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It's sad that it seems to be more common for young men to be celibate and single than young women.
But it also puts more pressure on men staying sexually moral.Which is actually an interesting shift in our society. Just few decades ago, women were the more decent gender, keeping the moral standards.
But currently, they seem to be the more decadent one, even in (at least evangelical) churches.
If its true, it does not matter how it sounds.And it sounds kind of sexist
Its a biblical requirement. It has evolutionary, sociological, psychological and spiritual reasons.I've seen too many crybaby men on here just devastated because a woman isn't a virgin as if that is the most important thing in the world.
I've seen too many crybaby men on here just devastated because a woman isn't a virgin as if that is the most important thing in the world.
Wrong. Guys are called to it too. The guys are just as tainted if not more b/c a lot of times they are the ones who initiate it.I don't think there is a "trend" really. Both Christian men and women are having sex outside of marriage. It has always happened and will always happen. The difference is that women are somehow seen as tainted if they have sex where guys aren't. I've seen too many crybaby men on here just devastated because a woman isn't a virgin as if that is the most important thing in the world.
Wrong. Guys are called to it too. The guys are just as tainted if not more b/c a lot of times they are the ones who initiate it.
A lot of guys believe abstinence is important. We get upset when we see so many girls think it's not. If they don't think it is, what else might we believe the girl doesn't? Similar beliefs are VERY important to me in a partner. A lot of stereotyping is going on so I think it's only fair I do some too: The Christian girls are finding non-Christian or lukewarm-Christian men so I don't completely buy the 'both Christian men & women are doing it outside of marriage.' This is evidenced by the 3 churches I attend where the single guys to single girl ratio is so poor. The Christian girls are out flirting w/ the world, the Christian guys want biblical truths. & these aren't your dweebs either, but masculine rancher type men I'd probably gush over if I was a Christian girl.
As many as 80 percent of unmarried evangelical young adults have had sex, according to an analysis of a study on sexual activity in the upcoming October issue of Relevant, a Christian magazine.
Young adults between the ages of 18 and 29 who identify themselves as evangelicals are almost as sexually active as their non-Christian peers, according to the article “(Almost) Everyone’s Doing It.”
What’s perhaps even more disturbing, Charles noted, is that 65 percent of the women obtaining abortions identify themselves as either Protestant (37 percent) or Catholic (28 percent). “That’s 650,000 abortions obtained by Christians every year.”
A new study on Christian attitudes toward dating and marriage reveals a broad acceptance for cohabitation, premarital sex and a rejection of traditional gender roles. Experts believe that many Christians are following cultural trends over scripture when it comes to sex and marriage.
"Christians are perhaps more influenced by the culture than they are by the teachings of scripture or the church," Peter Sprigg, senior fellow for policy studies at the Family Research Council, told The Christian Post in an interview on Friday.
Half of Christians say casual sex – defined in the survey as sex between consenting adults who are not in a committed romantic relationship – is sometimes or always acceptable. Six-in-ten Catholics (62%) take this view, as do 56% of Protestants in the historically Black tradition, 54% of mainline Protestants and 36% of evangelical Protestants."
I had started a countdown to 30 at one point. It's just another milestone to be aware of.What does being 40 have to do with anything? I'm almost 40 and single. Am I doomed? Is it the end for me?
The bad attitude is a culmination of my struggles & it not changing. It's been built over time. I feel like I improve & work on myself but all it gives me in the end is endless circles. It's like running on a treadmill that is providing benefits to me but not getting me to my destination.You have such a bad attitude towards dating and relationships. You blame God and say he won't allow you to date, but you are doing it to yourself. In my experience, women aren't interested in desperate men who whine every single day about being single. Maybe you should spend your time approaching 40 by changing your mindset, having a bit of faith, and growing up a bit.
I wouldn't make a call because it has happened at a few churches I went to. That is such a small snapshot that might not reflect what is going on in the broader picture.
According to a 2011 article from the Christian Post:
A 2014 Christian Post article found:
According to this 2020 article from the Pew Research Center:
Sadly, we live in a different time. Sex is pushed very hard everywhere. I recently read an article that shared 1/10th of 12 and 13-year-olds are reaching out to hotlines fearing they have a porn addiction and it's causing all sorts of confusion for them. The abundance of free porn, the sexualizing of children and our culture, etc, leads to a lowering of moral standards. It's much harder to avoid it in today.
This doesn't mean God's rules on sex have changed. The standard IS to remain a virgin until marriage, but there is no data to suggest the blame is with men or women. It takes two people to have sex, so for every Christian man who had sex, there is also a Christian woman. Both Christian men and women are probably dating non-Christians and not holding up that standard.
As a male, it is too easy for us to blame women and think they are tainted, but any person who made a mistake, repented, and changed their behavior is no longer impure. It is not right to lump every single person who has ever had sex into the same box and treat them as if they are less than human for giving into a basic human desire.
What does being 40 have to do with anything? I'm almost 40 and single. Am I doomed? Is it the end for me?
Women seem to be more traditional in their thinking, having biological urges to have children or to find a provider.
If you're still a virgin or haven't been "close" with a woman by that age, you're seen by other women as flawed or there must be something mentally wrong with you that you may actually be doing something to turn women off.
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