It is a sin.
You just don't understand the male anatomy. So the reason why you get the "urge" to release is because you are not practicing chastity. Either you are fornicating or masturbating on a regular basis. So what happens is your body starts to produce more sperm once you start to release yourself. You have basically turned on your switch. Now your body craves for more since your testes are producing larger amounts of it. Now if you stop releasing yourself, it usually is fine for 3 days... Then the urges hit in. This is when you are feeling "backed up". However you are not really backed up because your excess sperm will be eliminated in your urine. For the next couple of weeks, the urges will continue to hit. After about a month of abstaining, you will start to not have urges anymore. If you continue for 3 months after a while you will not even think about it anymore. However there will be moments where the urges come back briefly for a time. But they are very short and typically if you get up and go for a walk or take a cold shower, it goes away immediately.
So basically you can turn off the switch with some self control. I have been successful at being single with no porn and no masturbation. It's not really hard. Just requires you to deny yourself. Also it requires control of your mind. Don't let your mind wander off to thinking about sex with girls and etc. or the urges will naturally come back if your mind is filthy.
Thanks for this information. I applaud you.
I was not saying that I have a problem with it, personally. I am a married man..and 57. I'm not a race horse anymore...
But I do remember those years... Even as an abstainer well into my late 20's. All because of scare tactics and the threat of it being a sin.. Looking back... I put myself through a lot... for nothing..
The temptation was always there.. High school, parties, youth group, college... living as a single man with two non Christian single men....and all the antics of that life... trying to live as a someone known to be Christian..
Being accused of being "gay" because it was well known that I didn't "Make it" with any girl......
What is worse... MB'ing or giving in when some young sweet heart shows more than a little interest?
There are many pastor's daughters and sons that have ended up with a pregnancy....what is the worst case there? Good Christian kids who could no longer hold back..... with all that pent up temptation and attraction...
And, don't kid yourself.. temptation is not something you have to go searching for... it is everywhere.... school, church, youth, work... hanging out with kids your own age...
I'm saying that telling young men that this is a sin... is not going to produce a generation of Christian boys with the same level of control as yourself...
I think it is a mistake to say such a thing.