What's on your mind?

[bèlla]

So more than anything that ties all these together is the pedestal effect. and keeping my mind in Narnia. when I wasn't getting any communication from the last guy I was filling in the blanks with my own imagination. It was a terrible loop to live in.

I think the purpose of our dialogue and your recollections is to provide a springboard for my own. There's things you can't see in a situation that you recognize with a little distance.

 

[MehGuy]

I guess I can watch more of that stupid show Barbarians on Netflix.

The last few episodes were alright. Guess I'll watch another season when it comes out. The first season is only six episodes long which is fine by me.

 

[sampa]

I'm writing you now. How funny! The dream made me think of something you said.

Darkness can represent something sinister or hidden. The room isn't pitch black. The lights are off. There's a large window behind the couch that illuminates his silhouette. If I walked in I'd see him.

I assume things are one way. But the dream showed otherwise. There's a symbol included so I'd know who it is. The hidden intentions were revealed for my edification. So I wouldn't be misled.

I don't dream about the men I engage with. Only two, including the current. In every instance the interpretation is there. They're the only ones He's spoken of in that state. That's why I'm paying attention. This isn't my norm.

Did you sense something different?

The only thing that jumped out to me was darkness and something hidden. I don't have much of an interpretation. You are the gatekeeper and you would have to ask yourself, which is your subconscious. That's what I've had to do a couple times immediately after I woke from the dream if it related to anything currently going on.

 

[sampa]

think the purpose of our dialogue and your recollections is to provide a springboard for my own. There's things you can't see in a situation that you recognize with a little distance.

I'm glad that I was a good springboard. It's good to learn from each other.

Confident, intelligent, articulate, and controlled. He's exacting and strategic. He understands me more than anyone and knows how to handle me. I stay away from him. *lol*

Yes, I still haven't figured out my own tie between the guys. I'm sure in time the Lord will reveal. I just have to be willing to wake up in the middle of the night when I'm told something and write it down. I don't want to I want to grow in my walk with the Lord but I want to be with somebody that wants the same for me to grow my walk with the Lord.

Recognizing this allows me to see the situation in a better context and understand the dream. I know what the Lord is saying.

I'm glad that you have figured out your dream better. Blessings,

 

[bèlla]

I'm glad that I was a good springboard. It's good to learn from each other.

I have some soul searching to do.

I did a visualization exercise earlier. I asked myself, who do you see yourself with? Is that what you’re pursuing? It was enlightening.

 

[bèlla]

Many desire to be accepted as-is. But when it happens, why do they struggle? Why can’t we rest in the knowledge we’re good enough?

 

[SarahsKnight]

Anyone have any recommendations for movies on Netflix that are worth a watch?

I found Bridge Curse to be a worthwhile thrill. Taiwan take on horror and all. Seemingly similar to Japanese superstitions and urban legends on ghosts and the supernatural, too. It was apparently made this year, actually.
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[SarahsKnight]

Phew .... Two nights down. One more to go, and as I was leaving this morning it is already set up to be the most difficult one yet.

 

[sampa]

I have some soul searching to do. I’m entering a new season and starting class in a few weeks. Everything I’ve been working towards is here. Who do I share it with? That’s the question. I think the answer will be obvious in time.

I did a visualization exercise earlier. I asked myself, who do you see yourself with? Is that what you’re pursuing? It was enlightening.

I will pray for you during this time. As well myself I am learning. And I hope that I am progressively getting back on track with the Lord just as there have been some other areas that have fallen behind with all the training I had to do this year. I can't imagine being an athlete full time.

 

[sampa]

What makes you tick? That is the question that was posed to me this morning. I will have to think about this one and if I should answer it or how I would answer it.

Last night I was thinking about the phrase "Your wish is my command" and if this is a red flag with someone that you initially meet. I know its meant as humor, but could these people twist that? Is someone that is willing to be with someone with a lot of baggage humble or looking to take advantage of a broken individual?

 

[Niels]

Unexpected events are taking more of my time than I'm comfortable with, so I may have spread myself a little too thin. The challenge is to find a way to balance things out without letting others down.

In other news, the YouTube algorithm has apparently typed me as an INFJ.

 

[sampa]

Unexpected events are taking more of my time than I'm comfortable with, so I may have spread myself a little too thin. The challenge is to find a way to balance things out without letting others down.

