How to deal with angst

I would suggest praising the Lord. Praise the Lord for His blessings. Worship Him. Tell the Lord you trust Him and that you know He is in control. That's how I would suggest dealing with anger to this world. My parents are past 78, and they worked hard for what they got, and I'm proud of them and the work ethic they taught us.
Praying for you. God bless.

Only one reason I can think of...

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Goodbook said:

Is this just a generation gap thing? Why is everything so much easier for the baby boomer generation than ours (generation Y)? How come they get all the benefits yet we get nothing PLUS have to keep working to pay all their debts? We didn't rebel..that generation did in the sixties. They had all this 'free love' stuff going on and our generation has to deal with all the consequences.

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After world war II the world was bombed out except America, so American factories supplied the world until the decline started in the 80s with outsourcing for cheaper labor. What that means is the baby boomers grew up and there was plenty of jobs. Also, they inherited lots of wealth from farms and land from their parents. Over time banks became owners of that land and people like you and me pay mortgages.

Doing what you are told to by 'them' means you are doing more for them and probably not you. After all, its their plan. Get your own bag of chips.

Your mind is very anxious with thought. You got to slow down the thinking. Figure out what you want in your life. #1 being to Do the Lord Jesus Christ Will. Then pray for guidance on what you want in life. Time does not wait, it is better that you begin going to school, buy a house instead of paying rent to someone this way your investing in yourself. And remeber that the money you pay every month on your own house can be used as equity. So it's not like you dont see it. Buy a car that is not too expensive. But that's just the basic stuff that everyone eventually reaches at some point in theere life some take 5yrs some take 10 some never get there. But of greater importance then house, car, debt, school, and husband or wife. Is the Lord Jesus Christ is Will. If you noticed in the Gospel this is mentioned several several times in parables and in Luke.

Goodbook said:

I already have a house and car. But no job and no husband. I don't care about the job or husband anymore. I want to go home to Jesus.

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You are willing to die but you are unwilling to die to self and live for Christ...

Can you see the foolishness of you declaration?

You want to die to be with Christ and Christ wants you to die to yourself
so that you can live for Him and He can live in you.

What you are really doing is trying to control God and get own your way.

So God...You didn't give me what I wanted so I want to die...but
I am unwilling to let You have control of my life because I don't trust
you and I believe that if You have Your way, I would not like how things would turn out.

These thoughts of your heart is the deception that is inside of all men
and is part of our fallen nature that wants to be a god unto themselves
while deceiving themselves that they are following God by sacrificing
themselves.

True love and self sacrifice is simply giving God the right to do what
He wants to do in our lives and not trying to manipulate Him with
our threats or false humility.

True humility is simply doing the will of God as we place our will
under His authority.

If you want to see a change in your life, change your bad attitude
toward God and stop blaming Him for your life not going the way you
think it should and begin to pray that His will would come and be done in your life....

God can and will make a way for you if you will believe that He is for
you and wants to bless you.

If you feel like God doesn't care about you and is the one behind your
troubles, how will you ever have the faith you need to cause God to
move in your life for good?

Why does God require us to have faith that He wants to help us
before He will move and bring His blessings into our lives?

God wants us to trust in His good intentions and loving character
so that we will enter into a relationship with Him, not as a slot machine
but as a real persons with likes and dislikes.

When we have true faith in God when pray, we will expect Him to work in our lives
and so when the answer comes, we know that our help came from Him and
so we grow closer to God because we have seen His love and hand in our lives.

God is all about this loving relationship, so much so that He will refrain
from working in our lives when our thoughts and heart think about
Him in the wrong way.

Think about it...

What if you had a friend who only called you up or related to you
only when they wanted something from you and when they got what they wanted,
they would take all the credit for it or credit their own luck, fate or someone else...

Would your relationship with this person grow or eventually die?

God wants the credit for what He will do in your life when you come
to Him believing that He loves you and wants to bless you.

Pray and ask God to help you to enter into a deeper relation
of love and trust with Him and He will do it....

Goodbook said:

Baby boomers just don't understand. The world has changed and is quite a bit different from when they were growing up.

What a horrible attitude to have towards children of God. You think we have it easier just because we now have mod cons? If you even knew what our generation had to deal with right now you would actually want to do something about it instead of telling everyone they are selfish and just suck it up.

I KNOW many young people have committed suicide or had tragedy happen because of the stupidity of their parents and the because they placed their trust in the older generation who let them down.

