My boyfriend is Muslim and he is making me doubt my faith...

[Justachristiangirl]

I agree.

I have a friend who has been a missionary to the Muslim world for nearly 30 years now. He spent twenty years somewhat "undercover" working as a contractor in one Muslim country. His ministry was simple: He behaved as a Christian so that it was clear that he was a serious believer, not merely the typical American "default" Christian.

But every now and then, he was quietly approached by a Muslim who wanted to know more about Jesus.

So what my friend would do is simply begin reading with the Muslim through the gospels, each one from Matthew through John. They they would read through Acts, then Romans. They just read. My friend would answer questions simply, but mostly they just read. It would typically take months, with the Muslim returning on his own to continue.

Most importantly: My friend never tried to expound Christian "theology" or "doctrine." You see, the Quran explicitly inoculates Muslims against Christian doctrine. It spells out responses to specific Christian assertions about Christ--and Muslims love to get Christians into those debates because they already have their ammunition.

But my friend just read scripture. When they finished Romans, he would ask, simply, "Do you believe what we've read?" He reports that every Muslim who stayed with the reading from Matthew through Romans said, "Yes, I believe this. I want to be baptized."

That's so amazing

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Sounds toxic, what's the attraction based on? Looks or....

Definitely not looks or anything sexual.. I don't even find him physically attractive. It's just his heart.

 

[ICONO'CLAST]

Well.. he is very very controlling and he mad me feel pressured a lot times.. it's toxic because I cry everyday and i don't know why it's so hard to let go.. i know i have to and i told him that but it's very hard..

A believer is commanded to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever 2cor6:14-7-1

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Yeah that's standard-issue dawah nonsense.

The Quran contains so many "facts" it says people come from clots, water, and dirt all at the same time. The Quran is so scientifically accurate it allows first cousin marriage which is producing reams of inbreeding birth defects among Muslim populations.

He's deceived, and he's trying to take you with him.

Yeah.. I really want to leave but I'm just scared.. that he'll get mad..

 

[mmksparbud]

Yeah.. I really want to leave but I'm just scared.. that he'll get mad..

You would rather hurt the heart of God than his? Is he violent? Maybe best to have someone with you when you leave.

 

[Justasurvivor]

A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...

in the old testament the Lord warned the Israelites that if they took foreign spouses that they would be drifted away from God, same exact situation here so if you're boyfriend is trying to covert you and you still feel love for him it's just a matter of choice but realistically speaking if I was in you're shoes and I had a girlfriend who tried to turn me away from my faith the truth is I would being making the same mistake that you're making. I'm not saying it to justify this conundrum but I know there is alot of people on this site who beat their chest and say that they'll stay strong in the faith, so I just wanted to show honesty and I'll be praying for you sister.

and one more thing in Muslim religion you will basically be giving away you're free will, just understand that the evil one's soldiers will use anything at their disposal to turn people away from God even through love

 

[Albion]

Yeah.. I really want to leave but I'm just scared.. that he'll get mad..

Perhaps you could put some of the burden upon him by saying, without anger or accusations, that you have come to be convinced that a true-believing Moslem (him) and a true-believing Christian (you) cannot co-exist in a romantic relationship, that it wont work, and that you are sorry but that's the way it is.

All he could say in response is that you could convert, but then your reply would be that he could do the same...which is something he will not want to do, judging from how you have described him to us.

 

[HoneyBee]

Thank you so much.. I just don't know how to get back to the right path and not go deeper into evil.. I also deal with depression and anxiety and I used to cut.. I'm not a good Christian and I shouldn't even be calling myself a Christian at all even though I was born into a Christian family.. I don't how to fix this..

Sorry, I had to go to work for a little bit, but I'm back!

But yeah, if you were to do anything to try and get back onto the right path, I would say that maybe you could start by reading more Christian books or even reading the Bible? Also, surrounding yourself with other Christians would certainly be a good idea as well. After all, we often do end up becoming like the people with whom we associate with.

Please don't lose hope, dear. Even though it may not feel like it right now, God is still with you and He loves you ever so much.

By the way, I also struggle with depression from time to time, some anxiety, and also used to cut. If you ever need to talk about any of these things, do note that my inbox is always open.

 

[LovesOurLord]

Yeah.. I really want to leave but I'm just scared.. that he'll get mad..

You already said you broke up. Which is it?

 

[LovesOurLord]

When I met my S.O., she was actually a non-churchgoing Pentecostal and I was practicing Buddhism. It worked out OK. She never once tried to convert me, and I did not try to convert her. We loved each other too much and respected each other to let religious differences hurt each other.

This is unbiblical. "Legal union/other" also sounds the same.

