I'm scared. I'm scared that it will go wrong and I'll have my heart broken again. I'm scared that it will work out and I have no idea how to handle a real relationship. I'm scared that I'm not good enough for the girls I'm attracted to and don't see why they should have to settle for me.
Those are the emotional reasons. The practical reason is that I'm busy with work and university so, as many poster have said, I don't get out there much. But I'm also aware that I use my work as an excuse to not go out and have to be vulnerable.
Two things
1. If it's worth being scared of, it's worth taking a chance on it. Letting fear get in the way of your goals is wrong.
2. I think a lot of people who have been hurt in relationships somehow think they are special. Whether it be thinking they are "deeper", the relationship was more special, the connection was more "godly" or whatever. Remember you are not. IT didn't work, because you were wrong for each other.
A lot of people hang on to how wonderful it felt while they were in that relationship and expect it should be the same as it was. Remember, regardless of why it failed, IF it failed, it was never meant to be to begin with.
Take your lessons from it and move on. Basically, get over it. I know it sounds harsh to say it that way, but it's true.
Things may be going through your mind such as, "she doesn't understand" or "it's different for me" or "she's never been hurt like this before" But, you're wrong. Our egos (mine included) tend to make us feel like we are the only one in a given situation. Millions of people go through it and millions of people get over it. It's your choice to let the past go. Completely up to you whether you hang on to it, or move on from it. So, if your fear is getting in the way of your happiness, then it's your fault you haven't found someone.
Take action to make the necessary changes. Whether it be giving it to God or just saying "forget it, it's over I'm over it". Work on becoming someone worth loving and eventually, the right person will come along.
But, chances are you will get hurt again. It's life. And in the end, it's never as bad as we make it out to be in our minds.