I feel terrible. In spite of having a genetic illness, passed down to me from my parents, they have shown me little compassion and care (I'm the youngest of 3, not so young anymore, I'm in my 30s now). They've threatened to kick me out and have wanted me to contribute financially since I was in college, not even working, just trying to get my education (which was a priority for them) and manage life with the little health I had. They would take money that school would refund me from financial aid to pay the bills though they didn't really give me pocket money. When I graduated high school, they took all the money people gave me as gifts and said that it was a gift to God and used it to pay their church mortgage. I know their financial situation has been tough, but they also made some poor decisions. They resented having us, blaming us for their financial problems because they never finished school before having kids. They have their charity work that they do in their home country and they collect money from people to help their charity back home. They talk about how much they help people and glory in the fact that they are helping better people's lives. Meanwhile I am here living with them, not benefitting from having them as my parents, though they do provide a roof over my head (I contribute financially as well). Sometimes I feel guilty and feel that I should contribute more to the finances of the house but then I see the poor financial decisions they make, such as spending money on what is not necessary, while bills need to be paid and necessities wait. I've never been able to accept the gospel from them, in spite of the fact that they are church leaders. I've been thinking of relocating recently, however, it would be hard for me to live on my own. I have not discussed this with them as they lash out at me and verbally abuse me when I need anything from them, so I have learned not to depend on them unless absolutely unavoidably necessary. The tentative plan is to relocate with my sister. I just think it's so ironic that while they are bragging about helping others they're not even helping me, in spite of the fact of my illness. My mom has verbally abused me during hospital stays to the point where I have gone to the emergency room and kept it secret from her. Thank God my health has improved over the years and my quality of life has improved with many interventions. God has been faithful. It's just an awful situation. I don't currently contribute to their charity as my conscience won't allow me to support it, knowing that they treat us like so much garbage. In response my parents verbally abuse me, call me selfish, and constantly want me to give money. I'm wondering if my sister and I would do best relocating to a different city to escape their control and abuse (we do have bigger dreams for ourselves), or should I try to live on my own and what support systems might be available if I take the big step of moving to a city where I don't know anyone, or is it more advisable to stay local around people I already know. I'm sure I'm not wrong for not wanting to contribute to their charity when they have taken advantage of me financially in my earlier stages of life, as well as being abusive, right? Financially am I wrong for not giving them more money? As they're getting older, though my mom still works for now, I'd like to take over their finances though I'm not quite there yet, but hope to be very soon. How does this sound? Any advice would be appreciated please.