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MehGuy

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Bodybuilding is for gay men.:p

Well for me it's either build muscles, or be a skinny stick. Lol.

I've tried desperately to add fat to no avail.
 
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Well for me it's either build muscles, or be a skinny stick. Lol.

I've tried desperately to add fat to no avail.

You know, my bro-in-law was exactly like you (except for being a little taller) at your age, but once he hit 30 or so he filled out in all the right ways. For a lot of men they're really, really lean for most of their younger adulthood and don't fill out/start gaining more weight until their late twenties to early thirties. You're younger than me, MehGuy, so I think you just need to give it some more time.
 
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You know, my bro-in-law was exactly like you (except for being a little taller) at your age, but once he hit 30 or so he filled out in all the right ways. For a lot of men they're really, really lean for most of their younger adulthood and don't fill out/start gaining more weight until their late twenties to early thirties. You're younger than me, MehGuy, so I think you just need to give it some more time.

Yeah but my skeletal frame is petite. Think along the lines of Seth Green. Lol. I don't think he'll ever get fat.

My father is almost sixty and still pretty much like me.
 
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Yeah but my skeletal frame is petite. Think along the lines of Seth Green. Lol. I don't think he'll ever get fat.

My father is almost sixty and still pretty much like me.

Lol. I'm sorry, I know it frustrates you.

Anyway. I know a guy about your age who is not only shorter than you, but definitely skinnier, and he's married with kids now. So there's obviously chicks out there who love skinny dudes. :D
 
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Lol. I'm sorry, I know it frustrates you.

Anyway. I know a guy about your age who is not only shorter than you, but definitely skinnier, and he's married with kids now. So there's obviously chicks out there who love skinny dudes. :D

I still have chicks into me. I don't know how you know he's skinnier than me but if he's shorter it's a possibility.

All I can really do is bulk up. And while I'll never have wide shoulders, at least being filled out should be good for my image.
 
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Nice. Go you Eddie Murphy! If I were famous I'd lord and be as blunt about dating younger women. And try to make it more and more culturally acceptable. Lol.

I'm only endorsing this, because as a society we're getting more blatant and blatant about the importance of taller men.

I'd like to see both genders feel inadequate about their bodies as much as possible. I have absolutely no faith in feminists/sjws being fair when it comes to body positivity and acceptance for men. We're just going to make sure the standards are as rigid and strict for both genders.
 
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He can most definitely afford it.

I'm only endorsing this, because as a society we're getting more blatant and blatant about the importance of taller men.

You do realize that most big time movies starts are short. Eddie Murphy is not that tall and everybody from Michael J Fox to Danny DeVito are the biggest starts of all time.

In the 30's and 40's the biggest starts were Mickey Rooney who was only 5'2" and James Cagney who was only 5'7". Even Humphry Bogart was only 5'8" which I bet is stretching it.

Napoleon was only 5'7".
 
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He can most definitely afford it.



You do realize that most big time movies starts are short. Eddie Murphy is not that tall and everybody from Michael J Fox to Danny DeVito are the biggest starts of all time.

In the 30's and 40's the biggest starts were Mickey Rooney who was only 5'2" and James Cagney who was only 5'7". Even Humphry Bogart was only 5'8" which I bet is stretching it.

Napoleon was only 5'7".

Hitler was only 5'8", lol.

Although I don't think their stature counts as short acceptance if they're made to look taller in films, or their short height is hardly noticeable. From a film making prospective I can see why shots would look better with couples who are closer to height.
 
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Well isn't that the case if we just look at appearance? A girl in her early 20's looks the best. That's as beautiful as she will get. That chart is pretty accurate.

But Christians shouldn't just look at appearances. God warned us in Proverbs 31:30 that looks are deceptive. Now appearances are important too. However a Christian should focus on the heart. Does she fear the Lord? Does she displayed fruits of the spirit? etc.

I do find it interesting that as the ladies grow older, they find older man to have better appearance. Is this really the case? I just don't see how a lady can honestly look at the same man in his 20's and then his 40's, and say he literally looks better in his 40's. Does she see that beer belly?
I think theyve just learned to wear underwear on the inside instead of hanging on the outside. Also by that time they might have learned how to groom themselves and wear proper clothes instead of t shirts with cartoon characters and rock bands on them. Also the difference between a boy and a man is that a man can look after himself but a boy needs a mother. Well you end up mothering a boy, if hes too immature, instead of dating a man. If he doesnt know how to tie his own shoelaces and needs someone to do it for him, you know in future he will create more laundry and ironing for you. Undateable.
 
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wear proper clothes instead of t shirts with cartoon characters and rock bands on them.

What's wrong with T-shirts with cartoon characters or rock bands on them? Granted, there are many situations where it's not advisable to wear them, but if it's somewhere where casual clothing is acceptable then why not?
 
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Uh, why we talking about sexual attractiveness here. I dont think thats got anything to do with it frankly unless the older party is a predator preying on the younger. For christians we need to be wary of that.

Some people think because you are young and likely to be a virgin, that is most attractive and they can take advantage of it.
 
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I think theyve just learned to wear underwear on the inside instead of hanging on the outside. Also by that time they might have learned how to groom themselves and wear proper clothes instead of t shirts with cartoon characters and rock bands on them. Also the difference between a boy and a man is that a man can look after himself but a boy needs a mother. Well you end up mothering a boy, if hes too immature, instead of dating a man. If he doesnt know how to tie his own shoelaces and needs someone to do it for him, you know in future he will create more laundry and ironing for you. Undateable.

For Christians this goes beyond immaturity. If a husband doesn't even help his wife with house chores, he isn't demonstrating his love for her. If he doesn't know how to tie his shoelaces, among other things, he better learn quick. If he say it is boring, has he ever considered that it is also boring for his wife? etc

A man can be lazy at work as long as he doesn't get fired (although he should have worked hard there too to glorify God, but oh well.) But if a man is lazy at his own home and doesn't help his wife and kids, he is pretty much sinning by not loving his family.

Love is demonstrated through actions, not words. =)
 
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Uh, why we talking about sexual attractiveness here. I dont think thats got anything to do with it frankly unless the older party is a predator preying on the younger. For christians we need to be wary of that.

Some people think because you are young and likely to be a virgin, that is most attractive and they can take advantage of it.

I love older women. I would rather have an older woman in most cases. Granted young women can wear their clothes tighter than anybody on the planet but an older woman who knows how to dress drives me wild. I am not into blonds so much but for an example I will use Kelly Ripa. She is not really that pretty and if you see her in a swim suit she looks like a 12 year old boy but she knows how to dress and that drives me wild. Her fashion sense means she is smart and knows how to please her man.

Women of older age (my age) who know how to keep themselves together are way hotter and prettier than a 20 year old in my opinion.

Years ago I use to work in a retail store that was about fashion. I would see it all. I would see young girls and older women. There was nothing like seeing an older woman who was put together well. Men like lines that are pretty. We like specific guns because they have nice lines, we like specific cars because they have nice lines, we like boats and war plains because they have nice lines. An older woman who is put together well is the same thing, they have nice lines and really knock me out.

When I say older women I am not saying older than me. I am saying 35 to 55 years old. I have even seen a few 60 year old women who could give any girl a run for her money.
 
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