 

[Bible Highlighter]

Thank you.. I am just scared of hurting him, I don't want that...

Dear Nika:

It would be a worse kind of hurt to keep things going and acting like there is no problem to have to break it up later or to stay in a relationship that is unevenly yoked. It will be all physical and there will be no real bond between you two. He will also seek to continue to destroy your faith, as well (Which is not good). My encouragement is to not see him ever again (If Jesus is the one you want to truly follow). Send him a text, email, letter, etc. (where you do not have to see him), and explain that you made a mistake. Tell him that while you do care for him, Jesus is more important in your life and that you are looking for a Christian man who can also love the Lord Jesus Christ, too. Then... do not read any replies from him. Change your phone number. Change your email. Change your address if you can. Try to make yourself no longer available to him anymore. Cut him off completely. This is the best way to see him not being hurt and for you to move on. If you try to see him face to face, it is just going to make it that much more difficult. Ask the Lord Jesus Christ to protect you, as well; And ask for the peace of the Lord to be upon him in this break up. I will also pray for you, as well.

Please be well.

With loving kindness to you in Christ,

Sincerely,

~ Jason.

 

[LovesOurLord]

He specifically sought out to undermine her faith, and to throw holes through Jesus Christ Himself. Then was controlling on top of that. This is highly toxic to a believers spiritual well being. I'll leave it at that.

Muslim men are controlling in general.

 

[HoneyBee]

Sorry, I know that I already responded, but I found some more things I thought I would respond to.

Thank you... its taking a lot courage to let go because I'm scared that no other guy would accept le after this if they found out...

I have to day that this is a false thought. If any other guy would not accept you just because of your previous dating history, then he is not worth it at all. There are plenty of guys out there who will not mind and will accept you just the way that you are.

I really want to to be honest but I'm scared of hurting him.

One more thing I would like to add is that, no matter who it is that we are talking about, you are not responsible for the feelings or emotions of others. These are things that are out of your control. If he feels sad because of your being honest with him, then fine he's sad. What's the worst that could happen? He might cry? Thing is, no matter what, feelings are temporary. He'll get over it eventually. And please please do not let his emotions keep you from standing up for yourself. My mother would pull the same trick with me all of the time and use her emotions against me. It's how she kept me from leaving her abusive house for far too long.

 

[timewerx]

Thank you so much for explaining ^^

You're welcome.

I'm a Christian but I was able to experience living and working with Arab Muslims in the Middle East for two years.

Some of my Muslim co workers became my friends.

It goes to say, some are really nice, some not. It seems to depend entirely on the person. There are many nice and good-hearted Muslims out there.

But I still don't find any reason to become a Muslim.

If your BF won't accept you being a Christian for the rest of your life, it will be a problem. Might as well leave him eventually.

 

[Bible Highlighter]

Yeah.. I really want to leave but I'm just scared.. that he'll get mad..

Jesus says:

"And you should not be afraid of those killing the body but not being able to kill the soul. Indeed rather you should fear the One being able to destroy both soul and body in Gehenna." (Matthew 10:28).

We have to decide who we should be more afraid of. The Lord, or a mere mortal.

I choose to fear God and not men. Men may be able to destroy the body, but they cannot destroy the soul like the Lord Jesus Christ can. Ask for the power of the Lord to protect you. Do not fear mere men. The enemy wants you to fear men. If you have to keep a relationship alive out of fear, you will never be free and or truly in love. My suggestion is to try and disappear for a while (if you can), or make yourself unreachable by taking on a job that he is not aware of (and or attending another school). Try to stay at another family member's house for a while instead of at the house he knows where you normally live. Avoid him at all costs. Do not speak to him. Tell him everything that you wanted to say is in the letter, email, text, etc. Tell him that you will be praying for him, but you don't want to see or talk with him anymore.

You must do this, otherwise you will be controlled by this man and that will be much, much worse in the end. For if you are afraid of him now, can you imagine how much worse it will be if you let things progress? Stop the relationship in it's tracks right now. Text him now. Or email him now. Or send him a letter now. Tell him that you don't want to see him anymore because you are looking for a man who is interested in following Jesus (Because Jesus is the first love of your life). Tell him you care for him, but Jesus means more and that you don't see a future with a person who is not following Jesus.

Be brave and take a stand for Jesus.
You will not regret it.

Please know that the Lord loves you and He wants you to live for Him.
This is a test of your faith in the Lord.

 

[JICS]

A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...

