My boyfriend is Muslim and he is making me doubt my faith...

[Justachristiangirl]

You already said you broke up. Which is it?

We broke up but he still isn't giving up and he still wants to marry me.. we just knew we can't be in a relationship unless we knew for SURE that it will work out..

 

[timothyu]

What if no man will accept me if they find out about my past and how much of a mess and sinner I am.. I don't think I deserve anything good..

You're not livestock

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Dear Nika:

It would be a worse kind of hurt to keep things going and acting like there is no problem to have to break it up later or to stay in a relationship that is unevenly yoked. It will be all physical and there will be no real bond between you two. He will also seek to continue to destroy your faith, as well (Which is not good). My encouragement is to not see him ever again (If Jesus is the one you want to truly follow). Send him a text, email, letter, etc. (where you do not have to see him), and explain that you made a mistake. Tell him that while you do care for him, Jesus is more important in your life and that you are looking for a Christian man who can also love the Lord Jesus Christ, too. Then... do not read any replies from him. Change your phone number. Change your email. Change your address if you can. Try to make yourself no longer available to him anymore. Cut him off completely. This is the best way to see him not being hurt and for you to move on. If you try to see him face to face, it is just going to make it that much more difficult. Ask the Lord Jesus Christ to protect you, as well; And ask for the peace of the Lord to be upon him in this break up. I will also pray for you, as well.

Please be well.

With loving kindness to you in Christ,

Sincerely,

~ Jason.

Thank you... I'll do that.. I'm going to tell him that we need to take a break from eachother.. it just.. I really care for others and I would rather have myself be heartbroken than him.. but this relationship is killing me..

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Sorry, I know that I already responded, but I found some more things I thought I would respond to.

I have to day that this is a false thought. If any other guy would not accept you just because of your previous dating history, then he is not worth it at all. There are plenty of guys out there who will not mind and will accept you just the way that you are.

One more thing I would like to add is that, no matter who it is that we are talking about, you are not responsible for the feelings or emotions of others. These are things that are out of your control. If he feels sad because of your being honest with him, then fine he's sad. What's the worst that could happen? He might cry? Thing is, no matter what, feelings are temporary. He'll get over it eventually. And please please do not let his emotions keep you from standing up for yourself. My mother would pull the same trick with me all of the time and use her emotions against me. It's how she kept me from leaving her abusive house for far too long.

That helps so much.. thank you it really means a lot to me

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Jesus says:

"And you should not be afraid of those killing the body but not being able to kill the soul. Indeed rather you should fear the One being able to destroy both soul and body in Gehenna." (Matthew 10:28).

We have to decide who we should be more afraid of. The Lord, or a mere mortal.

I choose to fear God and not men. Men may be able to destroy the body, but they cannot destroy the soul like the Lord Jesus Christ can. Ask for the power of the Lord to protect you. Do not fear mere men. The enemy wants you to fear men. If you have to keep a relationship alive out of fear, you will never be free and or truly in love. My suggestion is to try and disappear for a while (if you can), or make yourself unreachable by taking on a job that he is not aware of (and or attending another school). Try to stay at another family member's house for a while instead of at the house he knows where you normally live. Avoid him at all costs. Do not speak to him. Tell him everything that you wanted to say is in the letter, email, text, etc. Tell him that you will be praying for him, but you don't want to see or talk with him anymore.

You must do this, otherwise you will be controlled by this man and that will be much, much worse in the end. For if you are afraid of him now, can you imagine how much worse it will be if you let things progress? Stop the relationship in it's tracks right now. Text him now. Or email him now. Or send him a letter now. Tell him that you don't want to see him anymore because you are looking for a man who is interested in following Jesus (Because Jesus is the first love of your life). Tell him you care for him, but Jesus means more and that you don't see a future with a person who is not following Jesus.

Be brave and take a stand for Jesus.
You will not regret it.

Please know that the Lord loves you and He wants you to live for Him.
This is a test of your faith in the Lord.

Thank you.. I sometimes feel that God is really disappointed in me and wouldn't want me back..

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Think about it -- can it be a good thing for you if it has brought you this much fear and confusion already? Remember God said we are not to be unequally yoked and remember that Islam is in no way right or true or Christian in any way. My BFF claimed Christianity but let lust lead her to marry a Muslim -- she was fine before but died in poverty and misery and regret. I hope you don't make her mistakes, either with letting lust lead you astray or by trying to marry true Christianity and a satanic cult of any kind.

So is this more lust not love?

 

[Bible Highlighter]

Thank you.. I sometimes feel that God is really disappointed in me and wouldn't want me back..

Falling into sin, and rejecting Jesus are two different things.
If we lost focus of Him (because of sin), that is different.
But the Lord can forgive sin. For it is written,

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9).

This is a promise you can bank on.

 

[Justachristiangirl]

You're not livestock

What do you mean?

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Nika... YOU search on Islam.. Quran. Read in the Quran all the word for Allah. Then know he never ever answers them. Read about that man and kids.. IN THE QURAN...what it says.. I give you a true story..

