- May 22, 2019
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Single
I have been talking to a girl from Kenya. Maybe I should have been more careful with cross-cultural dating, but I was introduced to her by a mutual friend (also from Kenya) and the friend didn't seem to have misgivings about it. Anyway, she became really serious about me really fast. I did not feel the same way about her, and today I told her that I didn't think our relationship would work out and suggested that we not continue talking except as friends.
It broke her heart. I didn't expect it to hurt her so much, but she has been crying ever since. And now I feel like maybe I should have waited longer to see if I would fall in love with her. The thing is, having hurt her so much has made me feel like I would do about anything to make her feel better. I feel like I would marry her if it would make her feel better. Part of me thinks that that is a sign that I feel more seriously about her than I thought, and part of me thinks I am just upset and not thinking clearly.
I feel so horrible and guilty about it. I feel like I would rather die than hurt her again, and really I had thought I was doing the right thing to avoid hurting her too much in the first place. What should I do?
It broke her heart. I didn't expect it to hurt her so much, but she has been crying ever since. And now I feel like maybe I should have waited longer to see if I would fall in love with her. The thing is, having hurt her so much has made me feel like I would do about anything to make her feel better. I feel like I would marry her if it would make her feel better. Part of me thinks that that is a sign that I feel more seriously about her than I thought, and part of me thinks I am just upset and not thinking clearly.
I feel so horrible and guilty about it. I feel like I would rather die than hurt her again, and really I had thought I was doing the right thing to avoid hurting her too much in the first place. What should I do?