- Dec 13, 2015
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So I had dinner with our churches lead elder and his wife the other day and my wife and I had a great time. My mom called me that morning and sounded very upset.
When my mom called I thought she had called to tell me my grandmother passed away but she wanted to know if I wanted Canadian pizza and poutine and wanted to treat me on the same day I was supposed to have dinner with my pastor. Well she got mad at me and my pastor because I chose my pastor over her and told her I had plans to go dinner with him and she was like "of course you have plans to go out with that crook" in her mind I'm sure.
It doesn't matter what I or what Larry does she thinks he's a crook who wants to steal my money and she thinks the only reason he wants anything to do with my wife and I is to take advantage of us. It doesn't matter how much I try to tell her that this isn't the case and the last time I've given our church anything over $10 was like 3 years ago (in fact we are barely even able to attend church as many people are aware because of my wife's job). But it doesn't matter how much Larry and I try to do to convince her she won't budge. She thinks he's a crooked pastor when in actuality if he was he would have been kicked out of the PCA long ago and wouldn't have become so well liked and so well respected within the presbytery.
It just upsets me everytime she calls him a crook or says he's just looking out for handouts from me because Larry is my best friend. We do everything together and talk over email almost constantly. He and his wife applaud my wife for working hard and trying to support me and applaud me for trying to take care of her. If they had their way they wouldn't be taking ANY money from us for the church but we alway insist on giving something when we attend because Jesus told us to. But if they had it their way they would accept donations from their other more well off members who can "afford" to give to the church.
What do you think I should do? Should I just try to ignore her? Because my dad cared less that we had plans when he wanted to treat us. He doesn't think Larry is a crook nor does he think that he is a bad guy he is trying to c I moletely stay out of the situation and maybe that's what I should do? I just think it's hard when Larry is my friend and she's openly calling him a crooked pastor. I mean, there are crooked pastors out there but he definitely is not one of them.
When my mom called I thought she had called to tell me my grandmother passed away but she wanted to know if I wanted Canadian pizza and poutine and wanted to treat me on the same day I was supposed to have dinner with my pastor. Well she got mad at me and my pastor because I chose my pastor over her and told her I had plans to go dinner with him and she was like "of course you have plans to go out with that crook" in her mind I'm sure.
It doesn't matter what I or what Larry does she thinks he's a crook who wants to steal my money and she thinks the only reason he wants anything to do with my wife and I is to take advantage of us. It doesn't matter how much I try to tell her that this isn't the case and the last time I've given our church anything over $10 was like 3 years ago (in fact we are barely even able to attend church as many people are aware because of my wife's job). But it doesn't matter how much Larry and I try to do to convince her she won't budge. She thinks he's a crooked pastor when in actuality if he was he would have been kicked out of the PCA long ago and wouldn't have become so well liked and so well respected within the presbytery.
It just upsets me everytime she calls him a crook or says he's just looking out for handouts from me because Larry is my best friend. We do everything together and talk over email almost constantly. He and his wife applaud my wife for working hard and trying to support me and applaud me for trying to take care of her. If they had their way they wouldn't be taking ANY money from us for the church but we alway insist on giving something when we attend because Jesus told us to. But if they had it their way they would accept donations from their other more well off members who can "afford" to give to the church.
What do you think I should do? Should I just try to ignore her? Because my dad cared less that we had plans when he wanted to treat us. He doesn't think Larry is a crook nor does he think that he is a bad guy he is trying to c I moletely stay out of the situation and maybe that's what I should do? I just think it's hard when Larry is my friend and she's openly calling him a crooked pastor. I mean, there are crooked pastors out there but he definitely is not one of them.
