"It is not good for man to be alone..."

[Godcrazy]

I am on very low levels of meds for anxiety, and maybe on my way to stopping. I don't really get anxious. It's more like stress, but sometimes I don't know what triggers it.

I may be able to be in a relationship with another introvert. Maybe. We might be more like roommates though. Hard to say. I also did not know affection as a child, and while I love a good hug, I have never been overly affectionate though not cold. I don't have strong emotions. My range of emotions is more narrow than most people. Not big highs and not big lows. I don't experience a lot of physical pleasure either. I don't care much for food. Yet, I am well-liked and fun. It's just that on my own I tend to keep to myself. I can go weeks without contact with another person and be just fine. That is, face-to-face contact or verbal contact. I rarely talk on the phone. Maybe with my sister once a month. I have not made a lasting friend in the last 30 years. I have no social friends. I have had lots of friends come and go but no one that has really stuck. I just don't look to people for support. I am used to handling everything by myself. People always say how important it is to have a support network, but people like me just learn to handle everything alone. I spent 5 days in a hospital by myself. No visitors. To me that was just normal. Expected. I don't expect people to come help me or visit me.

So it's different but "normal" to me.

I hear you.
The nervous system in the whole body had too much of the stress on it for that long. This is normal, in the abnormal to shut down the body mind and feelings in order to protect ones self. It is a normal reaction to that much trauma. It is part of ptsd. Your system protect itself from feeling too much so it shuts down. To protect. Same for the stress you feel. It is the same mechanism. This is where somatic therapy is really really good, to release the body the points where the energy/feelings are stored. It works with the body to release. You might want to look into it, it will greatly assist your stress and feelings. I once spoke to a therapist her husband had serious mental health issues and he managed his conditions by eating a clean diet,organic mostly vegetables and light exercise. He managed to keep his conditiion in check by doing so saying without doing it he would be done in. A lot can be helped by a clean diet, assisted. Definitely watch junk and processed.
My x and me we were like that, room mates. Even when he was better. It just turns that way when you are introvert. The good thing no one have a problem with it and appreciate the depth of it and supports you in it. No misunderstandings no judgements or demands. That would be very difficult with an extrovert and introvert. The needs are totally different and both suffer. Even with the best intentions and efforts.
It can be very healing to get, in doses you can handle, what you did not get as a child, as long as you are clear about what exactly that is, and know how to ask for it,and explain. It can be very healing. My x could not take hugs I had to teach him. It end up being a comfort thing.
The lack of sexual feels is very common when you have been abused. I don`t have much either but I suspect a low drive. It is not in my focus, I value depth more and connection. It feels like it is very superficial, not a way to feel connected at least not I do not.
But they say it is common to not feel much when you have had that much stress. That it will be better with healing.
My x had huge issues with food as he was not allowed to eat and starved. And punished in relation to it. I had to teach him and literally hold him in the supermarket and if it had not been for me he would not had food. At least he is able to buy his own food today. As well always had good food here. He was very stingy with himself not buying food other than jars or baby vipes for toilet paper. It is a way of self abuse. well,that`s what it`s called while I have always bought and cooked food, didn`t have those issues.
I have moved country for him and we spend all time together and every attempt to make friends fail but I am majorly introvert so that too. I have hobbies but the daylight only have as many hours. So kinda in the same boat. I have friends in my home country and other countries. Never had a problem but England is famous for rejecting foreigners it is many foreigners experience so they band together. And then again it gets harder being like we are.
Same time it is very nice to accept ones self and not be dependent. It is for control anyway the pressure. If it is not quality it can just as well not bother. the people I do know though stick with me. Even when they are at home in Sweden or America. There is full acceptance and depth. no fake.
well it is one thing asking for help or support but people have to act as well.
It has to do with boundaries, give,and take. a child learns to give and recieve in tandem. I have read some children of alcoholics or narcs they deplete themselves and have an imbalance as they haven`t been allowed to have their own needs and wants learninng to be giving never recieving, because woe if they expressed needs and wants. so it is about learning the dance and how it is okay to both give and take.
there is nothing wrong being introverted, or having no friends or few, it is better with quality than quantity. when truth hits we are left with very few we can count as real friends. I for one is a real friend, but, it is only few that appreciate. It is typical you learn to be self sufficient because no one had been there for you. same situation. good and bad. My x he was, then he changed, went from empathic supportive helpful to not. to twist things said and done against me. to be everything he was not. From we have everything together to you use me(I did not) I came to this country with just a suitcase. I had to start everything from scratch even references. I could not work, my health deteriorated, I had no friends, he earned little and we were in minus even after rent. and he turned it on me. telling me about that entity at the same time. but who have been feeding him who have he been showering at. who have been helping him. oh no.
I guess we have to take precautions as we don`t have any to help. my family are in my home country and old and narcissistic, borderline psychopaths. no support just meanness and yet I send flowers and are being nice. because it is right.

