I'd like to share, from my observation and counseling over years, spending time with God, and the different people I've been blessed to be family and friends with. I also share, as one who has never had a romantic relationship with any woman, or even dared to ask one out on a date. This also is shared by someone who wants to serve the Lord, for the rest of his days here. This is my personal view point with God, but if there are any truths here for you, I hope you will turn to God and ask him to reveal it to your heart.
The world tells us the best relationship one can have, has to do with physical/intimate attraction. Sex. As long as we listen to the world, we won't be able to ask God to reveal his true design and blessings for each of us.
As followers of Jesus, our most important relationship, and the one above all else, should be with God. No matter what other relationships you have with others.
God starts each of us with a basic relationship. A family. Not all of us are lucky to be born to an ideal home. However, the blue print we have, are relationships as child, siblings and parents. Father/Mother, Son/Daughter, Brother/Sister. If we all call out to God as our Heavenly Father, that means by spirit we are all related. We aren't separated by flesh and blood anymore.
So to relate to being single, I had to stop looking for one true relationship, defined by physical intimacy. I can't share that with others. So I started asking God, how exactly each person in my life is a family member in Christ. The prophets Elijah and Elisha had an intimate father and son relationship, centered around God. Naomi and Ruth, another example of mother and daughter, centered around faith in God. David and Jonathan, their relationship is quite intimate, they were true brothers in spirit. They found something in each other, they could not with women, even their wives. David being a man after God's heart is the key there. When you are attracted by Christ, in the life of another, that for me is a true and eternal relationship. My heavenly treasure.
Being single, I've had the blessing to experience being a father to my two nieces. Their father left them at a very young age, and my sister still walks in the world in regards to relationships. I've sacrificed a lot, to help take care of my nieces. They were basically over every weekend, since they were both born. Sometimes even caring for them for an entire week. God used my eldest niece to experience the rejection and heartbreak of a father, once, last year. A key moment in my life, that allowed me to finally have a real relationship with God himself and seek him out with my full heart, mind and soul. I would never of expected this relationship to be one of the greatest I'd be blessed with.
Living as a single person, does not mean loneliness to me. It means I'm not bound by the world's ideal to chase after a unicorn. God has promised me a wife, and he will bring her to me on his time. Until then, I get to be fruitful, with being a son to many, a brother to many, and currently a father to some, outside of my two precious nieces.
When it comes to my desire for a wife, before that notion or goal, I will develop my relationship with her as a sister in Christ. Someone I will continue to pray for and support, as we serve the Lord. If I'm not willing to continue doing that, after realizing there is no romance planned by God, then I never really viewed them as someone who I can share with in God.
Don't take being singleness as a weakness or limiting who you can love. Take it as a freedom one can only experience through Christ our Lord. After all, Jesus came to set us free from the world.
(Please feel free to correct or teach me if I got any terminology wrong, I am still learning how to share.
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