Rejected

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What are some ways that you've been turned down by the opposite sex or have turned down others yourself?

 

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What are some ways that you've been turned down by the opposite sex or have turned down others yourself?

Most of the time it's been with just a simple no without much explanation. I have used God as a reason too. One was legitimate because I felt Him giving my the red light to dating at the time, and the other time was when I was in a bad place of being backslid I guess.

 

[Unofficial Reverand Alex]

For the most part, it's a situation of girls just wanting to be friends.
By far, my most interesting rejection was when a girl said that God told her she needed to be single for awhile. (What do I say to that????) I was happy that she was looking to & listening to God, although it is still a little disappointing, and strange, especially because He told me to ask her out. Weird stuff...

 

[ThisIsMe123]

For the most part, it's a situation of girls just wanting to be friends.
By far, my most interesting rejection was when a girl said that God told her she needed to be single for awhile. (What do I say to that????) I was happy that she was looking to & listening to God, although it is still a little disappointing, and strange, especially because He told me to ask her out. Weird stuff...

I think this is why some dudes are willing to date the not-so overly religious women. So they know they can't use God as an excuse.

On the other hand, if they won't use God as an excuse, they can use other excuses. lol

 

[Servant68]

Dealing with it now...

Woman at work messaged me out of nowhere and asked me out for a drink.

I'm not attracted to her. She's nice and enjoyable to talk to, but there's no physical attraction on my part.

I agreed to meet with her and talk just in case there was a spark. We sat in a coffee shop for 3 hours and had a great conversation about relationships and high school (I graduated two years ahead of her and with her older sister). Nothing. Now she messages me constantly. I go hours without responding to her texts. Which is a bit rude but I think should be a clear indication I'm not interested. I would love to keep her as a friend and nothing more, but I don't know how to communicate that without hurting her.

I've pursued a couple of women and gotten the cold shoulder and was able to figure out they weren't interested. I didn't cry myself to sleep and they didn't have to get a restraining order... (sigh)

 

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[blackribbon]

A few years back, I had started to date via long distance. We saw each other at least every three months. Because of the distance, when we first started "dating", I had said that I didn't care if he dated other people but to just let me know by the time he went on a third date. After a year, I was considering moving closer to see if it had potential to grow if we had a more real life dating period. Before I made the decision to move, I moved into his town for a month. At this time, he did say he was interesting in see where this relationship would go. Three weeks before I was supposed to move and was trying to finalize my rental house, I asked him to drive by and check on something for me. He started saying weird stuff. After two days of weirdness, I just asked him flat out if he was dating someone else. He admitted that some girl from high school (he was in his 40s) had contacted him through FB and he had been talking to her for over a month and gone out a couple times....BUT they hadn't been on 3 dates yet... Umm, I meant that when we were first dating....I would have thought that saying that he did want me to move across the country would have been an indication that we had moved on to something more serious. ... Stupid me.

My kids and I still moved to a slightly different area because I had intended to move from the area my husband died. It was a good decision and I sort of believe that this guy was the hook that God used to get me off my butt and move, but I still think that it was slimey how he did this. But at least I found out early that he was lacking character.

 

[Southernscotty]

I have used the fact of God not wanting me to date a few times, because the Holy Spirit did not give me peace on the situation. I have been ask out several times and was so "uncomfortable" with it for some reason that I just wouldn't go.
So I just told that at this time I am focusing on "furthering" my walk with God and am not ready to date right now. I am comfortable alone and find that I like my alone time :]
Now with that said, "if" God sends the "ONE" then that's different and I am open to a loving relationship.

 

[PeachieKeen]

The one time I pursued a guy (that failed) he said "I just don't see you that way right now." For anybody reading this, if you don't have interest for that reason, exclude the "right now." Can really screw a girl up.

All the other guy friends I had said I was one of the guys, or like a sister, or one dude even told me unprovoked that I might be really cute if I wasn't so tall.

 

[MehGuy]

Usually my height is mentioned.. even by women I haven't or never intended to ask out.. "you're cute.. but you're so short..".. I visit some short man forums and this seems to be pretty common. Women love announcing that they prefer tall men.. sometimes going ahead of themselves and rejecting short men who aren't even into them. Yet often adding that if they weren't short they'd be into them. Not sure what the sadism angle is there.. guess the "you were so close yet not close enough" angle. Lol.

As for me, when a woman is interested in me and I'm not.. I just say no.. or ignore the situation. Often it's just best to be straight forward and say no.. instead of saying something that might come off the wrong way.. and give them some words to agonize over the "actual" meaning. Or if other people tell me a woman wants to go out with me.. I just drift away. Probably not the greatest way to go about it.. but it's not fun rejecting people.

As a general rule, I don't really view most people I meet in real life to be dating material. While they might like reading 50 Shades Of Grey.. and have their moments.. I highly doubt most of them would appreciate engaging in a real BDSM relationship.. doesn't matter if you look like Megan Fox.. it isn't going to work. might be a good way to let someone down although.. in real life that would probably be way too much TMI.. lol. Best just to stick to no.

