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Jenster
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How do I deal, in a non-jealous way, with the "cool" people at my church? Or how do I understand them and not get bothered by the aura of "we're so cool" that they seem to thrive on?
Examples: There is a bunch of people who generally are louder, more boisterous and more self-assertive than others. There will be a church dinner and they'll jokingly yell across the room to one another. One of these people is the associate pastor's wife.
In ministry meetings, they'll talk in a way that shows off how close they are, such remarking about how well their children were playing together the other day, or about something that happened when they were over at each others' homes. Or how fun the trip was that they all went on together.
Sometimes, it makes me feel resentful, quite honestly.
These people don't ever approach me to ask how I'm doing. They rarely show an interest in anyone who isn't in their circle. On the one hand, it shouldn't bother me, as I'm capable of stirring up my own fun. On the other hand, it does bother me because I don't believe it's right to foster a cliquish feeling. And, I do feel there's a certain "LOOK AT ME" quality of behavior going on. There's a need for them to feel they are at the center of things.
I would appreciate advice on this situation. Thanks.
Examples: There is a bunch of people who generally are louder, more boisterous and more self-assertive than others. There will be a church dinner and they'll jokingly yell across the room to one another. One of these people is the associate pastor's wife.
In ministry meetings, they'll talk in a way that shows off how close they are, such remarking about how well their children were playing together the other day, or about something that happened when they were over at each others' homes. Or how fun the trip was that they all went on together.
Sometimes, it makes me feel resentful, quite honestly.
These people don't ever approach me to ask how I'm doing. They rarely show an interest in anyone who isn't in their circle. On the one hand, it shouldn't bother me, as I'm capable of stirring up my own fun. On the other hand, it does bother me because I don't believe it's right to foster a cliquish feeling. And, I do feel there's a certain "LOOK AT ME" quality of behavior going on. There's a need for them to feel they are at the center of things.
I would appreciate advice on this situation. Thanks.