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People killed themselves because their parents were stupid? I'm a genxer and that doesn't make any sense to me.

We are not responsible for how we inherit the world. We are responsible for what we do with it. We can sit around and whine or we can take action. Sometimes you have to be the message.

What are you waiting for?

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I agree it sucks to be a young person today. Growing up in the 60s and 70s seemed so much easier. We had a lot less paranoia. The conservative party was more left wing than the supposedly leftist party of today. Jobs were plentiful. The job i left school at 16 for, now requires a university degree.

You have my sympathies OP.

rich1540 said:

I agree it sucks to be a young person today. Growing up in the 60s and 70s seemed so much easier. We had a lot less paranoia. The conservative party was more left wing than the supposedly leftist party of today. Jobs were plentiful. The job i left school at 16 for, now requires a university degree.

You have my sympathies OP.

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Being under the constant threat of getting nuked by the Soviets? Every generation has its issues to deal with. Kids today are facing an enemy amongst them in the form of an oligarchy that is undermining their morality and their financial solvency. Identifying it and cutting it out like a cancer would begin an era of prosperity unknown in the world before or since.

I think one of the biggest myths around is that we all think our parents/ grandparents generations had it sooooo much easier than we did growing up- and poor us, our lives are so tough in comparison........

Nonsense.

EVERY generation has its difficulties and tough times.

EVERY generation makes its mistakes that the next one then complains about.

My grandparents had to live through losing parents at very early ages in the First World War and then had to live through the endless bombings and air raids etc in the Second World War- as well as rationing and so on (certainly over here, anyway).

Tell the Holocaust generation how easy they had it.


Then came their kids- who lived with the tail end of that. Social and economical change coming at them so fast, because of the after affects of the war that it didn't settle for long. Displaced and confused roles in the family and society- and a whole new era of so called 'freedom' that resulted in people getting messed up for life because of a drugs culture and promiscuous lifestyle that was celebrated at the time.
There's a huge myth that the teens could sleep around and it was a whole new Age Of Freedom, baby! Not in reality when those teens ended up pregnant and parents who still had all the morals and beliefs of the previous era didn't just shrug and say 'Hey, no probs, Daddio!'

A lot of heartache came from that era.

I'm not entirely sure that the whole Viet Nam War crossing over those times was exactly an example of an entitiled and easy lifestyle, either, for that matter.

Try telling stories of the 'Good Old Days' when everyone played outside and no one worried to anyone I know here who grew up in the 60s and they'll tell you of a time when terrifying events like the Moors Murders took place and other fears for children abounded.

Then came my growing up era- the 70s and 80s.

Well, I can't speak for other countries- but I can tell you that I was so used to the frequent bombings and terrorist actvities of the IRA era as a child that it was part of life.

Then we had the very real fear of the scares of Nuclear War- including those terrifying TV infomercials on what to do if the Four Minute warning sounded. That may sound crazy but it was a very, very present fear and genuinely left so many people believing we may never see adulthood. It was a horrible cloud to grow up under.

Onto the poor suffering generation of today...... with better medical care and understanding than ever before, more Human Rights laws, more disposable wealth, gadgets and gizmos galore (cue a Little Mermaid moment there!!! ) and many kids whinging because they've only got the LAST update of a gadget rather than the one that just got announced five seconds ago.........

Of COURSE this generation has it tough.
I'm part of this generation.
And the one that grew up in the 70s.
And the one that inherited the crud of the ones before.
And the one that will leave a legacy of crud to the next one........

Point being- we can all feel sorry for ourselves becuse we have it tough with financial insecurity, (and yes, despite there being more disposable income than ever- that doesn't mean everyone has it), moral decay, global issues, etc,etc,etc....

But tell me of one single generation that truly had no worries, no fears, no conflicts, no despair of the moral decay of their own time and I'll show you a storybook land.

Every generation of parents says that it was so much better when they were kids and they feel sorry for the kids today. They said that about the baby boomers, too. And we'll say that about our kids.

They've been saying that since before Jesus was born!

Personally, I can't see the point of saying that my own life is terrible because of a previous generation.

If someone in that generation did personal harm to me, sure....
BUt simply because I think they had it easier than me...........

That seems a bit like inheriting a house from a parent or grandparent and crying over the decor because I don't like it- and because I think it was easier for them to decorate than it is for me- and doing that instead of getting off my bum and changing what I don't like.

