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Would you marry a woman who was a former stripper or X-rated star if she turned into a Christian ?
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Assuming she has moved on and is a lovely person, and assuming I wanted to marry, I might. It would also help of it's been a bit. If she quit dancing or whatever last month, I'm not there yet. Lol. That way of life would need to be history for my personal consideration. But, in general, I don't think it's an issue.
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For the hypothetical, I'm going to answer as if I wasn't already married.
I most likely wouldn't, but not because I don't see her as worthy of marriage. Simply that I lack the emotional maturity to be able to handle the situation and not be plagued with insecurities and petty jealousies. I know the depth of my own sin too intimately to hold a woman's past against her in marriage, as if I deserve better or she is somehow less valuable because of her past.
I most likely wouldn't, but not because I don't see her as worthy of marriage. Simply that I lack the emotional maturity to be able to handle the situation and not be plagued with insecurities and petty jealousies. I know the depth of my own sin too intimately to hold a woman's past against her in marriage, as if I deserve better or she is somehow less valuable because of her past.
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If she had sexual relations with OTHER people before she met you, the answer is no.
What most Christians don't know about is that the first act of sex is also marriage with that person. (Book of Genesis - Adam and Eve and the conversation between Jesus and the woman by the well proves this and that Jesus also believes that the first act of sex is the marriage).
The marriage ritual most people, most Christians know about has always been and always belonged to Pagan practice. It doesn't matter if you did it in a Christian church and officiated by a Christian pastor (even Christian pastors don't know this)
The Christian marriage ritual is Roman in origin. Not Roman Catholic but pagan Roman.
Thus, marrying a woman who had sexual relations with other people before you did, you'd be committing adultery with her.
The only one exception is that all the men she had sexual relationships before had died. Perhaps, after the nuclear apocalypse, we'll have better chance of finding genuinely widowed women!
The Israelites back in the ancient times didn't have problems finding someone to marry who is still a virgin because they tried to keep themselves pure and really put some effort to it. It is much bigger deal back then than it is today.
Today, everyone, including your friends will do everything to make you lose your virginity and your parents won't even care. The days are now evil. Signs of the times.
What most Christians don't know about is that the first act of sex is also marriage with that person. (Book of Genesis - Adam and Eve and the conversation between Jesus and the woman by the well proves this and that Jesus also believes that the first act of sex is the marriage).
The marriage ritual most people, most Christians know about has always been and always belonged to Pagan practice. It doesn't matter if you did it in a Christian church and officiated by a Christian pastor (even Christian pastors don't know this)
The Christian marriage ritual is Roman in origin. Not Roman Catholic but pagan Roman.Thus, marrying a woman who had sexual relations with other people before you did, you'd be committing adultery with her.
The only one exception is that all the men she had sexual relationships before had died. Perhaps, after the nuclear apocalypse, we'll have better chance of finding genuinely widowed women!
The Israelites back in the ancient times didn't have problems finding someone to marry who is still a virgin because they tried to keep themselves pure and really put some effort to it. It is much bigger deal back then than it is today.
Today, everyone, including your friends will do everything to make you lose your virginity and your parents won't even care. The days are now evil. Signs of the times.
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Is this a hypothetical question, or are you attracted to such a woman?
Here is an equivalent question:
If a man devoted his life to incarcerating and otherwise persecuting Christians --including being party to the first Christian martyrdom-- should he be made an Apostle and allowed to write the majority of the New Testament...?
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What scripture supports this ?If she had sexual relations with OTHER people before she met you, the answer is no.
What most Christians don't know about is that the first act of sex is also marriage with that person. (Book of Genesis - Adam and Eve and the conversation between Jesus and the woman by the well proves this and that Jesus also believes that the first act of sex is the marriage).
The marriage ritual most people, most Christians know about has always been and always belonged to Pagan practice. It doesn't matter if you did it in a Christian church and officiated by a Christian pastor (even Christian pastors don't know this)
Thus, marrying a woman who had sexual relations with other people before you did, you'd be committing adultery with her.
The only one exception is that all the men she had sexual relationships before had died. Perhaps, after the nuclear apocalypse, we'll have better chance of finding genuinely widowed women!
The Israelites back in the ancient times didn't have problems finding someone to marry who is still a virgin because they tried to keep themselves pure and really put some effort to it. It is much bigger deal back then than it is today.
Today, everyone, including your friends will do everything to make you lose your virginity and your parents won't even care. The days are now evil. Signs of the times.
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Your hypothetical question suggests that God cannot wash a repentant/redeemed --if she is-- ex-harlot as clean as He can wash a repentant/redeemed virgin.
Is that what you believe?
"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?
Do not be deceived.
Neither fornicators,
nor idolaters,
nor adulterers,
nor homosexuals,
nor sodomites,
nor thieves,
nor covetous,
nor drunkards,
nor revilers,
nor extortioners
will inherit the kingdom of God.And such were some of you.
But you were washed,
but you were sanctified,
but you were justified
in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." 1 Cor. 6:9-11 NKJV
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No, rather being from similar family/environment/culture, having similar expectations, similar values, similar personality, similar experiences in faith...
