How to trust God when your life has been a series of bad events?

[Macchiato]

I know being a Christian doesn't make everything better but it shouldn't be this difficult either.
I feel like I literally can not trust God--I feel He doesn't have my best interest at heart just what He wants.

I didn't get into my program (rejected)
struggling in poverty
toxic parents ( Tried to move out but there's always a block. Not lazy by any means)
No friends ( from as long as I can remember I've always been alone and lonely no one really stuck with me from school, college years, not in church no matter how friendly i am. It just doesn't work out.

My son's health issues
My own mental issues getting worse
Bad church experience
God's silence from the time I was saved to now..

Idk I feel like no matter what I do it's destined to fail. I truly feel like a Lazarus Archetype-- I'm just meant to tread wih my head above water until I die and then and only then will things get better. Sucks but I feel this is my cross to bear bc no matter how hard I work nothing comes together, I pray get no answers.

Idk I just have zero faith that God will do anything for me except what He wants which seems to be nothing. I just can't trust God because of this. I also dont have much self esteem or belief in myself because of this.

 

[Sabertooth]

I feel like I literally can not trust God--I feel He doesn't have my best interest at heart just what He wants.

Do you not believe Romans 8:28?

"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." NKJV​

What attracted you to get Saved in the first place?
What are your prospects that your life would improve, if you would turn your back on Him?

"Then Jesus said to the twelve,
'Do you also want to go away?'

But Simon Peter answered Him,
'Lord, to whom shall we go?
You have the words of eternal life.
Also we have come to believe and know that You are the Christ,
the Son of the living God.' ” John 6:67-69 NKJV

Where Could I Go But to The Lord?

Idk I just have zero faith that God will do anything for me except what He wants which seems to be nothing.

"But without faith it is impossible to please Him,
for he who comes to God must believe that He is,
and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him." Hebrews 11:6 NKJV

My own mental issues getting worse

See The Church & Mental Illness...

(I have neurological challenges...)

 

[Macchiato]

Do you not believe Romans 8:28?

"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." NKJV​

What attracted you to get Saved in the first place?
What are your prospects that your life would improve, if you would turn your back on Him?

"Then Jesus said to the twelve,
'Do you also want to go away?'

But Simon Peter answered Him,
'Lord, to whom shall we go?
You have the words of eternal life.
Also we have come to believe and know that You are the Christ,
the Son of the living God.' ” John 6:67-69 NKJV

Where Could I Go But to The Lord?

"But without faith it is impossible to please Him,
for he who comes to God must believe that He is,
and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him." Hebrews 11:6 NKJV

See The Church & Mental Illness...

I used to love God but if I'm honest i don't anymore nor do I feel called according to his purpose. I feel like a tare idk--just feel abandoned by God or hated by Him.

 

[Sabertooth]

I used to love God but if I'm honest i don't anymore nor do I feel called according to his purpose.

What are you hoping to happen by this thread, then?

 

[Joyous Song]

I know being a Christian doesn't make everything better but it shouldn't be this difficult either.
I feel like I literally can not trust God--I feel He doesn't have my best interest at heart just what He wants.

I didn't get into my program (rejected)
struggling in poverty
toxic parents ( Tried to move out but there's always a block. Not lazy by any means)
No friends ( from as long as I can remember I've always been alone and lonely no one really stuck with me from school, college years, not in church no matter how friendly i am. It just doesn't work out.

My son's health issues
My own mental issues getting worse
Bad church experience
God's silence from the time I was saved to now..

Idk I feel like no matter what I do it's destined to fail. I truly feel like a Lazarus Archetype-- I'm just meant to tread wih my head above water until I die and then and only then will things get better. Sucks but I feel this is my cross to bear bc no matter how hard I work nothing comes together, I pray get no answers.

Idk I just have zero faith that God will do anything for me except what He wants which seems to be nothing. I just can't trust God because of this. I also dont have much self esteem or belief in myself because of this.

This may help: 7 Omens That Herald the Dark Night of the Soul ⋆ LonerWolf

 

[Basil the Great]

Macchiato -Most here at CF will not like my reply, but I must be honest. I remember when Sen. Romney made a statement a few years ago to the effect that "God does not intervene directly in human affairs very often". I have lived many years and seen many things. Sadly, I have come to believe that this statement is indeed correct. Let's face it, we all know Christians who have faced severe difficulties in their lives. Some have severe physical hardships, while others have endured unreal emotional pain, including during this pandemic the loss of multiple family members. A few even have had to deal with both physical and emotional pain.

Do Christians have any better lives than Jews or Muslims or Buddhists or Hindus or atheists? Perhaps, but if so, probably not very much better. The entire human race is plagued by trials and tribulations. For whatever reason or reasons, this is the truth and has been since the beginning of time. Look at the early Christians as an example. They were killed by the thousands in the arena in Rome. Some faced terrible deaths in the jaws and claws of brutal beasts. Why did God not save them? How about WWI and WWII and the Great Depression of the 1930's and the worldwide Spanish Flu pandemic of 1918? How many millions of Christians faced extreme hardships and/or death in these disasters? Then, we could even look back to the Black Death plague that reportedly wiped out 1/3 of Europe during the Middle Ages. We also have fires, hurricanes, earthquakes, tsunamis, floods, tornadoes, droughts, extreme cold and heat, etc that plague the Earth on a regular basis.

