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@Emosoundlogic, here are a few questions that will help me help you write a profile. I want to identify to type of woman that would be compatible with you and then write a profile to appeal to her, truthfully describing intersections of interest you might have with her.
Read the article I linked for you about compatibility and then answer the following questions. It's at:
Choosing the Right One to Marry - Letter #2 (Marriage Builders®,...
There are no wrong answers. This is just to understand the way you are in certain areas so you can find someone who is similar.
a) Intelligence: Roughly what was your GPA in high school? In college? What are the last 5 books you read and how long ago did you read them? What types of things do you do to nurture your intelligence?
b) Energy. OK, so you're an energy addict. Does that mean you go to the gym or a fitness activity 4x a week, or does that mean you have constant ants in your pants and need to burn off energy for three hours every evening and all day Sat/Sun? What type of vacations do you take? Reflecting very honestly, what level of energy goes into relaxing while on vacations? What would you like to do to relax at home? What do you actually do to relax (if its different than what you would like to do)?
c) Social. Are you an introvert or extrovert? Do you crack jokes often? Dry humor or conventional humor? How often are you the focal point of a group?
d) Cultural background. I have the idea on this, but how flexible can you be? Please read my posts #149 and #150. Could you enjoy/extend that level of flexibility with your beliefs?
e) What values do you have on your day to day life that are non-negotiable? Values that you continue to observe even if it would hurt your spouse? Church every Sunday? Brazillion jo-jangles? Raising your kids in a certain faith? Reading your Bible? .... etc... try to think of everything that you would do even at the expense of your spouse due to strong beliefs you might have. The point of this question is to make sure she shares those values so you "needing" to do them at her expense is not a possibility.
A)
So, I literally cheated my way out of high school, I hated school. I never applied myself because I was too busy getting bullied, stabbed, beaten, etc etc. School was what I had to endure until I could get home and play games every day. So, I'd say my GPA from high school? Like a 2.5 lol.
Fast forward to college, well, that was different. I got lucky and my first algebra remedial teacher spoke my language. I aced all of her tests and got the highest GPA in the class. I completed my core with a 3.8 GPA.
When I went to University, I got destroyed. I thought I was gonna be an artist, lol I dropped out after the first semester because let's just say, I'm NO artists. I am 9th percentile in openness to experience, so I have like 0 interest in art or drama / plays etc etc.
That being said, once I found an online university that specialized in computers, I literally aced my way through, everything except coding, [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] was that a struggle, please don't ever ask me to code again God! I graduated with a 3.0 all said and done. So I guess you could say I am like a B student, when I apply myself?
I'm not a for fun reader, I love to research so I read constantly, but I don't enjoy sitting down reading fiction. I've read the entire Harry Potter series twice, the Bible (like 80% or more), Family Swiss Robinson when I was in high school, and I've listened to the entire GOT series on Audiobook and a few others, but I don't think that really counts?
B)
So, I do BJJ right now 5 nights a week for 2 hours. Fri/Sun are my rest days. I can easily sit still for long periods as I sit all day for my job and all night for my entertainment, but I cannot stand being bored or unchallenged, it literally makes me angry and I start to get very grouchy.
Traveling wise, aside from a few small trips (Vegas when I was 8, Nebraska when I was 9, Maryland when I was 12), I've only ever been to New York once on a real vacation. I live in Texas. I absolutely hated the experience. I was there for work for the week, and I probably slept 16 hours the entire week, I had massive anxiety and couldn't relax at all, even though I was doing hard lifting workouts every night trying to tire myself out. The plane ride there and back was agony, I find it very difficult to entertain myself with just books or movies.
I spent the weekend in manhatten and I walked for probably the entire time I was there. I saw every major tourist attraction, ate at a ton of recommended areas, tried some of the clubs etc, but it was mostly boring, I approached the entire trip like a check list of getting pictures. I lost 10 lbs in 1 week on that trip and when I got home it took me 2 days to recover, along with sleeping medication just to be able to get back into my normal rhythm. Needless to say, I don't think traveling is my thing.
C)
So, this is where I have somewhat of a split personality. When I don't know people in a room, or it's a professional setting, I choose to sit in corners or be on the outside looking in and don't say anything unless called upon or I have a very good point to make. It takes me a while to get comfortable in new groups to the point that I will engage in open conversations.
However... Once I do get to know someone or I feel safe to speak, I basically don't shut up. I find myself falling into depression when I'm alone and I feel like sleeping most of the time. But, being apart of a group I even marginally enjoy is better than being alone...
So, I would say I'm a reluctant extrovert, makes no sense but that's me, that being said if everyone in the room is quiet and no ones talking, I get uncomfortable and will usually try to break the ice with a comment or something like anyone know what the weekend weather is going to be like?
D)
So, I would say I am definitely a republican. I'm pro-life, pro-strong military, anti-big government, pro-strong immigration security/boarders. Pro-guns. I think we need to completely re-do education. I think college will be mostly free, probably just a subscription really, in the near future because it will all be online.
Religiously I was raised fundamental baptist which I find to be almost insane, I prefer non-denominational, erring on the side of grace over law, I don't have a problem with speaking in tongues or casting out spirits etc, I just find it to be uncomfortable area for me due to a brief church I attended that got weird for me.
Up until recently, I would say no I couldn't be flexible, but God seems to be telling me rather loudly that I need to learn to flex or at least not be combative about differences, which is hard for someone so low in politeness lol.
E)
So this is where stuff gets wack...
There's almost nothing that I would absolutely HAVE to do over my wife so long as she continued to be faithful to me, aside from obviously I'm not giving up God. I would be stubborn about changing jobs, unless she could convince me that it was a good financial decision, I would be extremely scared of loosening my dietary restrictions due to weight gain. I could give up BJJ or lifting and that stuff, so long as she replaced it with something that we could do together that kept me in shape. Same thing with gaming.
So, I guess something that keeps me in shape and God would be my deal breakers. Everything else is negotiable but this is where I start to feel clingy and like a door mat. My mother RAN my dad's house, she was the boss and the princess, I swore I'd never marry a woman that made me her silent provider while she made all the decisions, but it seems rather natural to me unfortunately. I am naturally very stubborn and need logical convincing of things though.
So, if she decided we needed to move to California because it's the best place in the country etc etc... She'd have to convince me that it was a logical move financially, and in the best interest of our future, not that I would be automatically against it, just I'm not doing anything that isn't well thought out and planned.
Let me know if I didn't explain something well enough.