 

[Godcrazy]

try take as good care of your self as much as you can in all directions. relaxation techniques, somatic therapy, anything that can assist. we got double dose and being introvert sensitive and all that plus having our brains rewired so stress is very important to avoid as much as you can. nature is very healing. as well as animals. relaxing sounds, practices that relaxes the body and muscles and music a relaxing home environment. I work nights! I do not like the buzz at day time the energy of night makes you relax

 

[Godcrazy]

If you don`t know what triggers it, have a think when it first happened, see if you can trace it. Or what it reminds you of. It COULD be childhood memories. If you manage to get hold of it you might release it that way. sometimes it is smell. practice awareness of your breath your thoughts. breathing techniques help stress and increase awareness. just breathe,focus on the breath. take long breaths inhale exhale.

 

[Godcrazy]

also when you do it focus on how you feel in your body and where it is. you will be able to locate certain areas. you can gently focus on there and massage area. maybe something comes up.

 

[Godcrazy]

I actually have relatives all over the US, my grandpas cousins emigrated in the 1800 and won a huge sum in poker in New Mexico. I have friends in different states my best friend is in Oregon. She is not christian but she is genuine we have known each other many years. She is a good person. Unfortunately she had a kidney failure and on a care home forever. She has had many negative experiences with christians being not christian. she respects me. we can talk freely about faith. people that have not much, not much to lose are more genuine. My best friend in Sweden is adopted from Korea, I have known her since I was thirteen years old so that is long. she is just the same. Like i said, you do not need many.

 

[NotUrAvgGuy]

try take as good care of your self as much as you can in all directions. relaxation techniques, somatic therapy, anything that can assist. we got double dose and being introvert sensitive and all that plus having our brains rewired so stress is very important to avoid as much as you can. nature is very healing. as well as animals. relaxing sounds, practices that relaxes the body and muscles and music a relaxing home environment. I work nights! I do not like the buzz at day time the energy of night makes you relax

I have created a relaxing home life. I have a very peaceful home, a cat, my books, computers, bike, etc. I do a lot of cycling, I read a lot, do photography, travel, etc. I have no problems with everyday life. I eat just fine, shop, run errands, etc. No different than anyone else. I am an introver though and seldom seek social contact. It is just not important to me. I don't have that need to talk to people regularly.

I never enjoyed having roommates. I crave a quiet house and not having to engage in conversation all the time. I relax so much more when I am in the only person in the house which makes complete sense given my background.

 

[ozso]

I have created a relaxing home life. I have a very peaceful home, a cat, my books, computers, bike, etc. I do a lot of cycling, I read a lot, do photography, travel, etc. I have no problems with everyday life. I eat just fine, shop, run errands, etc. No different than anyone else. I am an introver though and seldom seek social contact. It is just not important to me. I don't have that need to talk to people regularly.

I never enjoyed having roommates. I crave a quiet house and not having to engage in conversation all the time. I relax so much more when I am in the only person in the house which makes complete sense given my background.

Sounds like we're on the same page. Except for the cat. It's been a long time since I wanted a pet. Even though I live a solitary existence, pretty much not a day goes by that I don't interact with someone.

Ever heard of Richard Proenneke? Dude lived alone in a cabin in the Alaskan wilderness for 30 years. Now that's being a hermit.

Even as a kid I preferred to be by myself. And fortutealy I grew up in the 60s/70s when it was common for kids to run wild until the street lights came on.

