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Most of the participants were level-headed. The ones who weren't were advised to take a different approach. Some listened and some didn't.



I didn't psychoanalyze the show. Nor does gender or feminism cross my mind very often.



All relationships have expectations and consequences. Irrespective of station. The healthiest ones are practical. Don't agree to things you're unable to perform. Fit is my barometer.

Money isn't a big deal. It's the other stuff that causes problems. Our lifestyles and personalities have to mesh. I like positive go-getters. I don't need someone stressing me out or upsetting me.

I'm kind of drunk and spaced out right now.. so I'll reply tomorrow.. lol.

I hope you didn't take any offense to any of my responses, I know you're a good person. I just have a beef with what I perceive as feminism in society. Feminism is pretty much the only viewpoint allowed in academia and that has a huge influence on the culture at large.
 
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I hope you didn't take any offense to any of my responses, I know you're a good person. I just have a beef with what I perceive as feminism in society. Feminism is pretty much the only viewpoint allowed in academia and that has a huge influence on the culture at large.

Annoyance is easy. But what impact does the irritant really have on our welfare? We dwell on things that unsettle us. But they’re not a big deal in the long run. We’re getting worked up for nothing.

I’ve shifted directions on things like that. There’s too much unsettled energy in the world. If I want to maintain my joy and peace I can’t entertain it.

If it doesn’t affect me, my loved ones, or work (what I’m meant to focus on) I don’t need to dwell on it. The solution lies elsewhere. Understanding that is game changing. I don’t need to weigh in at all. :)
 
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Just saw this. It would be the one I’d read. :crosseo:

Mary's acceptance of the divine invitation will irrevocably change the contour of her life - in ways she cannot possibly envision.

And thus it is in our lives as well. There are times when unexpected events change the course of our lives, times when our saying "yes" to God turns our lives inside out. Louis Macneice refers to such experiences as mutations:

Each of us has known mutations in the mind
When the world jumped and what had been a plan
Dissolved and rivers gushed from what had seemed a pool.
For every static world that you or I impose
Upon the real one must crack at times and new
Patterns from new disorders open like a rose
And old assumptions yield to new sensations.
The Stranger in the wings is waiting for [the] cue.
The fuse is already laid to some annunciation.

"Mary is the key figure in Advent. She had a plan for her life … Then comes the surprise visit of the messenger of God. As many of the parables will later point out, God's action is unexpected. Sometimes a surprise is delightful, as when one finds a treasure hidden in a field. At other times, if God makes known some demand or challenge, the surprise is experienced as the end of one's world." —Thomas Keating, The Mystery of Christ

"Mary asserts herself before God saying, 'Here am I.' There is no arrogance, however, but only holy fear and wonder. Mary proceeds - as we must do in life - making her commitment without knowing much about what it will entail or where it will lead. I treasure the story because it forces me to ask: When the mystery of God's love breaks through into my consciousness, do I run from it? Do I ask it what it cannot answer? Shrugging, do I retreat into facile cliches, the popular but false wisdom of what 'we all know.'? Or am I virgin enough to respond from my deepest, truest self, and say something new, a 'yes' that will change me forever?" —Kathleen Norris, Amazing Grace
 
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As if the message wasn't enough. He's on a roll today! :preach:

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I fell into the skincare rabbit hole and looked for gift ideas for myself. The differences between customer and website reviews was pretty large. Many products received glowing remarks from blogs and magazines and less stellar feedback on Sephora, Dermstore, and Amazon. If you’re looking for user results dig around. You’ll find the truth in the comment section.
 
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I fell into the skincare rabbit hole and looked for gift ideas for myself. The differences between customer and website reviews was pretty large. Many products received glowing remarks from blogs and magazines and less stellar feedback on Sephora, Dermstore, and Amazon. If you’re looking for user results dig around. You’ll find the truth in the comment section.

That's cool. I really improved my skin care regime this year.
 
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That's cool. I really improved my skin care regime this year.

What do you do?

I miss the spa. But there’s too much contact. I found a couple of things today. My mother said the mask is scary.
 
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What do you do?

I miss the spa. But there’s too much contact. I found a couple of things today. My mother said the mask is scary.

Lol.. I have a skin condition. other wise I wouldn't mess with skin care. I use an alcohol free toner, a moisturizer with some acid and coal tar. My skin is pretty much 99% clear with this set up.
 
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Lol.. I have a skin condition. other wise I wouldn't mess with skin care. I use an alcohol free toner, a moisturizer with some acid and coal tar. My skin is pretty much 99% clear with this set up.

I’m glad your regimen is working. :)

Dryness is a concern this time of year. But my body could use a detox and I may spend January doing that. I’d like to make wellness a bigger focus next year.
 
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I’m glad your regimen is working. :)

Dryness is a concern this time of year. But my body could use a detox and I may spend January doing that. I’d like to make wellness a bigger focus next year.

Mine isn't really dryness.. my skin just sheds skin cells more rapidly. The acid helps peel it away and the coal tar helps slow the process. Although I know the latter can cause cancer.. so I use that sparingly.
 
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Mine isn't really dryness.. my skin just sheds skin cells more rapidly. The acid helps peel it away and the coal tar helps slow the process. Although I know the latter can cause cancer.. so I use that sparingly.

Do you see a dermatologist? I’ve heard light therapy helps.

Being home under the heat takes a toll. I like to open the window for fresh air. I have humidifiers in every room. But I don’t have plants and they help with air quality. Flowers would be a nice alternative. A little color in the winter never hurts.
 
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Do you see a dermatologist? I’ve heard light therapy helps.

Being home under the heat takes a toll. I like to open the window for fresh air. I have humidifiers in every room. But I don’t have plants and they help with air quality. Flowers would be a nice alternative. A little color in the winter never hurts.

I used to see them.. although they do is offer harmful steroids. For my skin condition even the dermatologist said I have a very mild case. I'd rather take more safe remedies than rely on steroids that will only thin my skin and cause premature aging.
 
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I used to see them.. although they do is offer harmful steroids. For my skin condition even the dermatologist said I have a very mild case. I'd rather take more safe remedies than rely on steroids that will only thin my skin and cause premature aging.

Understandable. I try to use natural methods when possible. Now I’m pretty green.

What are your plans for the holiday?
 
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Understandable. I try to use natural methods when possible. Now I’m pretty green.

What are your plans for the holiday?

Nothing much.. too dangerous to visit my parents.. just going to enjoy the holidays solo.. the days off of work are enough for me.. lol..

You?
 
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Nothing much.. too dangerous to visit my parents.. just going to enjoy the holidays solo.. the days off of work are enough for me.. lol..

You?

My family’s gathering but we aren’t going. I’m cooking. This period of the year is hectic. I’ve got NYE taken care of and the menu for New Year’s Day.
 
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