A Muslim man.. in prison.. teaching others about Quran.. over there. One day.. he really wanted Allah to answer so he prayed fasted for a week. And came back with nothing..nothing... he was going to give up on all of it. Then this man in white holes in His hands shows up.. and he has such a fear.. as in.. how unworthy he was.. ran in a corning just saying forgive me forgive.. crying. He said the man touched him and said..I forgive you. The man asked..who are you? He said.. I am the way the truth and the life. The man said.. those words mean nothing to me.. He said.. He was JESUS! Jesus asked him.. how easy was it for me to forgive you? He said as easy as it is drinking water. Jesus show'd him people lost.. as easy as I forgave you.. I will them.

Theres more to that story.. what I love is.. 20+ years later.. when he gets to the point Jesus shows up.. he cries so hard.. cant stop.. there are other Muslims out there seeing Jesus and NEVER knowing about Christ..

Jesus is the only way in.. no other way.. in a Church in Spokane Wa.. we watched a woman up front asking for prayer.. blind.. 1/2 the people came with her to see this man of GOD.. prays in JESUS NAME.. cries shouts screams jumping.. PRAISE GOD No longer blind. NO OTHER NAME not ALLAH nothing...

Jesus is real... YOU ASK HIM! To show you.. just as any Muslim can.. if your who you say you are.. show me prove it.. JESUS IS REAL! The key.. is to ask from your heart... Now...in some nations they KILL Christians... that believe in JESUS! Or Gay.. And.. under the Quran.. they have every right to LIE!

I cant speak for anyone.. not to boast.. I have seen WONDERS... JESUS is real. Search the Internet.. videos why Islam is in error... and what do they really believe. There is ONLY ONE WAY to GOD.. its Christ.. and every Muslims.. has no clue what so ever if they get in.. they NEVER hear god.. feel god.. no peace of GOD...nothing.. where as the GOD of Abraham Issac and Jacob.. He hears the prayers of the righteous.. and answers before they finish praying.. He said.. keep your mind on me and I will keep you in prefect peace.. Jesus left us HIS peace.. not as the world gives.

Jesus is IN YOU! Never left you...He gave you ALL POWER of the enemy.. aka Satan.. greater is HE that is in YOU then he thats in the world.

I will not bow.. not for my wife my kids.. I have heard seen to much.. JESUS IS REAL! He WILL HELP YOU! Ask to see understand the TRUTH..

Yes.. Jesus touched me so many times and even me being alive rn is a miracle - because I was born 3 months early and I was supposed to die but through my parents prayers to God I survived... it's scary how the devil can make you doubt everything good that Jesus has done.. I wish I wasn't so weak. And I don't understand what's wrong with me. I feel like every time I repent I just go back to singing again and sometimes it's even worse than before. This cycle has been going on for like 2 years maybe and it just keeps getting worse... I know deep in my heart that Christianity is the truth but I'm so weak I keep letting evil temptations bring me down..

 

[timothyu]

What do you mean?

Your worth as a person is not based on those things you mentioned

 

[Justachristiangirl]

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[Justachristiangirl]

And everyone here thank you so so much for your words and for your support. I know most of the time my answer were short but I was too overwhelmed because I never thought people cared so much. But honestly some of your replies made me cry and it means so much to me and I'm so thankful for every one of you. I hope you all have a good life and that you all will be happy because you deserve it. I'm really thankful for everything ^^ if it wasn't for your replies I wouldn't have the courage to end it.. and even though I'm struggling all of your support really means a lot.

 

[Bible Highlighter]

May the Lord Jesus Christ give you strength during this difficult time.

 

[W34KN35S]

A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...

Part of life is making choices , even the hard ones. I would really take a look at the word Love and think about what is really means and then I would ask myself if this other person really does love me. If he truly is Islam then I'm not totally sure his religion allows him to even be with you unless he converts you in which you would be giving up Christ for.

I would advise you to look up David Wood (Acts17apologetics) , He specializes in defending Christianity against Islam and gives plenty of reasons why the faith and or religion of Islam is false using verses from the Quran itself.

that is just one of his videos , I hope you make the right choice.

 

[DamianWarS]

My boyfriend is Muslim...

Well there's your problem

 

[Ttalkkugjil]

A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...

Christians belong only with other Christians. Break up with this Muslim suitor. Escort him out the door. It is time for him to go.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...

I haven't read the previous posts but please do not make the same mistake as I did.

I dated and married a Muslim and was with him for 13 years.

It was toxic for both of us and ended in divorce. One of his 'brothers' even told asked him why he hasn't forced me to convert.

If you need someone to talk to in terms of your concerns please please pm me I understand the conflict...

 

[FireDragon76]

What if no man will accept me if they find out about my past and how much of a mess and sinner I am.. I don't think I deserve anything good..

We're all sinners, though, so you aren't special in that area. You're just more honest than most.

You have to accept yourself first. Be your own best friend. You don't need a romantic partner to be a complete human being. People who rush into relationships because they feel a lack in their lives like that are going to get hurt.

 

[FireDragon76]

We broke up but he still isn't giving up and he still wants to marry me.. we just knew we can't be in a relationship unless we knew for SURE that it will work out..

Just tell him that trying to get you to change your religion is a dealbreaker and isn't respectful to who you are. Make it clear that is an absolute rule. People that try to convert other people through manipulation or coercion aren't being loving, they are being abusive, and it's wrong.

 

[SinoBen]

We broke up but he still isn't giving up and he still wants to marry me.. we just knew we can't be in a relationship unless we knew for SURE that it will work out..

Run Nika run.