The cold hard facts tells us that life on this planet is a struggle for all of us. Some have it better, some have it worse, but we all do have hardships that hound us. Do I believe in miracles? Yes, evidence indicates that miracles do occur, but they seem to be pretty rare. For whatever reason, God seems to choose not to intervene directly very often. Hence, what is the purpose of this life? Why be a Christian? Why be a person of faith who tries to love God and others, as Jesus taught? I recall an interview with an ex-cop who became a Catholic priest. A reporter asked him what this life was all about. He responded by saying that life is a test. It is a test to determine where we will go and what will happen to us in the afterlife. I believe that he is correct. Let us hope that most of us here at CF pass the test.

 

[Macchiato]

What are you hoping to happen by this thread, then?

Idk-- just really wish my life would change.

 

[Macchiato]

Macchiato -Most here at CF will not like my reply, but I must be honest. I remember when Sen. Romney made a statement a few years ago to the effect that "God does not intervene directly in human affairs very often". I have lived many years and seen many things. Sadly, I have come to believe that this statement is indeed correct. Let's face it, we all know Christians who have faced severe difficulties in their lives. Some have severe physical hardships, while others have endured unreal emotional pain, including during this pandemic the loss of multiple family members. A few even have had to deal with both physical and emotional pain.

Do Christians have any better lives than Jews or Muslims or Buddhists or Hindus or atheists? Perhaps, but if so, probably not very much better. The entire human race is plagued by trials and tribulations. For whatever reason or reasons, this is the truth and has been since the beginning of time. Look at the early Christians as an example. They were killed by the thousands in the arena in Rome. Some faced terrible deaths in the jaws and claws of brutal beasts. Why did God not save them? How about WWI and WWII and the Great Depression of the 1930's and the worldwide Spanish Flu pandemic of 1918? How many millions of Christians faced extreme hardships and/or death in these disasters? Then, we could even look back to the Black Death plague that reportedly wiped out 1/3 of Europe during the Middle Ages. We also have fires, hurricanes, earthquakes, tsunamis, floods, tornadoes, droughts, extreme cold and heat, etc that plague the Earth on a regular basis.

The cold hard facts tells us that life on this planet is a struggle for all of us. Some have it better, some have it worse, but we all do have hardships that hound us. Do I believe in miracles? Yes, evidence that indicate that miracles do occur, but they seem to be pretty rare. For whatever reason, God seems to choose not to intervene directly very often. Hence, what is the purpose of this life? Why be a Christian? Why be a person of faith who tries to love God and others, as Jesus taught? I recall an interview with an ex-cop who became a Catholic priest. A reporter asked him what this life was all about. He responded by saying that life is a test. It is a test to determine where we will go and what will happen to us in the afterlife. I believe that he is correct. Let us hope that most of us here at CF pass the test.

Not sure if i agree with this. I see many youtubers who say God go them their apartment, new job, car, helped hem meet their spouse.

 

[Basil the Great]

Not sure if i agree with this. I see many youtubers who say God go them their apartment, new job, car, helped hem meet their spouse.

Yes, I am well aware that such is what many believe, but I think their belief is incorrect.

 

[Macchiato]

Yes, I am well aware that such is what many believe, but I think their belief is incorrect.

Why is that wrong though? Doesn't god bless us? If not then maybe my understanding of God is misconstrued.

 

[Basil the Great]

Why is that wrong though? Doesn't god bless us? If not then maybe my understanding of God is misconstrued.

We are all blessed every day with the gift of life and everything that comes with it. How much God blesses us directly, individually, that is an open question.

 

[Macchiato]

We are all blessed every day with the gift of life and everything that comes with it. How much God blesses us directly, individually, that is an open question.

Sorry, I'm going to ultra negative and cynical but I just don't think life by itself is a gift if you're struggling day in and out with mental illness, constant loneliness, or wake up to abusive parents but I do wonder why God blesses some with more and others with less thouugh.

 

[Basil the Great]

Sorry, I'm going to ultra negative and cynical but I just don't think life by itself is a gift if you're struggling day in and out with mental illness, constant loneliness, or wake up to abusive parents but I do wonder why God blesses some with more and others with less thouugh.

Yes, for some people, life itself does not seem to be much of a gift. This is especially true for those in severe physical or emotional pain. I will not sit here and give you some soft and easy answer for every situation. The bottom line is that regardless of our circumstances, we are still called to love God and love our neighbor.

 

[Macchiato]

Yes, for some people, life itself does not seem to be much of a gift. This is especially true for those in severe physical or emotional pain. I will not sit here and give you some soft and easy answer for every situation. The bottom line is that regardless of our circumstances, we are still called to love God and love our neighbor.

Thanks for not sugar coating. I just don't know how to love or trust God knowing what I know unless what I know is wrong but I don't think it is.

 

[Hazelelponi]

Not sure if i agree with this. I see many youtubers who say God go them their apartment, new job, car, helped hem meet their spouse.

