Christian male 38 trying to get to know a 32 year old woman; is this parental behavior normal? This is my first actual dating experience

[Christianasking]

One thing I think of is don't blame anyone. Simply trust God now.

And if you don't, no one else controls this, right? I would say she needs someone who is a good friend for her, one who is wise to what is happening and is prayerfully ready to deal with whatsoever the reality really is. Love "bears all things" > in 1 Corinthians 13.

In my case, for some time I understood I needed to be ready to forgive anything with someone close to me. And do not let anything get to me. But this did not make me wise to make sure about what was going on with a person. So, I fell really hard for one person, after getting immoral with another. Then I could see I was not making sure with God. And that was what I had to do, no blaming anyone for fooling me.

Now I am with my lady friend, and plenty of things can be a problem. But I trusted God to rule if I got with someone or not; and I keep praying for Him to guide me in His peace, and here we are still. And love does me more good, than anything I might lose or miss out on. God's love is better than anything in this life.

Oh . . . and by the way . . . our Apostle Paul talks about how we need >

"faith working through love" > in Galatians 5:6.

So, faith is not only about believing and trusting, but how God's love makes this for us. And in this love we have creativity.

So, we are going to be stubborn. We are not going to give up on you!

I understand we shouldn't blame others, but certain actions and circumstances must be held accountable. Especially within the Christian community lest it continue and more are brought down, harmed or led astray.

I 100% know God is in full control, probably even believing to a degree that may feel stretched for some of my fellow believers. However, this has deeply harmed, and wounded me within my soul; to a degree I can't even explain or put into words. My encouraging, believing, praying, having faith, etc has been crushed to dust. The potter chisels away continually until we become the best version of the product; of course, in this situation God is working on each of us until we resembles His Son Jesus as close as possible here on earth. Regardless of who you are, everyone reaches a limit of reshaped, repaired and then too much will break them. If a vessel is fully broken.

Forgiving is a necessity and loving everyone is too, but watching people pretending to be Christians in both actions and words is not the same as in watching an atheist which doesn't know better or understand the Word.

At least one of us hasn't given up on me.

I hope you'll have a great Christmas Com7fy8, and a blessed start to your New Year. Thank you for sharing your heart and life with me. Helping me to try to find pieces.

 

[Christianasking]

For those who are his, God does not give up on them. I have thought before, that if God loved his own son so much and allowed him to go through for his people, all that he went through..then we cannot say God does not love us on the basis of hardship. Sorry to hear you were struggling with your faith; I hope at the end you can say that your faith has been strengthened or that you have truly found the peace of God, that you have his joy despite or even amidst the sorrows of life. After looking at this discussion I am reminded of a page I made which God willing may be helpful, which includes counseling options although I am not endorsing everything blanketly (I edited it today). Personally I have had counseling in person. I was also homeschooled but that is not what I was getting counseling for, haha! Blogger

Thank you Peachpilgrim. This is very true, I likewise hope one day I will look back at this forum, smile and be able to share it with others to help them. I am afraid the link you sent was a preview and I am unable to view it. I think there is a private message feature on here. You may send me the link there for your privacy. I have been thinking about counseling about this. Though I do not see this being able to be resolved there either.

I hope you'll have a great Christmas and start to your New Year!

 

[Christianasking]

Thank you also for all the others who have hoped on, given advice, insight and shared your stories. I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and a blessed start to your New Year! I appreciate and appreciated it!