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Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Lanae, Dec 6, 2017.

  1. *LILAC

    *LILAC Well-Known Member

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    I'm curious as to how you could forget your friend's names? I can see how being touched and tickled could be annoying. People need their personal space and touching and tickling is an invasion of that space. You need to respect personal boundaries and use vocal cues instead.
     
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  2. StillGods

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    Don't touch people... I don't like it when other people touch me, especially not tickling etc..cringe.
     
  3. Lanae

    Lanae New Member

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    I just don't know what to say to them and I don't tickle and touch them anymore
     
  4. Yarddog

    Yarddog Senior Contributor Supporter

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    Stop touching them. If you are doing something that annoys people, stop.
     
  5. Yarddog

    Yarddog Senior Contributor Supporter

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    Apologize to them and let it go. If they were truly your friends they will eventually get back to you but always keep your hands to yourself.
     
  6. THE W

    THE W BORN APRIL 29TH 2012

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    .....wut??
     
  7. Bible Believing Gentiles

    Bible Believing Gentiles New Member

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    Why do you want to talk to these particular people so badly?
     
  8. Lanae

    Lanae New Member

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    OK I will
     
  9. Lanae

    Lanae New Member

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    I don't know maybe I want to know more about them
     
  10. Bible Believing Gentiles

    Bible Believing Gentiles New Member

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    Why do you want to know more about them?
     
  11. Ken Rank

    Ken Rank Well-Known Member

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    I don't want this to sound cold, I am just being honest and blunt. What makes you think you have the right to put your hands on them at all? My wife is allowed to touch me, I have had people pat me on the back, shake my hand, hug me when appropriate. But if an adult came up to me and started tickling me I would feel extremely uncomfortable and I would ask them to stop. I am 51 years old, being 'tickled' ended in grade school... maybe some jokes in middle or high school... but the end of that example is "it ended in school."

    Do you want to repair the damage? Fix the friendships? I would call or write and ask them to forgive you for placing your hands on them and let them know that now you know that crossed a boundary line. I would accept that kind of apology, I am sure they would as well. :)
     
  12. CGL1023

    CGL1023 citizen of heaven

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    Nothing more than your prayers needed.
     
  13. Lanae

    Lanae New Member

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    Idk
     
  14. Lanae

    Lanae New Member

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    OK I understand how you feel about the touching and the tickling
     
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  15. Bible Believing Gentiles

    Bible Believing Gentiles New Member

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    Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?
     
  16. Lanae

    Lanae New Member

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    yes. I pray every morning
     
  17. Ken Rank

    Ken Rank Well-Known Member

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    I would think you'll find that most adults feel this way. :)
     
  18. Bible Believing Gentiles

    Bible Believing Gentiles New Member

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    I believe you. But if I might ask, could you tell me about when you got saved, and how you knew that you were saved then and there?
     
  19. Bible Believing Gentiles

    Bible Believing Gentiles New Member

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    I bet you love going to church, and I bet you already know that Jesus died for your sins.

    But I'm going to tell you a secret that nobody is talking about these days, and it's going to be the best news that you ever heard!

    I know what it feels like to not have any friends, and I know what it feels like to be misunderstood by everyone around you. But do you know what is special about people like us?

    God set us apart from the world, and that's why nobody likes us. But I like you, and God loves you even more than I ever could.

    I know you are feeling sorry right now, for everything. You are thinking about all the bad stuff you've ever done, and beating yourself up over it.

    The good news is, God WANTS you to be sorry, AND he WANTS you to be lonely, looking for someone to be your friend. Because THAT'S when you're ready to be saved.

    Right now it would be very easy for you to go to God and say that you're sorry, that you want to change your mind about doing bad things sometimes, but you need His help because you can't always stop yourself. You already believe in Jesus Christ as your savior, now it is time to accept the gift of forgiveness.

    You don't have to ask Him to forgive you every morning and every night ANY MORE, because He's trying to tell you right now He already forgave you a long time ago. For everything.

    If Jesus forgives you, are you a better Judge than Him? No, of course not! Me either! So you have to forgive yourself now too for doing those things.

    That's the only way to ever be saved, ever. You'll know you did it right because you will cry first, and then you will laugh. And then you will feel warmth spreading in your chest and He will comfort you just like Hes been wanting to do all along
     
  20. Stormy

    Stormy Senior Contributor

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    You crave human connection. I am sorry but after a certain age people do not want unwarranted touching. Get a pet
     
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