Its difficult to have also similar past, because past is highly individual, however, if one is a stripper or with a promiscuous past and another one is for example an inexperienced introverted book worm, it will not be a good fit, generally.
If one is unable to build a stable relationship and another one had only long relationships, if one had many relationships and another one none, there will also be a lot incompatibility. Its wise to consider such things beforehand to be spared of various pains and troubles.
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No way im saying that. Im asking will you be open to marrying one.
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(My wife and I each had a sexual past.)
As a single, if we were a good match in all the important ways, that would not be a deal-breaker.
Did you know that Rahab, the Jericho harlot, and Bathsheba, the adulteress, were both in Jesus' human lineage?
See Matthew 1:1-16
"5 ...Salmon begot Boaz by Rahab, Boaz begot Obed by Ruth, Obed begot Jesse,
6 and Jesse begot David the king.
David the king begot Solomon by her who had been the wife of Uriah..."
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We should always forgive like Christ does but marriage shouldn't be jumped into without serious consideration - ever.
Someone's who's background is a stripper could potentially - and sometimes more often than not - will be bringing a certain amount of baggage into the relationship that should be faced head on.
Not every person is the same. If she's Christian and turning her life around, she's going to need a good man, one who can handle anything her past might bring into their present as a couple.
She deserves someone walking in eyes wide open - someone who's going to be right for her.
Just because a man is Christian doesn't mean he's not still a person with needs himself.. marriage isn't the same as visiting at the church potluck.
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One more thing in relation to what you've said here, and that a few others have implied, about how a SW "seems to have traits which are not Godly."
That could be true. BUT..................don't we all have traits that fail to be consistently Godly?
Or, am I the odd man out here and everyone else here on CF is a Wesleyan who advocates a "second work of grace toward perfection"?
Yeah, I'm definitely not perfect, and more than that, I've been under the impression that noone, even repentant Christians, are or have necessarily become, "all that and bag of chips!" This isn't meant to imply that we shouldn't care about living and walking by the Spirit, we should. But that is a daily decision, not a once and for all state of renewal.
So, I have difficulty in defining other human beings, even those who were former SWs, as persons who carry along definite sinful "traits" anymore than any one else. Otherwise, we should be disdaining all men who have Prodigal pasts and all women who have been in the place of Mary Magdalene and avoid them as marriage partners.
Somehow, to think of other people in this way doesn't sound right to me ... and I don't think it would sound right to Jesus and/or His Apostles either.
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I generally agree with what you're saying but if you've ever been graced enough to be able to marry an upper class lady. I don't mean financially, I mean one who is actually humble in spirit. The things of motherhood and living is what she does for it is what she can do because she was raised right. I wasn't even walking with the Lord when I met that little girl, but I know a good woman when I see her. . Not too little, she was 17, lol. Better throw that in.
I undertand you feel that it dont sound right to turn a lady down because of her past. I agree, however, God is doing a big thing here and she is His child also so I dont judge her but I know that we have different walks in this life. Could I perhaps be the oh so loving and Godly Husband to her that I can reform her very soul? That's a noble sounding thought, but I am not God that I can reform a damaged soul. Because every sin that we do causes damage to our soul. It would be a life mission to attempt that.
And my gosh have you ever watched the paternity shows like Maury? I have never ever had such problems like that in dating. Because I wont date girls like that. It's a prefrence secularly but spiritually it may be wisdom. The type of people who cross those lines into worse and worse debauchery leave one little hope for an honorable marriage. I wish her well in her walk and will even pray for her, but I wont marry her unless the Spirit of the Living God tells me too!
Life is too short to get mixed up with the wrong spouse. It is not good to be unequally yoked. Besides, I dont need the drama.
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I mean don’t Godly women reject Christian men for reasons more minimal than this why can’t men do the same ?
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Men can do the same if they only set for themselves personal standards. When I barely first started dating girls I made a vow to myself that whenever I broke up with my girlfriend that the next girlfriend had to be even better. Never step down, always step up. I have pretty much kept to it. I made one mistake but I stopped dating her. It took a while to get free of her! Geez.
I feel blessed that I dont have to look for a wife in todays wife market. It seems like most women nowadays have scheming type minds and many have a materialistic view of what makes a man good for them. They used to call those gold diggers.
Very few women marry for love no matter how loud they spout that they do love him. And those guys on the Maury show who yell at their girl that she's a hoe or whatever? But if that's what she is, then why are you knocking on her door? That does not compute for me. And what this world is all about is how do humans react and act in certain situations. We make choices every day. Trying to choose wisely is being prudent and there's nothing wrong with that.
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There is someone for everyone on earth. Many choose many partners and that is something that sticks with them inside. There's no disdain for women who have a sex worker past. Praise the Lord that they seen the light. But if she ever backslides, what will she backslide into?
Her spirit has to have smidgin of innocence or I would not look for her to Wife. It's supposed to be one way since the beginning of history. The difference between a good wife and a bad wife is extremely huge in the light of how short our stay is here on earth.
What's that they used to say? You can take the girl out of the trailerpark but you cant take the trailerpark out of the girl...
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