I Am No Longer Worthy in God's Eyes

straightcurvylines said:

I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

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The sexual acts you did, since they were out of wedlock and with a married man, are lost, dirty and disgusting.

You, however, are not. You are a saved, clean and beautiful daughter of the King.

straightcurvylines said:

I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

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You sinned. But you cannot speak for God. He has already spoken.

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life." - John 3:16

"For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost." - Luke 19:10

Also, read all of Luke 15.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." - 1 John 1:9

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straightcurvylines said:

I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

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God saw the worse in you when he saved you, why would he turn from you now? This wicked act did not surprise God at all, he knew your weaknesses and where you are prone to fall under in certain circumstances. He knew all of this beforehand, and yet he saved you in spite of it when you were converted. His love is not conditioned on anything you do, if that were so then every one of us would have remained in sin because God would see nothing but a bunch of sinners.

Yes, you lost your sexual purity as a consequence of your own actions, but there is still redemption. God can still use you, even in a family, in more ways than you may have thought. May this actually break you to the point of bringing you closer to him, rather than running from him. If you run from him, he will chase you down. He permitted that you would act this way, so that in repentance you would seek more earnestly his face.

This is the time to seek God, not run.

straightcurvylines said:

I am a wretched woman. I have nothing to offer God. If I am used, it will only be as an example of unrighteousness. Women like me belong to the devil, not of Heaven.

No man deserves to join himself with an unrighteous woman. There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past. It's only something that death can erase. I am forever scarred by my sin.

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well, thankfully the LORD whom you think despises you is much more merciful to you than you are to yourself.

no one can force your hand but the LORD's mercy and forgiveness is there for you if you want it.

straightcurvylines said:

There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past.

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You're overcome with emotion right now, and you're overlooking the grace of God. It's not about our performance, it's about His on our behalf. By His perfect obedience He won the victory for us. There is no sin powerful enough that the blood of Christ can't wash it away. None. Under that cleansing flow all can be made clean.


Remember the story of the prodigal son, luke 15. He brought total shame upon himself, twofold, but the father ran to accept him back. He will do no less for you.

And His promise also is to work everything for the good (Rom 8.28).

straightcurvylines said:

I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

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Your worth before God is not based on your works or holiness for you could never achieve perfection. It is based on Jesus our Lord and His finished work at the cross. Look upto Jesus Christ.

“Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12:1-2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

We don't please God by works; it is by faith,
“But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭11:6‬ ‭
Repent of your sins, and keep moving. Condemnation is of the devil. Stand up, dust your feet and make your path straight. God is full of love and mercy.

@straightcurvylines , sometimes it takes failure to show us where we are at. I can assure you that God still loves you and is willing to wash all of this from you. More at PM.

straightcurvylines said:

I am a wretched woman. I have nothing to offer God. If I am used, it will only be as an example of unrighteousness. Women like me belong to the devil, not of Heaven.

No man deserves to join himself with an unrighteous woman. There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past. It's only something that death can erase. I am forever scarred by my sin.

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Some tough love;
You have two options-to beat yourself up, curse the day you were born, despise yourself and look at the ugly tidbits OR you could approach God's throne with boldness and confidence knowing that you are not the only one struggling with sin. You can pour your heart out to the Heavenly Father. You can choose to let Jesus carry your burdens and renew your mind. Condemning yourself is like stumping on the sacrifice of Jesus and counting it worthy of nothing. Acknowledge you have sinned(so do others too), seek forgiveness from the heart, identify patterns that led to this sin and cut the cord. Steer forward-there is work to do in the Kingdom and soldiers in Christ don't sail over spilt milk. Your brokenness at heart is indicative of a broken and contrite heart which the Lord desires.

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Your not living a lie, God promises to renew your mind and your heart, but only if you come to Him and confess your sins. Don't do anything rash my sister, satan is playing with your heart, push him out and run to Jesus.

True christians, turn to Jesus when they have sinned. My sister the Lord knew you and all you would do before you were even born, you haven't surprised Him or disappointed Him, all things are within His hands, and I know that He loves you so much, and wants you to run to Him with your broken guilty spirit, and find true repentance.

God loves you so very much as His precious daughter let me share this with you, His love letter to you:

I am a wretched woman. I have nothing to offer God. If I am used, it will only be as an example of unrighteousness. Women like me belong to the devil, not of Heaven.

No man deserves to join himself with an unrighteous woman. There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past. It's only something that death can erase. I am forever scarred by my sin.


i dont know if you read my post to you earlier but we all have sinned against God every single one of us. Christ had made you the righteousness of Himself you are righteous. you can do nothing to change that because you can do nothing to earn it. my sins and they are many and on going for we all sin every day has no effect on who He is. i know this encounter is fresh in your mind but i want to tell you what is happening in your heart. you love God that is evident and feel as you have failed Him. you have not. your human man took a wrong turn and it will take a wrong turn again. the devil is trying his best to get you in condemnation and to take your eyes off the Lord if he can fully do this life will be hell in your mind and sin will grow. put your sin on Jesus for He paid the price if you try and pay the price yourself it will not give you any relief.

peter denied Christ
david raped (took by force) a women and had her husband killed
rahab was a prostitute
saul who became paul was responsible for the murder of christians

this list goes on and on it really does but my point is God used these people in a mighty way. especially in the case of paul who wrote 2/3 of the new testament. why do you think God allowed paul to author so much of the new testament? it was not because he beat himself up it was because he understood Gods grace. paul boasted in how ''wretched'' he was and in doing so only God would get the glory when God flowed through him. the day you sinned God loved you just as much as the day you were born and today at this moment God loves the same as He always has. you were forgiven of your sin 2000 years ago He is your high priest you are set free to serve and worship your God. the trick is this do you believe this. your sin has already been judged on a man who came in the flesh, fully God, on a cross and nothing you can do will change that do you believe that. God is not done with you i am blessed despite my wrong sexual choices i am blessed beyond my own belief not because im special but because i believe i am forgiven for every thing i have ever done or will do. because i have a God the same God you have who relentlessly loves me not because of any works i have done but because of the work He has done. we all go through this battle of accepting Gods grace. my prayer is that the father will show you that there is no amount of sin that can separate you from Him. God is a good God.

straightcurvylines said:

No matter how much I ask for forgiveness, I will always be the furthest from God. My purity can't be returned to me. And God will still be disappointed in me.

I don't see the point in living if I have to live a lie.

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You are looking at purity in yourself as it can be ruined forever by one action. You can still have pure thoughts, pure motives, pure words -honesty, pure...

Not sure what you mean as to live a lie. You are created for much more than physical pleasure at the right time with a guy. You have lots of potential and promise!

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straightcurvylines said:

I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

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God knew you were going to do this before it happened ... and He loves you anyway. He sent His Son to a sure death on a cross ... because He wanted to redeem you to Himself. Jesus' sacrifice wouldn't have been necessary if we were going to do well in every situation.

Jesus' words to women whom all others had condemned ...

"Go in peace ... your sins are forgiven"