 

[NotUrAvgGuy]

Sounds like we're on the same page. Except for the cat. It's been a long time since I wanted a pet. Even though I live a solitary existence, pretty much not a day goes by that I don't interact with someone.

Ever heard of Richard Proenneke? Dude lived alone in a cabin in the Alaskan wilderness for 30 years. Now that's being a hermit.

I have not heard of him. That would be challenging, but under the right circumstances, I could do it. I do get online interaction which fills a need. The nice thing about interacting online is that you can pick your times and length of interaction.

 

[ozso]

I have not heard of him. That would be challenging, but under the right circumstances, I could do it. I do get online interaction which fills a need. The nice thing about interacting online is that you can pick your times and length of interaction.

Yes, you're not "trapped" when online. I like getting into real life conversations, but at the same time I'm glad when they're over with and I can get back to doing my thing.

I wouldn't like living in the wilderness or even being a park ranger. I'm way too urbanized for that.

 

[NotUrAvgGuy]

Yes, you're not "trapped" when online. I like getting into real life conversations, but at the same time I'm glad when they're over with and I can get back to doing my thing.

I wouldn't like living in the wilderness or even being a park ranger. I'm way too urbanized for that.

Well, if I could have good internet service, I could do it for sure! Ha ha. I would prefer to have access to good health care too.

I have always liked to live on the outskirts of cities. Not super big cities but where in one direction I can drive into town and have doctors, stores, etc, but in the other direction I can be immediately in the country and get away from people. I do a lot of bicycling so don't want to be in a city with traffic.

 

[ozso]

Well, if I could have good internet service, I could do it for sure! Ha ha. I would prefer to have access to good health care too.

I have always liked to live on the outskirts of cities. Not super big cities but where in one direction I can drive into town and have doctors, stores, etc, but in the other direction I can be immediately in the country and get away from people. I do a lot of bicycling so don't want to be in a city with traffic.

I mostly lived in suburbs. Lately I've lived downtown, but it's a small pacific northwest city. And there's lots of countryside and forest parks nearby.

 

[timewerx]

I just want to add about "it is not good for man to be alone".

Is something that is discussed more than once in the Bible. I forgot which verse but it also had to do with susceptibility to evil spirits.

Someone who is alone is prone to visitation by evil spirits. Even this happened to Jesus when He is alone. Although it doesn't automatically mean getting married. It simply means being with someone who can be a friend or even a relative. Even pets seem to work in helping to repel evil spirits in times of vulnerability.

 

[Godcrazy]

I have created a relaxing home life. I have a very peaceful home, a cat, my books, computers, bike, etc. I do a lot of cycling, I read a lot, do photography, travel, etc. I have no problems with everyday life. I eat just fine, shop, run errands, etc. No different than anyone else. I am an introver though and seldom seek social contact. It is just not important to me. I don't have that need to talk to people regularly.

I never enjoyed having roommates. I crave a quiet house and not having to engage in conversation all the time. I relax so much more when I am in the only person in the house which makes complete sense given my background.

Your`e very alike me, so far it was only my x that was an introvert that did not "disturb my energy" as it felt, no interference. And left me alone when required as I did him. I always wondered how it would go, having someone to live with, that was not similar like me. I just knew that would never go. I think you know what I mean. why should we have to explain ourselves all the time and not be accepted and constantly be demanded of, when it is our nature. It is not right. The misunderstandings and differences too large, unless similar. When I came to UK we lived in accommodation as he was. We had our separate rooms then too as we did when we had houses. That was a real nightmare. The landlady wanted to rent out a pure closet with only space for a bed to a third person which she had huge problems to do. But managed here and there. Some of those that rented it .. I had a warning dream from God, where one of them raped me in the kitchen, and when he arrived to look at the closet, he looked exactly like in the dream and behaved the same. I knew immediately. It was not just a dream! So we managed to prevent it. Other people were not better, one guy worked the same place as my x and it was problems. so we got rid of him. That landlady was bad, she refused to repair broken windows falling out leading to the high way, where I was sleeping. We had to cover the floor boards with blankets as it was wooden boards, then the draft from the high way. It was my bedroom. I contracted asthma because of it, breathing in smoke.
So accommodation was hell, we stayed like that for 3 years. Staying mostly in our rooms. Thankfully they were not in a lot. I enjoy having a full house for myself, and my cat. Love cats.
I have similar interests as you do, I LOVE to read. Real books. I have always read ever since I was young child. In my country we bike a lot, we have nature right outside and good bike roads. It is more difficult in UK, you have to literally go travel first then bring it. I want to look into photography, and play guitar I play piano and went to choir. But then again, too much social, too much energies too much too little time. But it is things I enjoy, and art very good paint and drawing. sewing all that jazz. Herbs next. When there is another person in the house we feel them even if they are on the top floor, it is stressful to us we can`t relax. It is very hard to explain for those not like us but it gets on our system. So I know!

