they caused me to start inhaling l.t. i hate it with a passion!

any guidance would we greatly appreciated!
Lex

The only voice you should be listening to is Christ's. Any other voice you listen to is from your sinful flesh.

AA and NA are everywhere. Call the hotline in your area for either two organizations and they will let you know where the nearest meeting is to you. The number should be found in your phone book. You can also find the NA website online. I am sure that can help you as well. I would also suggest you talking with your Pastoral staff about this issue if you haven't already done so.

Verses (prayers/songs) from Psalms help me out a lot!

In Christ,

SOTK

 

[xianlexavier]

The only voice you should be listening to is Christ's. Any other voice you listen to is from your sinful flesh.

AA and NA are everywhere. Call the hotline in your area for either two organizations and they will let you know where the nearest meeting is to you. The number should be found in your phone book. You can also find the NA website online. I am sure that can help you as well. I would also suggest you talking with your Pastoral staff about this issue if you haven't already done so.

Verses (prayers/songs) from Psalms help me out a lot!

In Christ,

SOTK

you are right! and before i hop onto the NA, i will go to my Pastoral Staff! i want God to help me through this, I want to rely on Him, put Him first, since He is first in my life.

Thank you for referral of Psalms! I have ignorantly forgot about it - and it's even in my signature!
Take care, and thanks again!
-Lex

 

[TheMainException]

are there any NA groups in kentucky? inhalant abuse i seem to cannot get over. and if not, are there any verses from the bible i can say to myself to stop the voices? they caused me to start inhaling l.t. i hate it with a passion!

any guidance would we greatly appreciated!
Lex

My friend....this sounds more like a mental disorder than straight up substance abuse....maybe a christian counselor would be in order to help you with both things at once.

 

[TheMainException]

Also...I just wanted to let you all know...that although I'm really in a strange world in my head right now still.....I'm alive...and haven't touched the drugs....I want to...but something keeps holding me back (there are many somethings that it could be....)fact is...I'd rather sleep than do drugs.....but I get the feeling that going out on my own means that more of this will be tossed in my face than ever......and it will come to the one thing of my whole life.....how much do I care? I'm not big on caring.....about much of anything...not now at least.....not really big on caring about God, eternal life...anything......and yet I keep thinking about it like it's the only thing in the world.....and yet....there is no feeling that is clinging to it...I guess that it's all just become another monotonous event of life that continues on....but the fact is....I'm clean.....I'm safe from it for now.....

 

[MarkChristopher]

Hello all. I'd like to say that I've continued to make positive progress in my fight to stay sober. Unfortunately I've backslid. My spouse is pretty much at her wits end, and I can certainly see why. So I guess its back to square one for me. This is a really hard demon to throw off.

 

[TheMainException]

I was doing some catnip last night....and as much as many people don't think it's a drug even, it is...so back off....but man....later I had a horrid coughing fit and couldn't sleep, finally I got some nightquil ...but now I'm back to coughing again....not to mention the fact that catnip tastes nasty.

 

[tiredmom]

Yeah, I backslid myself, MC.

Things were going very nicely, very positive, my medication seemed to be keeping me stable (Lamictal for bipolar disorder...a mood stabilizer). I had grand plans of getting involved at church, meeting up with the praise choir on Wednesday, finishing the paint job in our bathroom.

Yesterday, I got drunk. Not raving drunk, but "comfortably numb", beer half the day. I don't know why. I just did.

Last night, I went out to cover up some concrete bags we've been trying to use, because the rain was on its way; I misjudged the weight of the first one I tried to move. Dropped an 80 lb. bag of concrete on the top of my foot-- the foot I've already broken twice in my life. (This mishap wasn't due to the beer buzz...but the horrible pain in my foot following it did lead me to have some more beer to try and kill the pain.) The bags never did get covered...they are probably ruined by now.

As a result, I just laid on the couch with my foot up, crying, in pain, trying to watch the ballgame. Couldn't walk on it, didn't have any interest in supper, just sat there in pain. Finally went to bed when the game was over...10:30 or 11:00, I guess it was. (I really have to go to bed at a regular time, before 10:00, or it has an adverse effect on me mental health wise.)

Today, I feel sickly. Not quite like a hangover. No, I feel more sickly, as in I hate what I did, I am ashamed before God and before you all, and just want it all to go back to being like it was all last week. Life was beautiful, and positive. I want it to go back to being like it was two years ago, before my mom died, when we were homeschooling, when I was really walking with the Lord.

My husband told me gently several weeks ago, that he is worried about me, and that if something is bothering me, I can talk to him about it. At the time, I really couldn't have said what was wrong with me, why I wanted to binge on beer so much. I know it's no excuse, but just now I think it occurred to me. I am grieving deeply, for the way things used to be. I love our new home, our new town, our new state. But what I'm grieving for is who I used to be...and I think also, who I was before the diagnosis confirmed that I inherited the disorder that has haunted my family for years. Confirmed that I'm one of them. Confirmed that I'm broken inside. I am grieving deeply for the walk I used to have...I am grieving deeply for the joy I had in 2003, before all of these changes came about. I am hurting inside. I want to talk to my husband, now that I have some clue...but as loving as he is, he will still probably give me that "Pull yourself up by the bootstraps" speech...I know he thinks I'm such a crybaby. I didn't get much sympathy from him last night about my foot...but when our 7 y.o. got a can of tuna dropped on her foot later, and she was in a flood of tears, he fawned over her, and hugged her, and sympathized with her.

I know, I know-- it's no excuse for drinking. But I think these are the reasons that drove me to it. All that grieving, the feeling that I've lost something.

Please pray for me....I know you all have troubles of your own, you need prayer probably more than I do, you certainly don't need my problems too. But I so need the Lord to forgive me, to pick me up and carry me, to change me, to give me back that joy of my salvation that I once knew. I am ashamed to go to church...I feel so out of place. Everyone else appears to be so "normal". I guess the devil just gloats over the fact I feel this way. It just falls right into his design.

Please just pray for me, that I'll shake myself out of this, that I will stay sober again, like I once was.

~~Laurie


"I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do, I do not do, but what I hate I do." Romans 7:15, NIV

 

[tiredmom]

Another problem I have...my husband has a beer after work, if they are here. He can have just one or two, and he's fine. It stops there. If there's no beer in the house, I won't usually have any. But even then, if I'm feeling overwhelmed or not liking myself, I will go out and buy some anyway. Or at times, he'll ask me to pick some up for him before he gets home. Or he'll grab a 12 pack on his way home.

I don't believe he's an alcoholic...but I do believe, if this isn't put to a stop right now, I'm well on my way to being one. He doesn't like to be told that he can't have beer in the house just because I "have no self control"...he's actually told me that before. So I don't see him being of much help in that way. (siigh)

Lord, help me with this. I want to be what You want me to be.

 

[MarkChristopher]

Sorry to hear of your accident...a broken foot certainly does hurt.

I'm a lot like yourself. I'm tired of feeling lousy all the time, and what the long term affects have been on my health. I am determined to beat this and to live a more healthy lifestyle. I really can't afford to do anything else.

Take care of yourself tiredmom. I'll be praying for you!

Regards!