Moving on from a lost friend

A similar thing happened to me some time ago. When it has been a friend who has been a big part of your life for so many years, it can feel very strange not having them around anymore.

If it is appropriate to do so, I would say make a simple and final gesture of goodwill to your friend. Perhaps a short text or email to wish them well. Perhaps even an apology if you feel it is warranted.

Only do it once. If the friendship has come to a close, then on your part, you have ended it with dignity. It will satisfy your own mind that you have done the right thing and it will help you to let go of the situation and move on.

They often say that time heals. In time, your friend may choose to reinstate the friendship, but you need to be equally prepared for the fact that they may not.

Whatever the outcome, your friend will likely remember your final act of kindness. And you can rest assured that you have done a truly noble and honourable thing.

Matteo said:

There was a falling out I had with a close friend from a while ago that I still haven't been able to move on from. It still hurts and affects me a lot and I don't understand why. I'd like to ask for prayer to come to peace with what happened. Thank you

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I pray you will be given peace, insight about the situation and your feelings, and healing from your pain.

Someone told me before that there are friends for seasons, friends for reasons, and some for a lifetime. I try to focus on the good of the people I have learned from in life and thank God for true friends that are forever.

One thing for sure, and that is that Jesus Christ is the greatest friend we can ever have even when everyone else fails in us.

Praying for you to be able to get over this, and not be in pain. Let you be able to forgive and move on in Jesus name.

May your healing catch up with you whilst you're busy getting on as usual with your daily activities. But even if this issue is resolved in the end, something else will still pop up, at a later time and it may even be worse.

The most effective formula to apply here, would be to just rest in Christ because these indeed are just fleshly issues, that are out to frustrate us, if we pay attention to them, by switching over to the fleshly side of things.

And then there are also some friendships, that can't be traced back to Christ completely, even when we profess to be friends who fellowship together. So it could be to your advantage.

May God bless you and give you comfort and understanding as you deal with the falling out with your friend.