Other generation all seem to handle the world that they've inherited. Some better than others. Life goes on.

And why shouldn't it?

Goodbook said:

Also they spend all their children's inheritance on themselves, while the children who are meant to inherit the house or land have to struggle to buy their own. We are just shocked at how some parents treat their children, all in the name of 'independence' or just because they don't want them anymore. Why have them at all if they aren't prepared for a lifetime commitment.

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I have to be honest- if my kids (now 21 and very nearly 19) thought like that, I'd be pretty disappointed in them and wondering where the heck they got their sense of entitlement from.

Why on earth should they think the world- or their parents - owe them something for life?

I love my kids more than anything- and I want to be there for them, to support them when they need it, and I'd like to be able to help them out with the tough things in life, like finances, where possible. If I were rich, I would help them.

Help- but not hand them on a plate.

And, while I believe in providing for family where possible, any money I may spend in my lifetime is NOT my children's inheritance that I'm daring to spend on myself...it's MY money that I have worked for, that I earned and I am perfectly entitled to spend as I see fit. Yes, as a Christian, I have a responsibility not to squander it- and I personally would want to help my children where I could- but it is NOT my job to provide for them for life.

My in laws inherited a house from a relative. They sold that house made a very nice amount indeed. One day, when they pass, the money from that house as well as the house they live in (no mortgage- all paid off) and all their goods will be left to two people. Their son (my hubby) and his sister.

Great. I'd rather have them around than any amount of money- but one day hubby will inherit from them. As things are at the moment, it'll be a very sizeable sum and we'll probably never struggle financially again. And, yes, one of my first thoughts was that at least we'll have something we can leave our own two kids, or be able to help them with something.

BUT.....

If my in laws decided to use it all on round the world cruises, expensive items (they bought a very nice Jaguar- lovely car-actually) and so on- then I have absolutely no right whatsoever to whine about it. They have every right to do as they please with that money. They struggled all their lives and went through hardships and difficulties. They inherited that house less than ten years ago and if they choose to give themselves the sort of life they've worked hard and not seen then that's up to them.

They wouldn't- it's just not them but they have every right to do so if they wish. It ISN'T our money. It's THEIRS.

We have financial struggles. If ever we were in serious need, then I'm sure they'd step in. But it's NOT their job to hand over money to make sure we can buy a house or whatever. We've never, ever expected that of any parent. That's OUR responsibility- not our parents'.

If that was the case- wouldn't that make us wrong, anyway? 'Cos then we'd be daring to spend our kids inheritance on a house, or whatever?????


As a parent I have a responsibility to provide for my children while they're growing. I also have a responsibility to prepare them for an independent life.

From the moment they're born, pretty much, we're preparing them to live independently. When they can feed themselves, we don't carry on playing 'here comes the aeroplane!'. When they can dress themselves we don't make them stand there while we do up all their buttons. When they can travel by themselves, we may give lifts and make sure they're safe (still part of the job)
but we don't go with them and hold their hand when they cross the road every time they set foot out of the house.

And we let them make their own mistakes- and take the consequences for that, even when we're dying to step in and sort it all out.

Yes, we're parents for life. But if we're 'parenting' our kids for life- then something has gone horribly wrong and we've molded our offspring into dependent beings instead of adults capable of functioning in the world and following God's plan for them.

If you had children of your own, I think you'd realise that to imply that parents who nurture independence in their kids don't 'want' them anymore and aren't prepared for a 'lifetime commitment' (as if they're puppies bought for Christmas rather than our offspring)....is a very offensive thing to say.

Now, if you meant that SOME parents (the minority) don't take on their responsibilities to bring up their children- and throw them out of the house once they hit 18 and really didn't want kids...well, that's another matter. But it didn't read that way.
It seemed to be a bit of a general rant about the last generation in particular.

I hope to heaven I read it all wrong- in which case, I apologise if I come across a little harshly here- but it doesn't look too great, to be honest.

Hey Goodbook

I don't know how old you are, but I'm 16. Pretty young. I'm growing up in this technological world. And I honestly have had my ups and downs in life too. But I've learned to see the silver lining in every cloud, to put it in a cheesy way x) there's always a bright side. Yep, I've been through this and that. Problems come. Just trust God! He's good all the time.

I'm planning to write a list of 100 or 1000 things I'm thankful for to increase my gratitude

God bless!