Think about it -- can it be a good thing for you if it has brought you this much fear and confusion already? Remember God said we are not to be unequally yoked and remember that Islam is in no way right or true or Christian in any way. My BFF claimed Christianity but let lust lead her to marry a Muslim -- she was fine before but died in poverty and misery and regret. I hope you don't make her mistakes, either with letting lust lead you astray or by trying to marry true Christianity and a satanic cult of any kind.

 

[Blade]

Nika... YOU search on Islam.. Quran. Read in the Quran all the word for Allah. Then know he never ever answers them. Read about that man and kids.. IN THE QURAN...what it says.. I give you a true story..

A Muslim man.. in prison.. teaching others about Quran.. over there. One day.. he really wanted Allah to answer so he prayed fasted for a week. And came back with nothing..nothing... he was going to give up on all of it. Then this man in white holes in His hands shows up.. and he has such a fear.. as in.. how unworthy he was.. ran in a corning just saying forgive me forgive.. crying. He said the man touched him and said..I forgive you. The man asked..who are you? He said.. I am the way the truth and the life. The man said.. those words mean nothing to me.. He said.. He was JESUS! Jesus asked him.. how easy was it for me to forgive you? He said as easy as it is drinking water. Jesus show'd him people lost.. as easy as I forgave you.. I will them.

Theres more to that story.. what I love is.. 20+ years later.. when he gets to the point Jesus shows up.. he cries so hard.. cant stop.. there are other Muslims out there seeing Jesus and NEVER knowing about Christ..

Jesus is the only way in.. no other way.. in a Church in Spokane Wa.. we watched a woman up front asking for prayer.. blind.. 1/2 the people came with her to see this man of GOD.. prays in JESUS NAME.. cries shouts screams jumping.. PRAISE GOD No longer blind. NO OTHER NAME not ALLAH nothing...

Jesus is real... YOU ASK HIM! To show you.. just as any Muslim can.. if your who you say you are.. show me prove it.. JESUS IS REAL! The key.. is to ask from your heart... Now...in some nations they KILL Christians... that believe in JESUS! Or Gay.. And.. under the Quran.. they have every right to LIE!

I cant speak for anyone.. not to boast.. I have seen WONDERS... JESUS is real. Search the Internet.. videos why Islam is in error... and what do they really believe. There is ONLY ONE WAY to GOD.. its Christ.. and every Muslims.. has no clue what so ever if they get in.. they NEVER hear god.. feel god.. no peace of GOD...nothing.. where as the GOD of Abraham Issac and Jacob.. He hears the prayers of the righteous.. and answers before they finish praying.. He said.. keep your mind on me and I will keep you in prefect peace.. Jesus left us HIS peace.. not as the world gives.

Jesus is IN YOU! Never left you...He gave you ALL POWER of the enemy.. aka Satan.. greater is HE that is in YOU then he thats in the world.

I will not bow.. not for my wife my kids.. I have heard seen to much.. JESUS IS REAL! He WILL HELP YOU! Ask to see understand the TRUTH..

 

[Justachristiangirl]

in the old testament the Lord warned the Israelites that if they took foreign spouses that they would be drifted away from God, same exact situation here so if you're boyfriend is trying to covert you and you still feel love for him it's just a matter of choice but realistically speaking if I was in you're shoes and I had a girlfriend who tried to turn me away from my faith the truth is I would being making the same mistake that you're making. I'm not saying it to justify this conundrum but I know there is alot of people on this site who beat their chest and say that they'll stay strong in the faith, so I just wanted to show honesty and I'll be praying for you sister.

and one more thing in Muslim religion you will basically be giving away you're free will, just understand that the evil one's soldiers will use anything at their disposal to turn people away from God even through love

Thank you.. you're right it's very very hard..

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Perhaps you could put some of the burden upon him by saying, without anger or accusations, that you have come to be convinced that a true-believing Moslem (him) and a true-believing Christian (you) cannot co-exist in a romantic relationship, that it wont work, and that you are sorry but that's the way it is.

All he could say in response is that you could convert, but then your reply would be that he could do the same...which is something he will not want to do, judging from how you have described him to us.

Yes he would never want to convert.. at least not now..

 

[Justachristiangirl]

Sorry, I had to go to work for a little bit, but I'm back!

But yeah, if you were to do anything to try and get back onto the right path, I would say that maybe you could start by reading more Christian books or even reading the Bible? Also, surrounding yourself with other Christians would certainly be a good idea as well. After all, we often do end up becoming like the people with whom we associate with.

Please don't lose hope, dear. Even though it may not feel like it right now, God is still with you and He loves you ever so much.

By the way, I also struggle with depression from time to time, some anxiety, and also used to cut. If you ever need to talk about any of these things, do note that my inbox is always open.

I definitely will thank you so much <3