I have a friend who is starting to become sexually active. I know for a fact that she is very religous, but she keeps coming up with excuses as to why the things she does with her boyfriend are not wrong. Myself and another friend are going to sit her down and try to talk to her. We don't want her to get mad but we also don't want her to make a big mistake. If she keeps going the way she is, she will eventually have sex. But she kinda goes in spells. One minute, she thinks what she does is wrong, the next, it is not wrong. So any advice as to what we should say to her would be greatly appreciated.-
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a friend who is in trouble
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I have a friend who is starting to become sexually active. I know for a fact that she is very religous, but she keeps coming up with excuses as to why the things she does with her boyfriend are not wrong. Myself and another friend are going to sit her down and try to talk to her. We don't want her to get mad but we also don't want her to make a big mistake. If she keeps going the way she is, she will eventually have sex. But she kinda goes in spells. One minute, she thinks what she does is wrong, the next, it is not wrong. So any advice as to what we should say to her would be greatly appreciated.You can try discussing three topics with her.A.Heavy petting creates excitement in both guys and gals making it extremely hard,and if it continues,next to impossible to stop the fun until it reaches its climax.The point of no return frequently occurs as soon as a gal lets a guy put his hand under her clothing.B.Many teens are engaging in intercourse,or as the Bible calls it,fornication,without knowing the definition of intercourse.So here is a working definition:intercourse occurs when one person places any part of their body such as their tongue or finger inside any part of another person's body such as their mouth.C.Engaging in out of marriage intercourse is one of the few sins mentioned in the Bible that specifically sends people to hell.God has created extremely harsh punishment for sexual sins because He knows how hard it is for us to control our emotions and how easy it is to give in to temptation.What is so amazing is that even under the penalty of eternal hell,so many people find excuses for engaging in the sin.Sort of makes you begin to believe that we're in the last days before Jesus returns doesn't it?
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Greetings,
intercourse-Pronunciation: 'in-t&r-"kOrs, -"kors
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English intercurse, probably from Middle French entrecours, from Medieval Latin intercursus, from Latin, act of running between, from intercurrere to run between, from inter- + currere to run -- more at CAR
1 : connection or dealings between persons or groups
2 : exchange especially of thoughts or feelings : COMMUNION
3 : physical sexual contact between individuals that involves the genitalia of at least one person
Meekly remind her of the vital role of putting on the armor of God ; which begins with having our loins gird about with truth .
Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. <-----> Galatians 6:1
Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints
<-----> Ephesians 6:10-18
The act of sin is not the great loss - the forsaking of faithfulness is !
He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. <-----> John 14:21
Esteem the good and the godly .
Disesteem the vain and the foolhardy .
Sincerely ,
wm
intercourse-Pronunciation: 'in-t&r-"kOrs, -"kors
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English intercurse, probably from Middle French entrecours, from Medieval Latin intercursus, from Latin, act of running between, from intercurrere to run between, from inter- + currere to run -- more at CAR
1 : connection or dealings between persons or groups
2 : exchange especially of thoughts or feelings : COMMUNION
3 : physical sexual contact between individuals that involves the genitalia of at least one person
Meekly remind her of the vital role of putting on the armor of God ; which begins with having our loins gird about with truth .
Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. <-----> Galatians 6:1
Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints
<-----> Ephesians 6:10-18
The act of sin is not the great loss - the forsaking of faithfulness is !
He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. <-----> John 14:21
Esteem the good and the godly .
Disesteem the vain and the foolhardy .
Sincerely ,
wm
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I am not sure if this has been brought up yet, but here are my two cents...
Ask her if she is ready to have a child..spiritually, emotionally, financially. I am assuming that she is also your age, so she will definately say "no" if she any sense what so ever. Remind her that sex equals children. Even contraceptives are not 100%..in reality they aren't even close..I know two women that have gotten pregnant while on the pill so...And let's pretend she did have sex and got pregnant, what will she do then? Go through an abortion? Dump the kid with her parents? Give the kid up for adoption? Try and raise the poor child herself...how will she support it and see that it meets its potential? None of those options are good ones..so, hopefully with common sense screaming in her ear, she will choose abstinance.
Someone asked me about this not very long ago, as to what time is the right time in the contemporary world. I told the person that sex is only to be had if both people are in love and prepared to have children....
hope this has helped in some small way,
The mature decision, which is not the popular route these days, is too abstain. And any man or woman that is not ready to wait for their partner is only a pretender and lucifer's weak little pawn.
Ask her if she is ready to have a child..spiritually, emotionally, financially. I am assuming that she is also your age, so she will definately say "no" if she any sense what so ever. Remind her that sex equals children. Even contraceptives are not 100%..in reality they aren't even close..I know two women that have gotten pregnant while on the pill so...And let's pretend she did have sex and got pregnant, what will she do then? Go through an abortion? Dump the kid with her parents? Give the kid up for adoption? Try and raise the poor child herself...how will she support it and see that it meets its potential? None of those options are good ones..so, hopefully with common sense screaming in her ear, she will choose abstinance.
Someone asked me about this not very long ago, as to what time is the right time in the contemporary world. I told the person that sex is only to be had if both people are in love and prepared to have children....
hope this has helped in some small way,
The mature decision, which is not the popular route these days, is too abstain. And any man or woman that is not ready to wait for their partner is only a pretender and lucifer's weak little pawn.
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Keep at it if she is your real friend she will consiter your oppinion if it is so she won't do anything
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Let her know that you love her and God loves her even more, he will be sad if she has sex with her boyfriend, but he will still love her and will forgive her. Provide some scripture to back up what you say...I don't have any...but I'm sure others will...and if they don't look on blueletterbible.org or gospelcom.net or I think you may even be able to search for bible verses right here on CF. Continue to help people dear friend...you'll get mixed responses here...but pray on it and do what you feel is right...we are to warn the world...many Christians make the mistake of "minding their own business" and are letting people burn in hell because they aren't willing to get a little into the lives of others and get uncomfortable and out of their comfort zone by warning people...
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