Reading together as a couple??

alwaysoffline said:

I was wondering what other Christians opinions were on couples, (young adults dating), reading weekly passages together?

I ask because I have been advised by friends that “it isn’t wise” to do so, fair enough but why NOT? Whats better than sharing the Word of God with someone you love!?

Any comments or remarks, or advise, would be much appreciated.

alwaysoffline

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Why in the world would it not be a good idea? If it keeps God the center of your relationship, brings you two closer to Him and each other in the process why not do it?

What were the reasons they gave for it not being wise?

Oh I've heard this one before. Apparently it's not a good idea because that sort of closeness in a couple could lead to physically going places that cross boundaries.

So I get why it might be seen as an issue - I just think it's extremely ridiculous, and that the reasons are too.

alwaysoffline: Well, the example that sticks out the most in my mind is the pastor talking about how "praying together" led to a makeout session, and the girl in the relationship came crying to him because she felt guilty about it. Which tells me that SHE has issues that need to be dealt with, but oh well.

I think the reason people say it isn't wise is because it creates a spiritual bond between the two of you, and then breaking up is even harder. My perspective though is, I don't date just to date, I date with the intention of marriage, and I do not want to wait till we are married to start creating a spiritual bond and closeness with God together.

squirrelz_15 said:

I think the reason people say it isn't wise is because it creates a spiritual bond between the two of you, and then breaking up is even harder. My perspective though is, I don't date just to date, I date with the intention of marriage, and I do not want to wait till we are married to start creating a spiritual bond and closeness with God together.

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I was going to say, "But don't you want that spiritual bond?"

I know it strengthens my RL with my bf and brings us closer to God.

We also share sermons with each other that we each heard a particular day, then elaborate on them.

I find it very enlightening and rewarding and I get stronger & stronger in my faith.

squirrelz_15 said:

I think the reason people say it isn't wise is because it creates a spiritual bond between the two of you, and then breaking up is even harder. My perspective though is, I don't date just to date, I date with the intention of marriage, and I do not want to wait till we are married to start creating a spiritual bond and closeness with God together.

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But how do you keep God the center of your lives and relationship if you are not creating that spiritual bond? How do you know if you can marry the person if you have not created some sort of spiritual bond?

i think that reading together is a great idea!!! as far as the physical thing goes, if you think that might be a problem like some say, they just dont' read in a spot were you would feel comfortable getting physcial. Go to a park and read there. or at your kitchen table.
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ImperialPhantom said:

Oh I've heard this one before. Apparently it's not a good idea because that sort of closeness in a couple could lead to physically going places that cross boundaries.

So I get why it might be seen as an issue - I just think it's extremely ridiculous, and that the reasons are too.

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Thats what I have heard to,but I think its rather ridiculous.
If you cant read the Bible together out of fear that you will grow too close spiritually,better not go to church either!...you never know!
Sheesh.
My fiance and I do devotions together several times a week and pray together on occassion too.
It hasnt caused any issues in our relationship except bringing us closer to each other and to God,which is a good thing.

Well there's always the temptation to cross physical boundaries but I don't think it has much to do with reading the bible together, unless say you were doing a recreation of the song of songs...

If its a fresh new relationship that just started (less than a month old) id hold off on the emotionally bonding things for a little while just because it gives you time to get to know the person without those ties, after a while i would say its fine. Just my opinion however.

not only is it a fantastic idea to read the bible together (proverbs is a great daily devotion to share together) it is also fantastic to read other Christian books too.

A couple that reads together, grows together!

I think doing devotions and praying together is totally fine. It's actually beneficial, I think. My girlfriend and I pray together, and we have never had urges to make out or get physical. I don't see how that's even possible when you're focusing on God.

Windmill said:

not only is it a fantastic idea to read the bible together (proverbs is a great daily devotion to share together) it is also fantastic to read other Christian books too.

A couple that reads together, grows together!

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i agree!! my bf and i read a couple Christian books together.. well, not exactly together cuz right now we're in a long distance relationship, but we would read the same book and talk about what we've read. it helps to learn together, help each other learn, and learn more about each other.

ImperialPhantom said:

Oh I've heard this one before. Apparently it's not a good idea because that sort of closeness in a couple could lead to physically going places that cross boundaries.

So I get why it might be seen as an issue - I just think it's extremely ridiculous, and that the reasons are too.

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In that case, one riding in the other's car should be discouraged as well.

If you are seeking Gods will and then I see no reason not to read through scripture together. Boundaries are not broken by a spiritual bond, but by a sinful desire.

I'm with everyone that thinks this is a bit ridiculous. If reading a bible passage and getting closer to God in your relationship leads to making out/sex/the like.. then there are maybe some issues that need to be worked out. I see nothing wrong with growing spiritually with your partner and I'm really only seeing benefits from it. Especially if this is the person you intend to marry, it's good to have a solid foundation first with God than to wait until you're married to start building that.

I don't know if we will but you never know.He's a Jew. It could happen.

I agree with the majority of people on this thread that studying the Bible and reading the Scriptures together shouldn't lead to any sudden physical urges or lustful activity. When you concentrate on the Bible together, you're focusing on God and developing a spiritual bond between you and your significant other. Physical bonds only occur when you're in an intimate type of setting where the temptation is great and you're focusing on each other instead of on God. I think reading the Bible and praying together should be beneficial for a couple so that they can grow closer to God spiritually, so it ought to be beneficial in future marriage life when both people have a solid foundation in their spiritual relationship.

it'd be just as wrong as meeting together with a group of people and studying the Bible some random Sunday... otherwise known as church

when you break it down its just two people fellowshipping and studying together. how can that be wrong?