How do I get my friends to stop avoiding me?

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I'm curious as to how you could forget your friend's names? I can see how being touched and tickled could be annoying. People need their personal space and touching and tickling is an invasion of that space. You need to respect personal boundaries and use vocal cues instead.
 
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I'm curious as to how you could forget your friend's names? I can see how being touched and tickled could be annoying. People need their personal space and touching and tickling is an invasion of that space. You need to respect personal boundaries and use vocal cues instead.

I just don't know what to say to them and I don't tickle and touch them anymore
 
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I'm sick and tired my friends avoiding me all because I try to touch them and tickle them. I was just joking. They avoid me all because I touch them. I was just getting their attention when I forget their names.

How do I get them to stop avoiding me and how do I get them to come back to church?

I would rather show up at their jobs and ask Them how they're doing.
Stop touching them. If you are doing something that annoys people, stop.
 
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I just don't know what to say to them and I don't tickle and touch them anymore
Apologize to them and let it go. If they were truly your friends they will eventually get back to you but always keep your hands to yourself.
 
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I'm sick and tired my friends avoiding me all because I try to touch them and tickle them. I was just joking. They avoid me all because I touch them. I was just getting their attention when I forget their names.

.....wut??
 
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I'm sick and tired my friends avoiding me all because I try to touch them and tickle them. I was just joking. They avoid me all because I touch them. I was just getting their attention when I forget their names.

How do I get them to stop avoiding me and how do I get them to come back to church?

I would rather show up at their jobs and ask Them how they're doing.

Why do you want to talk to these particular people so badly?
 
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I'm sick and tired my friends avoiding me all because I try to touch them and tickle them. I was just joking. They avoid me all because I touch them. I was just getting their attention when I forget their names.

How do I get them to stop avoiding me and how do I get them to come back to church?

I would rather show up at their jobs and ask Them how they're doing.
I don't want this to sound cold, I am just being honest and blunt. What makes you think you have the right to put your hands on them at all? My wife is allowed to touch me, I have had people pat me on the back, shake my hand, hug me when appropriate. But if an adult came up to me and started tickling me I would feel extremely uncomfortable and I would ask them to stop. I am 51 years old, being 'tickled' ended in grade school... maybe some jokes in middle or high school... but the end of that example is "it ended in school."

Do you want to repair the damage? Fix the friendships? I would call or write and ask them to forgive you for placing your hands on them and let them know that now you know that crossed a boundary line. I would accept that kind of apology, I am sure they would as well. :)
 
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I don't want this to sound cold, I am just being honest and blunt. What makes you think you have the right to put your hands on them at all? My wife is allowed to touch me, I have had people pat me on the back, shake my hand, hug me when appropriate. But if an adult came up to me and started tickling me I would feel extremely uncomfortable and I would ask them to stop. I am 51 years old, being 'tickled' ended in grade school... maybe some jokes in middle or high school... but the end of that example is "it ended in school."

Do you want to repair the damage? Fix the friendships? I would call or write and ask them to forgive you for placing your hands on them and let them know that now you know that crossed a boundary line. I would accept that kind of apology, I am sure they would as well. :)

OK I understand how you feel about the touching and the tickling
 
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OK I will

I bet you love going to church, and I bet you already know that Jesus died for your sins.

But I'm going to tell you a secret that nobody is talking about these days, and it's going to be the best news that you ever heard!

I know what it feels like to not have any friends, and I know what it feels like to be misunderstood by everyone around you. But do you know what is special about people like us?

God set us apart from the world, and that's why nobody likes us. But I like you, and God loves you even more than I ever could.

I know you are feeling sorry right now, for everything. You are thinking about all the bad stuff you've ever done, and beating yourself up over it.

The good news is, God WANTS you to be sorry, AND he WANTS you to be lonely, looking for someone to be your friend. Because THAT'S when you're ready to be saved.

Right now it would be very easy for you to go to God and say that you're sorry, that you want to change your mind about doing bad things sometimes, but you need His help because you can't always stop yourself. You already believe in Jesus Christ as your savior, now it is time to accept the gift of forgiveness.

You don't have to ask Him to forgive you every morning and every night ANY MORE, because He's trying to tell you right now He already forgave you a long time ago. For everything.

If Jesus forgives you, are you a better Judge than Him? No, of course not! Me either! So you have to forgive yourself now too for doing those things.

That's the only way to ever be saved, ever. You'll know you did it right because you will cry first, and then you will laugh. And then you will feel warmth spreading in your chest and He will comfort you just like Hes been wanting to do all along
 
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