I lost my dad when I was 22, my daughter died when she was only 23, I had an abusive husband in my youth, am disabled for life, went to hell and back in more ways than one and live in constant physical pain, and poverty.

Fun fun...

However, I trust God more now than I did in my youth, and have joy, peace, and happiness in the here and now. He's given me more than I ever lost, and I'd trade my life and my knowledge of God for nothing... it's all been worth it to get to this point in my life.

We all have dark times, go through confusion, but with Christ we can get to the place I am now... where I trust God implicitly and have joy and peace.

It's not about our material state, although your young and if you want to better yourself and your material condition you can - the ability is there. Just don't compromise what is right and true for it... and God will see you through anything. ..

 

[methodsofdance]

Thanks for not sugar coating. I just don't know how to love or trust God knowing what I know unless what I know is wrong but I don't think it is.

I might not be the right person to give you advise, as I'm also going through suffering and I'm not sure about God's love and care at all. I think that if we manage to trust God somehow (although it might sound ridiculous or impossible) and if you live like we wants you to live, then life starts to make sense. Yours and mine suffering surely have some major meaning but we just don't understand it. I hope you will experience God's love and you will find the true sense in life.

 

[Macchiato]

I lost my dad when I was 22, my daughter died when she was only 23, I had an abusive husband in my youth, am disabled for life, went to hell and back in more ways than one and live in constant physical pain, and poverty.

Fun fun...

However, I trust God more now than I did in my youth, and have joy, peace, and happiness in the here and now. He's given me more than I ever lost, and I'd trade my life and my knowledge of God for nothing... it's all been worth it to get to this point in my life.

We all have dark times, go through confusion, but with Christ we can get to the place I am now... where I trust God implicitly and have joy and peace.

It's not about our material state, although your young and if you want to better yourself and your material condition you can - the ability is there. Just don't compromise what is right and true for it... and God will see you through anything. ..

You said he's given you more than you ever lost what did he give you? Also how do you trust? I feel I can't do this at all

 

[Hazelelponi]

You said he's given you more than you ever lost what did he give you? Also how do you trust? I feel I can't do this at all

I say He gave me more than I ever lost because He gave me knowledge of Him, in truth.

That was worth everything...

It's something Paul the Apostle remarks on as well in Philippians 3:8

If your not there yet just keep going toward Him, and one day you'll find you understand.

 

[dqhall]

I know being a Christian doesn't make everything better but it shouldn't be this difficult either.
I feel like I literally can not trust God--I feel He doesn't have my best interest at heart just what He wants.

I didn't get into my program (rejected)
struggling in poverty
toxic parents ( Tried to move out but there's always a block. Not lazy by any means)
No friends ( from as long as I can remember I've always been alone and lonely no one really stuck with me from school, college years, not in church no matter how friendly i am. It just doesn't work out.

My son's health issues
My own mental issues getting worse
Bad church experience
God's silence from the time I was saved to now..

Idk I feel like no matter what I do it's destined to fail. I truly feel like a Lazarus Archetype-- I'm just meant to tread wih my head above water until I die and then and only then will things get better. Sucks but I feel this is my cross to bear bc no matter how hard I work nothing comes together, I pray get no answers.

Idk I just have zero faith that God will do anything for me except what He wants which seems to be nothing. I just can't trust God because of this. I also dont have much self esteem or belief in myself because of this.

I was homeless and looking in dumpsters behind restaurants to get food. A waitress stood behind the restaurant door facing an alley in a Rocky Mtn town. I did not see her at first. She saw me looking at the dumpster where there were some coffee grounds over discarded toast. She invited me in and fed me breakfast. She gave me enough money to feed myself several days. She told me she did not have much, she was doing this because of Jesus. It was 1983. The economy was bad. She said there was no work in that town. I traveled further on foot and did day labor in a resort town, then had a temporary job with a roofing company until winter set in. Eventually I got a pocket size New Testament and tried to memorize Gospel passages. Now I am in my 60’s. I own a trailer in a low crime neighborhood. I thank God for blessings as I did not do everything all by myself. I remember I was in a Presbyterian Church high school youth group singing hymns of praise. I do not know why I got so lost in lust, anger and sin. God taught me to be mild mannered and celibate. I worked when I had strength. I liked to go to libraries and read. Now there is the Internet and I am not always alone. You might like to memorize Gospel passages, if you can do no better. Some losers will learn to win.

 

[splish- splash]

You know what? Even if we never get to achieve all we long for in this world, what could honestly be better than finding Christ, who offers us eternal life? Is it having status in society i.e wealth, family & marriage or being in good health?

And by the way, Christ does want us to be blessed in this life too. Only it could be, He is taking you through a process of transformation but you just haven't realised it yet. It also takes bold faith and fervent prayers in all areas for one to recover whatever the enemy stole.

Believe that it is done for you even when the signs in the natural are, pointing towards the opposite direction. E.g if you're trusting God for breakthrough, for some business venture and have been saving up for a while, but the next minute you lose your job, God still expects you to have bold unwavering faith and to never give up on Him. By this, He will eventually make a way in that seemingly impossible situation.

Please see hebrews 11.