 

[Godcrazy]

I just want to add about "it is not good for man to be alone".

Is something that is discussed more than once in the Bible. I forgot which verse but it also had to do with susceptibility to evil spirits.

Someone who is alone is prone to visitation by evil spirits. Even this happened to Jesus when He is alone. Although it doesn't automatically mean getting married. It simply means being with someone who can be a friend or even a relative. Even pets seem to work in helping to repel evil spirits in times of vulnerability.

You are talking to someone that have prophetic gifts, and that get dreams from God all the time. That is highly sensitive and pick up things. That people in the occult wanted to get claws in because of it. I am like that no matter if I live with someone or not but I do know unless they are an introvert or at least ambivert it would never work. The differerences too large. I have also thrown demons out and God have used me to heal people. I can sense where evil is or ghosts. I have never been wrong. SO I say that to be with the wrong one is even worse than be by your self.

 

[Godcrazy]

Well, if I could have good internet service, I could do it for sure! Ha ha. I would prefer to have access to good health care too.

I have always liked to live on the outskirts of cities. Not super big cities but where in one direction I can drive into town and have doctors, stores, etc, but in the other direction I can be immediately in the country and get away from people. I do a lot of bicycling so don't want to be in a city with traffic.

yeah close enough to shopping but far enough to get away

 

[Godcrazy]

I have not heard of him. That would be challenging, but under the right circumstances, I could do it. I do get online interaction which fills a need. The nice thing about interacting online is that you can pick your times and length of interaction.

you learn to not be dependent living like that it is good in many ways.

 

[timewerx]

SO I say that to be with the wrong one is even worse than be by your self.

That's true! Good thing you don't have to be married. Living with a good friend or a close relative provides the same amount of protection from evil spirits especially in your sleep.

Before the 20th century, many families used to sleep together and this maximized protection from evil spirits. They didn't do it for that purpose but most likely for economical reasons. More is better in terms of protection.

Our evil society have always wanted us to hate each other so that we are apart and vulnerable. Using mainly wealth/money, and power to make us hate each other. This is why you can't love both God and money. You can't be cheering for two opposing teams. If you talk well of God, you can't do the same for money like it's a good thing.

 

[Godcrazy]

That's true! Good thing you don't have to be married. Living with a good friend or a close relative provides the same amount of protection from evil spirits especially in your sleep.

Before the 20th century, many families used to sleep together and this maximized protection from evil spirits. They didn't do it for that purpose but most likely for economical reasons. More is better in terms of protection.

Our evil society have always wanted us to hate each other so that we are apart and vulnerable. Using mainly wealth/money, and power to make us hate each other. This is why you can't love both God and money. You can't be cheering for two opposing teams. If you talk well of God, you can't do the same for money like it's a good thing.

I don`t think it is that divided but more like it is hard to serve God and being rich to not go over board with indulgences and what there is. It might be one thing to get some expensive a few times but all the time, when people suffer it does not sit well. I think it goes astray right there.
What is the evidence for being attacked more in the sleep by living with others? Or being attacked at all? I think that are more beliefs I held in the new age and occult.

 

[Godcrazy]

Besides that, it is not enjoyable for an introvert to live with anyone, unless they are introvert as well. Way too much interference in all directions to only cause disturbances. So a big no living with anyone. That ship has sailed. End is coming

 

[Godcrazy]

It is even more nightmarish to have someone sleeping in the same bed, that is for an introvert even. They`ll be kicked out