 

[Trogdor the Burninator]

Best rejection ever

 

[ThisIsMe123]

A few years back, I had started to date via long distance. We saw each other at least every three months. Because of the distance, when we first started "dating", I had said that I didn't care if he dated other people but to just let me know by the time he went on a third date. After a year, I was considering moving closer to see if it had potential to grow if we had a more real life dating period. Before I made the decision to move, I moved into his town for a month. At this time, he did say he was interesting in see where this relationship would go. Three weeks before I was supposed to move and was trying to finalize my rental house, I asked him to drive by and check on something for me. He started saying weird stuff. After two days of weirdness, I just asked him flat out if he was dating someone else. He admitted that some girl from high school (he was in his 40s) had contacted him through FB and he had been talking to her for over a month and gone out a couple times....BUT they hadn't been on 3 dates yet... Umm, I meant that when we were first dating....I would have thought that saying that he did want me to move across the country would have been an indication that we had moved on to something more serious. ... Stupid me.

My kids and I still moved to a slightly different area because I had intended to move from the area my husband died. It was a good decision and I sort of believe that this guy was the hook that God used to get me off my butt and move, but I still think that it was slimey how he did this. But at least I found out early that he was lacking character.

Yeah, sorry to hear that...I've heard quite a few "I moved to be with my b/f / g/f" and a month later, they dump the person that moved to be with them.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Usually my height is mentioned.. even by women I haven't or never intended to ask out.. "you're cute.. but you're so short..".. I visit some short man forums and this seems to be pretty common. Women love announcing that they prefer tall men.. sometimes going ahead of themselves and rejecting short men who aren't even into them. Yet often adding that if they weren't short they'd be into them. Not sure what the sadism angle is there.. guess the "you were so close yet not close enough" angle. Lol..

What's really sad is, women that are notably shorter than you, but...factor in the 4 to 5-inch high heels they like to wear into THEIR own height.

they could be 5'4", but if they wear 4" heels, that'd put them at eye level with me (I'm 5'8") and gosh forbid, they can't have that! lol

Or a 5'0" woman that will ONLY date a man 6 feet or taller.

I figured short women would date short men, right? You'd think...yes?!

That's why it's best for a short guy to get on those Filipina online dating sites, there are women there that are even UNDER 5 feet. lol. Plus, they don't care about that stuff anyhow.

 

[blackribbon]

Yeah, sorry to hear that...I've heard quite a few "I moved to be with my b/f / g/f" and a month later, they dump the person that moved to be with them.

I was going to move. The where was decided related to this relationship but wasn't the reason I moved. God must have really picked the placed because it isn't one that was on my radar. However we have thrived here and I love my area. The move was good in spite of the dump.

 

[exitstageright]

What's really sad is, women that are notably shorter than you, but...factor in the 4 to 5-inch high heels they like to wear into THEIR own height.

they could be 5'4", but if they wear 4" heels, that'd put them at eye level with me (I'm 5'8") and gosh forbid, they can't have that! lol

Or a 5'0" woman that will ONLY date a man 6 feet or taller.

I figured short women would date short men, right? You'd think...yes?!

That's why it's best for a short guy to get on those Filipina online dating sites, there are women there that are even UNDER 5 feet. lol. Plus, they don't care about that stuff anyhow.

AMEN! I could not have said it better myself. I am living proof. The first long term relationship, that I had, was with a Filipina, who accepted me for me.

 

[timewerx]

That's why it's best for a short guy to get on those Filipina online dating sites, there are women there that are even UNDER 5 feet. lol. Plus, they don't care about that stuff anyhow.

Why does everyone thinks Filipinas are your 'last-ditch' option when everything else fails?

Why not go to the Philippines and see for yourself

Filipinas are some of the nicest, humble, forgiving women I've come across with. They may appear like snubs because greetings aren't strong in the culture and due to the very difficult and high crime rate 3rd world environment they grew up in, they don't trust anyone easily. But if you are sincere and gain their trust, they won't give you a hard time.

The easy Western life breeds a culture of entitlement and expectation of personal rewards which is the opposite quality of humility and is unbiblical / false teaching. What Christ teaches is the opposite.

I'm not entirely blaming Western upbringing as this is entirely up to the person. But a person who claims to be a Christian have a responsibility / accountability to know and understand who Jesus Christ really is. And such person would not use the standards of this world to judge a person.

 

[blackribbon]

You have to go to the Philippines to meet lovely Filipinas. My hospital unit is probably is half Filipino nurses.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

You have to go to the Philippines to meet lovely Filipinas. My hospital unit is probably is half Filipino nurses.

I've noticed that, too, a lot of them in the medical field....Or just meet them while they are working in hospitals here in the states.

 

[timewerx]

I've noticed that, too, a lot of them in the medical field....Or just meet them while they are working in hospitals here in the states.

They are favored particularly in hospitals due to excellent work ethics, highly reliable, and calm under pressure.

It's something you learn growing up in a poor country in poverty. You can't always have things the way you want, you can't take things for granted, and you need to work hard to get good things life.

A life of poverty (by 3rd world standards which is a lot worse) also gets you a different perspective. To many, a US citizenship would make them very very happy. They don't really have high expectations and easy to cheer, finds contentment easily.

I'm not saying that Western upbringing is bad. But a lot can be done with proper parenting and actually applying CORRECT Christian theology to the upbringing of the child.

There many Christian parents who assume they are teaching Christian principles to their kids but are actually worldly principles. If what you know sounds quite agreeable to the worldly teachings, then it's more likely such "Christian teaching" is taken out of context or misinterpreted.

 

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There many Christian parents who assume they are teaching Christian principles to their kids but are actually worldly principles.

Can you give any examples?