In other news, the YouTube algorithm has apparently typed me as an INFJ.

I'm sorry to hear about the unexpected events and will pray. Otherwise, welcome to the INFJ club Your in the 1%, rarest type. I'm an INFJ too.

 

[bèlla]

I will pray for you during this time. As well myself I am learning. And I hope that I am progressively getting back on track with the Lord just as there have been some other areas that have fallen behind with all the training I had to do this year. I can't imagine being an athlete full time.

Thank you. I'll pray for you as well.

 

[bèlla]

What makes you tick? That is the question that was posed to me this morning. I will have to think about this one and if I should answer it or how I would answer it.

That's a good one. Context is key with that question. What makes you tick when all is well differs from the things you need when you're stressed, upset, etc. Sometimes there's overlap. But the answers are true.

Last night I was thinking about the phrase "Your wish is my command" and if this is a red flag with someone that you initially meet. I know its meant as humor, but could these people twist that? Is someone that is willing to be with someone with a lot of baggage humble or looking to take advantage of a broken individual?

In my opinion that's a ministry. They may relinquish a portion but some thing's might remain. You enter with the understanding it's a long-term problem. You need the heart and disposition to take it on.

 

[sampa]

Thank you. I'll pray for you as well.

Yes, it's demanding. I dated someone who contemplated being a pro golfer. His father was a club pro and played overseas. The biggest surprise wasn't the time or physical demands. It was the expense. I saw the same with my daughter. You pay for everything for junior golf.

It's a commitment and most find a sponsor to offset the costs to focus on training and secure coaching and fitness experts. That's your life. You fit the rest around it.

That's interesting! During this past spring 2020 I conversed with somebody who had been a professional golfer. His story was interesting how he got there by bending the truth and being around the right people. He left all of it after he became a Christian and went out to California did some pastoring. It was towards the end of our phone chat that something in me asked him about the trinity, and he said he didn't believe in that.. That was one of my deal breakers. So I had to say goodbye and he did as well. I think he does full-time charity work for a pro-life center now. I think there was other issues there that hadn't been revealed yet but the Holy Spirit helped me discern that we were not for each other.

Listening to his story I don't think that anything with pro sports would be something I could marry into. I've also considered and realized over the years that missions and being a pastor's wife is not for me either.

 

[sampa]

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[sampa]

Thinking how cool it would be if hearts and emoji's could be someday overlapping on text. For example, we can highlight text with colors, but we haven't been able to put symbols over text yet. Kay Arthur does this with inductive bible studies, picking out key words.

 

[bèlla]

It was towards the end of our phone chat that something in me asked him about the trinity, and he said he didn't believe in that.. That was one of my deal breakers. So I had to say goodbye and he did as well. I think he does full-time charity work for a pro-life center now. I think there was other issues there that hadn't been revealed yet but the Holy Spirit helped me discern that we were not for each other.

There are Christian golfers. They openly admit their faith and try to conduct themselves accordingly.

Listening to his story I don't think that anything with pro sports would be something I could marry into. I've also considered and realized over the years that missions and being a pastor's wife is not for me either.

I won't say I'd never date a professional athlete. But if I did it would be a golfer. You have to make peace with the realities of that lifestyle. Namely the women and time away from home. Unlike other sports, wives maintain a presence on the course. That's your job. You're the loving companion with children in tow. Golf is a family sport and you must look the part. Golf and fashion have two things in common. They're tight knit and tight lipped. They cover up a lot.

I couldn't marry someone in full-time ministry. He'd have difficulty with my work. I don't want those arguments. I'm better suited for someone self-employed and grappling with similar temptations and challenges.

 

[sampa]

Unlike other sports, wives maintain a presence on the course. That's your job. You're the loving companion with children in tow. Golf is a family sport and you must look the part. Golf and fashion have two things in common. They're tight knit and tight lipped. They cover up a lot.

Some interesting things I wasn't aware. This year doing online dating has opened up a world of men I'd never have the chance to interact with in my current social circles.

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[angelsaroundme]

I wonder if there is a word for the opposite of idealizing. I was thinking, that to see someone as clear as possible, you have to neither idealize them as in having a positive bias, or do the opposite, exaggerate negatives. Probably more people have extreme biases toward groups than individuals because it's more likely for someone to attach a group to their identity either as an ally or an enemy.